Why do men think by fighting they get to have the girls?

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our girls night out finished early because the club we were at there was a big fight, a couple tried it on with some of us and a fightbroke out between memders

DeviousD · Accepted Answer

This belief has very deep, entrenched origins within our genetical code, far surpassing even our earliest of ancestors belonging to the homosapien race of hominoid. You see the theme of your question has it's roots in the very distant primal past concerning instinct & the ways of the wild & how our distant primal relatives engaged in survival & reproduction.

An example I can point to to illustrate the context of this concept I am suggesting that may be the underlying basis providing such actions modern day men continue to participate in is the life of a gorilla clan. Basically it consists of one bad ass gorilla called the silverback gorilla, you see this is the mega Chad of the gorilla's, that one guy that treats girls like shit but they can't help themselves from becoming smitten with anything he does. Unlike human, gym rat, black belt holding human Chad with his large biceps with tribal tattoos, six pack abs, chiseled jaw, with green eyes & thick full head of black wavy hair who up to this point has always backed up his shit talking. The silverback gorilla has the gorilla version of all of those traits, but the fact that he is undefeated provides him with unlimited access to all of the lady gorilla's who will remain loyal to that silverback until an even more super mega Chad gorilla comes along & either murders the original Chad by ripping him to shreds or forced him to retreat far away from his clan of sister wives destined to die alone & depressed becoming a reddit moderator.

Now the new silverback is tasked with reproductive duties. The reason this occurs in this fashion is for selective breeding purposes to ensure the species, & furthermore the bloodline of the biggest, baddest, & most conditioned is propagated to adorn the species overall with a much greater chance of survival. Deep down like the lady gorilla's the lady humans instinctively correlate an ability to fight with survival & protection, while at the same time Chad humans deep down instinctively correlate an ability to survive & protect with unlimited badunkadunks & lovely lady lumps. Therefore that idea you described is there as a genetic program which demonstrated truth to the equation of good fighter=clans of sister wives with badunkadunks. With time & separation from that original evolutionary concept that idea & it's impact of instinctually induced attraction becomes less & less until McLovin type of dudes become just as attractive as the mega chads observing my description above.

I hope that helps explain it in a clear fashion so that you were able to gain some insight & understanding concerning your question. Take Care & play fair.

Texaskid1 · Accepted Answer

Many men are possessive of women but for pride reasons. A young man will feel disrespected if some other guy hits on or even looks at his women because he thinks that others will think him a cuck if he does nothing about it. I can see this happening at 20 when a guy has more oxygen in his dick then his brain. but if you are middle aged then it needs to stop ASAP. At my age I would never lose my cool over a piece of ass simply because I have learned several things ; 1) pussy comes and pussy goes. The women never belongs to a man - it is only his turn. 2) It's raining pussy out there - if one women says no or walks there is always some other piece of ass just around the corner some where. 3) Overall , women are just not very interesting. If you remove sex from the equation there is not much most women can offer me. I enjoy being alone and nearly all of my most interesting conversations regarding politics , science , history etc. are with other guys. When a woman is "interested" in a man what she is really looking for are resources - if the guys is funny or good looking or listens to her is secondary for her needs - she wants a provider that will give her food , water , shelter , protection from others and provide for any potential offspring. Men still provide this in most places although many times it is now done via threats and coercion where women will use the power of the state to extract these resources (think child support and alimony).

MonicaWills · Accepted Answer

Indeed, boys mostly like to play fighting games! But, you know, girls too,

Fighting games are not limited to boys.

Sometimes boys think that to be a real man, they have to be strong, and they have to prove it to everyone.

Prove your own strength. So, they mistakenly chose to prove it by fighting.

Boys like to play fighting games, war games. They imitate heroes from movies or cartoons.

They compete with other people to see if their muscles are strong, of course, they want to be stronger than others

People have more muscles!

In this way, they can see what they are capable of doing and how far they can go. he

They will redefine their boundaries and learn to follow the rules of the game.

You see, playing fighting games isn't necessarily a bad thing.

You tell me this fight game makes you upset 'cause you think these boys

After playing crazy, it will become more exciting. It's going to scare you girls because

These boys are so rude. You have a point. Sometimes, due to their unskilled, stupid

Clumsiness leads to crossing the line in the game, injuring oneself or hurting others. They haven't learned how to control

Control your own strength. At this time, adults should stop them and blow the whistle for the end of the game!

Besides, Ines, real fights do exist. Unlike "pretend" fighting games,

Real fights will have elements of aggression and violence. When some boys and girls feel they are being

When insulted, hurt, or betrayed, real fights happen. they no longer know

How to communicate, the first reaction is to solve it by fighting. They can no longer control their emotions

Emotions: fear, anger...

Of course, these actual fights are forbidden. Whether children or adults, each of us

People must abide by the rules so that they can live in harmony with each other and respect each other instead of putting themselves

at risk.

Jessica405 · Accepted Answer

There is a situation in psychology called "let you and him fight". Two guys are so preoccupied in fighting over a girl, they fail to see her walk off with another guy. All people that fight in this scenario are losers.

Bethany22 · Answer

Because men aren't as afraid of conflict as women are. I guess it's the same kind of thing as asking why do women think that competing with other women will get them the guy. Obviously, wearing different clothes or hairstyles isn't going to make him start wanting one of them more. I guess in the primitive days, men were allowed to kill each other, and then the remaining guy would get the girl. But even though laws are in place now prohibiting men from killing, men instinctively do not realize that there is now no point in fighting.

Guy13 · Answer

What happened to the old days when grab her by the hair into the cave 🤷🏻‍♂️

Rosexøxø · Answer

Well they can fight, but they better be good at not fighting me.. lol loving, and communication skills are helpful.

AviatorTom · Answer

That's a carry-over from the Middle Ages where the knights would fight over the fair maiden, with the winner getting the lady.

Avicenna · Answer

That’s a matter if lack of impulse control

RavVid · Answer

Some girls do actually want men to fight for them. I was out with a girl and apparently some guys said something rude about her. I didn't hear it but she was livid I didn't fight them for her. Even if I had heard it I wouldn't have fought for her honor because she was a slut and that was exactly why I had taken her out.

Know a girl who had 3 boyfriends until they all turned up to her house and waited for her to return. One of them just said what he thought of her and left. The other two had a fight and she just went with the winner.

Craftsman · Answer

Long story short: I don't think that way. If it takes a fight to win the woman, I'm in the wrong place. If the woman or girl thinks it's necessary to fight over her, she's not for me.

My thought has always been that fighting leads to stinky sweating, which I would think would drive the girl away. Another facet, and this is mainly my set of values, is that any girl or woman who promotes such a confrontation between any two humans is of little value in my life. If she chooses a partner or a mate based on that kind of contest, I can tell immediately her values and mine are not compatible. Best we would go find someone with whom we could talk and one whose values are similar to mine.

It seems to me that testosterone sometimes drives the primitive urge to compete, and history can be shown to support that societal norm. I think it's about time we became a bit more mature and charmed the woman rather than slugging it out with a rival.

Backnforth · Answer

There are a few contributing factors. When guys are around girls they are attracted to, their testosterone levels can spike which makes them more prone to fighting.

Another thing is the idea that violence makes a guy manly, which guys are told by both other guys and plenty of girls too. So to show off, like a peacock strutting around, they fight to try and attract a mate.

And then there is male possessiveness, where guys want to lay claim to women. If another guy comes in to take what's "theirs", they will fight because of some kind of entitlement or sense of ownership (she's MINE), regardless of what the woman actually thinks or says she wants.

Guys who behave like this are just the jackasses among us with the mental capabilities of a caveman.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

simple! because you women are attracted to violent men. when I was in high school I remember I worked as a cashier in a ghetto corner store and I once got the hottest girl in the hood drool over me when I caught a shoplifter and lost my temper on his ass.

speaking of your experience I literally seen women at clubs, launges and other venues flock to the jerkoff who look/behave like they would start a fight over nothing and I wonder why? oh I know, because violent men are useful to you all! its these men that solve all of your problems and give you all the excitement you all lack in life

lightbulb27 · Answer

its about respect and mating rights, just like all other animals... but at age 50 this is going on? Good grief, noone is going to produce an offspring at this point. next time just let them suckle off your nipples instead of bottles, so there is peace in the land.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I would never fight over a girl unless the person was saying or doing something to her to disrespect her.

However, if the girl is in the middle instigating things the other guy can have her. Not about to put up with crap like that from her or the guy. I would just walk away and say you can have the trophy she's not worth it to me.

ZackBan · Answer

It's drilled into our heads from childhood.
In stories the hero always fights the bad guy and wins the heart of the girl in dowing so.
It's done in movies, cartoons, shows, even mythology taught in school.

I don't know how old the guys fighting over you were but I do think that every new generation does this less and less.

Cartouk · Answer

Because sometimes it does.(I've met a few chicks who got off on that shit and would purposely instigate guys into fighting over them and then go home with the winner) Plus as guys we're both competitive and combative by nature (Testosterone is a bitch like that), add in the alcohol, the flood of hormones from the possibility of sex with a beautiful woman, and the residual cave-man instincts and voila you have the perfect recipe for a bar fight.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Those with power win… win means any things. Power means many things. Power is money, physical strength, charisma… winning means to get the prize whatever your after.

Furthermore your far too arrogant thinking men fight “to get the girls”. Your not the only thought on our minds. Why can’t women decide what they want for dinner? Why can’t women drive?

raven6933 · Answer

That was your first mistake. Too much alcohol automatically raises the testosterone levels. Which always leads to bullet proof and then feet tall. I don't do well with drunks. My tolerance for stupid drunks is at an all time low. However when I did visit bars there was never any problems. If you wanna have a peaceful night out then might I suggest a park or anywhere else that doesn't serve alcohol to anyone under forty😆. It's almost always the young dumb ones.

OpenWater1675 · Answer

Depends on the girl. I’ve had pals knock a guy out because the guy was an idiot and had it coming. It had nothing to do with the girl but they wear nearby. One girl called him a dumb Neanderthal while a couple just stayed at him mockingly. They get off on that.

Others, know what type of girls like this. Naturally, some stupidly assume this is an attractive thing, but it depends on the girl and the situation. I find a lot of girls go after the guy that walks away or makes a joke at the other guys’ expense over knocking him out.

It’s all situational but depends on the situation and the person involved. Most guys dong fight unless they’re drunk or under 25.

Miristheiss · Answer

Who cares.

Women out in clubs drinking, flirting and dancing with players until 3am.

Guys out drinking, getting into fights, chasing loose women.

Both groups of people represent some less attractive parts of our society. Let the blind lead the blind.

Phoenix98 · Answer

While I’m more then aquatinted with the concept of letting your fists do the talking I ain’t ever met a woman that was worth getting into a brawl over 😐.

Its different if someone is messing with or disrespecting your partner or something like that.

But as far as fighting with a guy over some woman in a bar? I ain’t indulging in that nonsense and I can’t say I know any men who’d fight over one either.

Luopio27 · Answer

There are always few of those girls who enjoy guys fighting over them. They are narcistic and sadistic low lives that are not worth anything no matter how pretty they are. Girls like these give all the rest a bad name, just like those gaslighters and false acusators of rape.

Not saying all men are angels. There are also many men that are just as bad as the evil females I just mentioned.

Vegasrunner · Answer

Just goes back to primitive nature, because in reality it actually works w/ the theory being I beat up your man and take you as man. In modern society it's not going to be as effective however there will always be high a percentage of woman attracted to strength, power and dominance.

TJ1892 · Answer

Ngl I'm not a straight guy, but I have mainly female friends and they find my arguments and fights hilarious more often or not, I got caked not long ago 🥴🤣🙈 But with straight dudes it's because they all think they are mike tyson and that women will find them really irresistible *in their imaginations*🤣 If they prove how tough they are👌🤣🤣

Dav1dTh0ma389 · Answer

Isn't that how animals are

In fact, in the lion world, if the male gets challenged by another male, and the current male loses, the challenging male, not only gets to kill the previous males offspring, but, the new one now is the leader of the pack, and the old one, if he survives the fight, is kicked out

Pohjolan · Answer

Its dipping culture.

One guy says that he has dips on some gal or gals and when some other guy doesn't respect his claim he either has to fight him or accept his lack of authority over said guy.

The necessity to prepare for combat is for men a reality of seeking a mate in clubs/bars.

Pro tip: A broken glass bottle can be used to cut your opponents throat open.

Jennz6 · Answer

Stupid guys like that think when they get drunk they will fight for a girl? Was it a Strip Club? 💃

Anonymous · Answer

Because...

Stressyalaire · Answer

Sad to say but I have had a guy friend ask me this. Would she be impressed and want to be with me if I beat up her boyfriend? No joke. Had to slap some sense into him.

inhua · Answer

men are always in constant competition with one another. even male feminists who claim to hate competition would gladly engage in character assassinations as their method of competing

Qdbrown · Answer

Because it's true. Women love prove. defenders. Have you ever noticed all the single women standing in line at prisons to meet tough guys? Women also dig scars.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Boys know that girls like it when boys fight each other for them.

Soremain · Answer

It's not that guys think girls want or like that, it's just that they see the other male as a threat and they want to eliminate the competition.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Alcohol, and testosterone are flowing... plus, there's always some woman who likes to start talking shit because it makes her feel powerful to get people fighting.

Anonymous · Answer

I remember beating up the guy my ex was dating. As I left I shouted out of my car for her to get her fat ass in, she did, still pissed at me we had angry sex and she soaked my car seats

genericname85 · Answer

well cause they do. ever seen women going crazy for a wimp who gets beat up and can't stand their ground? of course i'm not speaking about a guy with anger management issues who gets into fights easily. that's a different story.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Guys that have to prove their worth by beating up another person are immature. And so are those women who want such men

serious · Answer

That is because there are men who think of women as a trophy which they need to win so that their male ego is satisfied.

blueonblack22 · Answer

At a DNA level women are subconsciously attracted to violent men they “feel” can protect them. It’s about dominance.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Because girls always choose the winners. When women stop choosing men who win fights, men will stop fighting over them. Your move.

exitseven · Answer

There are just guys that love to fight. It really was never my thing. I always tell people I am not a violent man. I just lived through some violent times.

sheenagwapa · Answer

men easily fight with each other even just by bad look they get triggered so add girls on the menu all the more they have more reasons to fight

StormMistress · Answer

Because they think we’re prizes to be won. As Jasmine said in Aladdin.

jshm2 · Answer

It's the opposite, whoever is unlucky enough to be left standing ; has to end up with one of you.

Raaj4you · Answer

Hooligans!!!

Some women like men who are rude, aggressive, talkative, muscular and loud mouths.

Some women like soft good guys. We are living in a civilized society, intelligence is more important than muscle power.

WellGreetingsISay · Answer

It's a certain type of guy that thinks like that. I often think those aren't the guys you want.

Billlewis · Answer

I think a lot of women become very aroused when they see guys fighting.

supercutebutt · Answer

Lots of men get seduced into thinking violence is the answer. It's not.

emmaa1 · Answer

I guess men like to fight, and we like to think they fight to win us.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Physical strength is all they have :D Some boys simply have missed important sequences of evolution.

Mangospacho · Answer

Duels work. Let’s be realistic.  Exhibit A: I rest my case.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Males do it in the wild outside of society to gain territory, show loyalty for their crown and to attempt to impress their prospective mate. Or it’s the hard bar they drank

elizamichale1 · Answer

Coz they want to look brave n sum super manly kind infront of us

loveslongnails · Answer

Those Brit bar boys are known to fight at the drop of a hat, especially when they're drinking and definitely over a pretty woman like you!

McKellar · Answer

I'm a guy and I don't even know the answer to this. If those ladies are going after the guys who love to fight all the time, they're going after those type of men for all of the wrong reasons.

Twalli · Answer

If a guy fights another guy, it may be over a girl. The winner gets to take the first shot at asking her out. We don't talk it out and decide who asks her out first, we use our bodies.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Because they are fools. You don't have to fight for someone that desires to be in your life because if they deeply desire to be with you then nothing can stop them.

Fireguy17 · Answer

because they are idiots, and probably were drinking which never helps the cause at all.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Lack of brain cells?  You know, from all the fighting...

12karen · Answer

Because, in my opinion, to them, girls are treasure that can be won and don't care about what girl though.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I only fight when it is absolutely necessary. I never fought over a girl but I'd fight to protect her.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Cause there fucking idiots that haven't learn that men don't pick the girl the girl picks the man that she wants to be with and no matter how hard they fight it won't sway her decision

Justneedtokno · Answer

I’ve learned it’s not really about the woman. It’s about pride

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