I’ve heard stories of ex partners using their kids to try and control their new relationship…
Depends honestly, every time I tried dating a woman who had 100% custody of their kids it never worked out. Without fail, the woman starts to feel guilty about all the time she is spending with me and not with her kids.
As for me, I mean I am trying to spend time with mom and not the kids... those are not my kids. I am not getting involve with someone else's kids unless I am 100% certain that I am into the relationship for right reasons and long haul. Which honestly, between work and kids it was too complicated to figure out.
But if this guy doesn't have 100% custody over the kids, and he only see it ones or twice month it should not be that big of deal honestly. But most these women do not want their ex-husbands involved with their kids... maybe they losers or maybe they are not... but kids without dads are rough honestly. I ain't trying to be their dad, because they are not my kid.
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It depends on a lot of things. Mainly how does he get along w his ex? Because yes it can be one hell of a ride. Will you be allowed to discipline the child? Will you be able to do things w the child? It can be a real headache honestly. The kids will always come first so you may be competing there. The mother may say bad things about you to the kids who really don’t know any better other than to believe what mom says. Which will make it harder for you. I remember when I first met my current girlfriend we went through a lot. My ex would say let’s me up so you can take your son. So I’d show up early, she’d be late but I couldn’t say a damn thing cause she’d blow up at me. But if I was late damn it was like the world was ending.
Depends how long they have been separated for? Don’t want a recently divorced individual and them turning around saying I need time then finding someone new in a couple weeks. I had this happen to me so trust me I can give you my insight on this.
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Unless they are divorced, that’s a major red flag, and best to avoid that mess
I would not date someone who is only separated.
Only if you're in the same situation.
Hmm depends
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