Since girls have the power to choose the men they want, why do they complain when a relationship goes bad?

[Anonymous]

Perhaps be objective, looking for good, thoughtful answers.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Women fall for a lot of bullshit my dude. I've seen guys that use formulaic lines like "I'm thinking I want you to have my babies" and "I see us being so happy together when we're old," and the girl just falls backwards with her legs up in the air for the guy even though it's obvious the guy just wants to fuck. I think I would call the strategy "feed them the dream and keep them hoping."

But yeah... I'm in the same camp of "Perhaps be objective, looking for good, thoughtful answers." These chicks are not taught how to vet a guy 9 times out of 10... probably because there wasn't a no-bullshit Dad in the house telling her what kinds of bullshit a guy will say to her just to get the panties to drop.

[Guy13]

Probably because she did not examine both sides of the hypergamous coin before choosing alpha, thick wallet, ambitious, and physical attraction. She hit the lotto so what more could she want 🤷🏻‍♂️.

I didn’t know he would be so distance and never share. He’s always looking at other girls plus chooses his friends over me. I can’t believe he postponed our date for overtime…. it’s not like he needs to work overtime.
I thought he would be good relationship material, boy was I wrong.”

No answer, besides her expectations were shattered and complaining is an accomplished woman skill set.

[AmyHew1tt]

The same can be said both ways, you know. Most women really want to believe in love, and that the men they're with love them. It's not often willing blindness that makes them miss the red flags, just hope.

And many abusers/manipulators/narcissists hide those red flags until it's too late, men and women. The rotten part can turn up at any time: the second date, three months in, a year, a few years. Unless the guy is holding a sign up saying, " ONE DAY I WILL BEAT YOU, " she isn't going to know. There are smaller hints, of course. But in the first flush of infatuation, men and women both tend not to see them.

[Anemone978]

Because some of us can't choose the men we want so we settle for less and hate the guy for it when its not his fault...

[coachTanthony]

They simply see the red flags and ignore them because the guy was tall and had blue eyes. It's really that simple.

[Asker]

yes, if you deny all the red flags, I believe you have no right to complain about what happens afterward. It's even true for myself.

[Ghostykill3r]

I can't speak on behalf of every woman, or on behalf of every man, but I'd say that even though it seems like women have the power to choose any man, that's not really true. Because a lot of men think it's true, many will hide their true selves or lie about who they are on order to seem more attractive or more compatible with a woman, then once the woman commits to this man the man will typically start to show their true selves which is not what the woman signed on for.

[Asker]

perhaps true

[TheSpaceGnome]

Accurate.

[slatyb]

Be objective? Your premise is absurd. A woman can't pick whatever man she wants anymore than a man can pick any woman he wants. When I was dating online I would never consider about 95% of the women on the site in my age range. I had first dates with multiple women who wanted another date but I wasn't interested. I expect that you aren't interested in over 95% of the women you meet -- too old, too whatever. You don't think about it because they are invisible to you.

[mateta_haidara]

I find 95% somewhat attractive physically, but I find 95% kinda unattractive personality-wise.

[slatyb]

At 26? Are you still in school? Because if you are out on the world there's no way you find 95% of the women you meet attractive. Half will be too old. Oh, they don't count?

[Asker]

I think maybe the situation gets different as people ages.

[mateta_haidara]

I am actually 23 and I still do some studies. Even in my workplace women in their 30s and 40s are somewhat attractive. There is even a woman in her late 50s who has a very toned body.

[slatyb]

@mateta_haidara "Even in my workplace women in their 30's and 40's are somewhat attractive" How many? Most? Half? A few?

[mateta_haidara]

Most are. When you see most of them, you'd think "I'd do her given the chance".

[Rockstarrrrr]

A lot of people actually play you and show their true colors later.. even friends do that... the annoying thing is... many girls ignore the big signs and red flags and walk out too late and then be like... Oh my Gaaawd.. I can't believe this !! ... I need cuddles...

[Asker]

perhaps true

[Razp_Sorbet]

And men don't have the power to choose who they want? 🤨 You really out here just getting with any girl who will give you the time of day?

[Asker]

As a guy, you can ask anyone out true, but men's success rates on average are very low. However, women are very less likely to get rejected. Women can easily jump their league upwards. I know that those stats may look different on a long/short-term dating basis. But as a girl, if you want to hook up with someone you can do that irrespective of your looks but most guys don't have the privilege.
I am asking this question based on a recent event, one girl that I knew for some time was complaining. She went out at night for a casual ride with a guy, then went to his apartment, they even watched porn together, but when the guy wanted to have sex she freaked out somehow but they still had sex and she was feeling bad about it. That guy already had a terrible reputation.

[Razp_Sorbet]

That isn't exactly true and where it does apply it's not for good reasons. Women being used as a literal sex object isn't something to be envious of.

I don't know what the exact circumstances of the situation was but any person has the right to say no to sex even if something sexual took place prior. Just because they watched porn together doesn't mean that they HAD to have sex.

[Paul09]

For men it's like playing the lotto. Keep trying to win it. Low chances.

[Razp_Sorbet]

@Paul09 except it's not like playing the lotto. Everyone has the same chance of winning the lotto and your chances don't change if you change your numbers.

I. e if you change how you treat and approach people you'd probably have better luck.

[Paul09]

Like example, some people have charisma, some people don't. The people with charisma will have a way better chance. Then there's some that were born good looking , over some that are less good looking. Again one has way better chances.

[Razp_Sorbet]

@Paul09 yes.. you just proved my point.

[HNicole19]

Cause a lot of times that man changes from the beginning

[Asker]

I am asking this question based on a recent event, one girl that I knew for some time was complaining. She went out at night for a casual ride with a guy, then went to his apartment, they even watched porn together, but when the guy wanted to have sex she freaked out somehow but they still had sex and she was feeling bad about it. That guy already had a terrible reputation.

[Shamalien]

Movies and music fuck us all up from a young age. Women are programmed to seek misery and reject happiness. They will be used by liars and narcissists while the men that truly love them get taken for granted and tossed aside. Then they wake up around 30 and want the good guys. Well, we are now looking at women in mid 20s

[Keishio]

A woman's body clock runs quicker than a guys. Depends what sue wants but if it's to start a family then she'll probably be wanting that done by her 30's so if she chooses a guy and it doesn't work out I guess it's a bit more impactful in that sense than it would be for a guy.

Also ofbsue already has kids and becomes single there's not a lot of guys out there looking to become stepdads

[HighValue]

Good high quality guys get to choose who they have a relationship with. It is only very desperate people that just accept anyone that will take them. A person like that should really take a hard look at their life choices.

[melanieeeB]

Cause some men lie and manipulate and put on a persona in the beginning just to get some pussy lol

[Paul09]

If he looks like a bad boy, acts like a bad boy. He is bad! Fuck Bois are so obvious.

[Anonymous]

Because, just because they have the power to choose the guy they want does not mean they are very good at choosing good guys. Women are Notorious at making bad decisions in matters of the heart and never wanting to own up to that fact.😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

That is absolutely not true. Women cannot just pick and choose the man they want. They struggle just as much as men.

[annabananna]

Because it went bad? I don’t usually complain when something goes well lol

[Heolurt]

Because accountability is female kryptonite.

[Asker]

mostly

[Heolurt]

Sure like.001% of females.

[Anonymous]

People can change. A guy who seems to be perfect today can be a real jerk in a year or two.

[Paul09]

Because they make bad choices?

[KerriH]

They are still human