Is it okay to you to date his friend now?

[Anonymous]

I liked one guy for some time. We got closer. We kissed, we went out but then i turned him down. Now I am dating one of his friend.

[SteveSmith1985]

Yes, that sounds just fine. As long as you didn't turn the first guy down like yesterday or something... then you're all-good.

Honestly, the best way to figure stuff like this out (which I still use to this very day... because it works) is to put yourself in the other person's shoes as much as possible.

Imagine you had feelings for a guy. You two kissed, then he turned you down.

Now, from that perspective... how do you feel when this guy you like starts dating your friend?

You'd feel hurt. Naturally. It would suck.

BUT...

would it be right or fair for you to expect that guy you like to NOT go out with your friend (who he does like)?

I would argue that no, it wouldn't be fair to expect that guy (and your hypothetical female friend) to deny themselves a relationship they both want... because it sucks for you. That, to me, would be wrong.

(this is especially true in high school. It's impossible to date someone who wasn't friends with some guy you've got a history with. That's pretty inescapable in high school. I'd say you're all good.) 🙂

[Gent207-2]

How TV TeenDrama Starts for 200 Alex.

Standard wait time between serious relationships is ether 7 days or half of the total length of the relationship.

Why? Societal expectations (even if they are archaic) in addition to letting feelings die naturally. HOWEVER in your case you just jumped from one lover to another in what sounds like a very short amount of time.

I don't know how much your friends opinions matter to you, but this is a great way to possibly lose their respect for you.

[catiecatie]

As long as the first guy you went out with is okay like have his friend ask him if it’s okay to date you. I know it can be a friendship code for not dating an ex boyfriend or girlfriend in some groups. Just have your guy ask his friend if it’s okay.

[OlderAndWiser]

You are already dating the dude, so why do you ask now?

[Guy13]

No it is not.

[DeviousD]

It's okay. I mean it doesn't sound like you engaged in any serious relationship with him. Even if you did it is up to the friend to turn you down if his friendship is at all important to him. A great man once said, "Bro's before ho's." & He was correct in the sense that it isn't your obligation as the former interest to uphold that respect if their friendship means anything to the both of them.

[LiamJHayden]

Just be careful. Some people hold to an "off-limits" ideal when it comes to dating exes, as if they own the rights to the person for life in their group.

[Wise4myage]

Yes, because you never really dated the first guy to begin with. A kiss doesn't mean you're dating someone.

[In_Trance]

I don't think so, but you do you

[SnowedIn]

It is totally okay.

[TheFlak38]

Whore alert.

[dexter234]

Who cares