Is it weird to not mind dating a bossy woman and being bossed around by her?

[Anonymous]

I actually like it for some reason. Lol

[Anonymous]

It’s the relief you get from not having to do all the guesswork and risks. It’s a relieving change up at first because men (especially nowadays) are increasingly paranoid and stressed out from saying or doing something wrong to women when we take initiative. It takes that burden off your shoulders.

But this can get old real quick. You will start losing self respect, respect from others because you will be viewed as simpy and will hesitate to disagree with her when your wants to align with hers. Good chance you will not get your own needs met.

I also am way more suspicious of woman who act this way. If you obey their demands all the time it could be an insidious giant shit test. She actually wants you to fight back and when you don’t she loses respect for you. She will self justify that as an excuse to cheat or leave you for someone else she sees as a “real man”.

I truly believe that less than 10% of all woman are truly happy being completely in control in hetero relationships. Most really do want a man to lead whether they admit it not. One method is to find out how her mother treats her dad. If her mother wears the pants she will very likely try to replicate the dynamic in her own dating life.

Anyway I’ve encountered a few women like this in my life. They really thought they could dominate me because I’m a “nice guy”. In the beginning it was nice because they are usually not freeloaders on dates and often initiate sex. They often throw out their ideas first and it’s simple to just agree with them thinking they will be happy. But there’s always shit testing involved. Also I drew the line fast on that. Real fast. I don’t like being emasculated.

[Asker]

What if she's part of the less than 10 percent?

[Asker]

Also, it's not just me she'll boss around, she does it to whoever she can. Like to a waiter one time.

[Opinion Owner]

You are on her “good side” right now but that will change real quick if she gets bored with or pissed off at something else. When that happens she will likely hop in the sack with someone else and have not guilt or regret about what she did to you. But she will do some mental gymnastics and gaslighting to try to keep you around. Because you are literally “her property”. If you are too weak to leave when that day comes your self respect and reputation will continue to deteriorate. But there are lots of simpy cuck men who still stick around even when that bs happens.

If you truly don’t mind being that guy then have fun. I wouldn’t tolerate that though and I’m an overall “nice guy” by the way but I’m not stupid.

Your girlfriend sounds like bitch. Hopefully an attractive one but honestly you need an exit strategy to leave with your balls in tact. Be mentally prepared for more bullshit to come especially if she gets bored or upset with you. I wouldn’t trust her.

[Opinion Owner]

Also don’t be surprised if she might get physically violent with you too at some point. Especially if do something to make her jealous. That’s not love but a deep seated control complex.

[Asker]

As long as I'm on her good wide the, I still wanna be with her.

[Opinion Owner]

And you might fuck it all up and not realize it until it’s too late. For example she could be secretly hoping that you will stand up to her and prove you are a “real man”.

But anyway have fun. But if where I could have myself mentally prepared for the worse. You can enjoy but I wouldn’t trust her.

[Asker]

I'll be cautious, she is attractive and she buys clothes for me to wear, I actually really like the clothes she gets for me.

[Opinion Owner]

Like I said have fun. But notice how she treats other people she no longer finds “useful”. Mark my words that will be you one day.

[Asker]

I suppose so, I'll just enjoy it while it lasts then.

[Opinion Owner]

Well a crash landing is likely. Be ready. Sounds to me you already let your guard down which is very dangerous.

[Asker]

What makes you say I let my guard down?

[Opinion Owner]

You already have because you never take the lead or argue with her if you don’t like something.

Maybe there is nothing to argue about right now. That’s great. But that will change later. Are you going to stand your ground after being used to being bossed around and whipped? I somehow doubt it.

[Asker]

There is nothing to argue about right now but I would stand my ground. That doesn't mean I want her to do a complete 180 either though.

[Opinion Owner]

Be warned. It’s coming. It’s not a matter of “if” just a matter of “when”. Also remember how she was rude to the waiter? That will be you one day.

Just on a side note Ryan Reynolds once famously quoted “don’t fuck with people who make your food” in the classic comedy movie Waiting. She think twice about what could happen.

[Asker]

Well, fine. Until then, I'm enjoying it. I just haven't had a reason to stand up to her yet, I would if I hated the clothes she gets me but I actually like her taste in clothing.

[Opinion Owner]

Enjoy it while it lasts. I seriously want you to be happy man.

But I warn you about getting too complacent and comfortable. You will more likely refrain from speaking up if you don’t like something in the future. Then you are going to grow resentful/jaded or worse unbeknownst to you she is shit testing you and you failed.

I just don’t want to see another one of my brothers out there get screwed and burned over. Nobody gives a shit about the guy when it happens. Society has a “tough luck chump” attitude towards men on this. That’s why you see so many more guys ventilating anonymously on sites like GAG. Society gives women plenty of shoulders to cry on but never men. Just hate to see that happen to you.

[Asker]

I see what you mean, I'm just going along for the ride. I haven't had many chances to have a beautiful woman on my arm.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah I can see why you feel that way. It’s not easy for most guys to pull something like that.

But trust your gut. A few years ago I dated a bitchy but very hot young fitness model. She treated me well too. Cooked dinner and bought me clothes once. Took me out to dinner for my bday. Overall it was great. However I usually called the shots on what and how we would do things. I also noticed she could one bitchy to other people.

Give her youth, looks and how she treated other people I knew it wasn’t impossible for her to screw me over. Her schoolgirlish “I love yous” were her being in love in the moment.

Sure enough she completely ghosted me after 9 months of dating after a minor argument. However I was semi prepared mentally for it. It still burned a lot. It took me a while to get over it. But I knew that was a possibility.

So don’t underestimate her selfishness. Men are expendable and easily replaceable especially to women like her. Be warned and vigilant.

[Asker]

I appreciate it. Let's say hypothetically though, she doesn't break it off with me. Do you think I should be the one to at some point or not?

[Opinion Owner]

Just listen to your gut.

I look back at all the times in my life I’ve been screwed over by women and 95% of the time my gut knew the whole time. I refused to listen though. Didn’t to be paranoid (women of course get much more leeway to be paranoid). I wanted to hope for the best. But when the shit hit the fan I was not only hurt and angry at her but also pissed off at my myself. Because my guy saw it coming but I was too happy to be there and foolishly believed ignorance was bliss.

Ignorance isn’t bliss. It’s hell. Men don’t get leeway the same way women do in society to be naive victims. When a woman gets screwed over they are poor delicate victims. When men get screwed they are “chumps” for not knowing any better. People kiss the where it hurts if you are a women. Men on the other hand get salt rubbed in the wound.

So ask yourself is it worth hating yourself later when she screws you over yet your gut saw it coming? Also remember you are not thinking clearly right now. But force yourself otherwise.

There is a thing called cautious optimism. This is why I never tell a woman “I love you first” and am weary when she says it first. I Can still remember the day the one who got away broke up with me. I asked told her while looking her dead in the eye “hey Lisa do you ever wonder why I have trouble responding back to you when you said “I love you”. Because one day you might do THIS to me”. She then cried…. not for me but because she knew a part of herself really was selfish pos but she just couldn’t own up to it lest change it.

Anyway I digress. Best of luck.

[Asker]

Ah. Well I just meant if she wants to stay in a relationship with me without screwing me over. Probably a slim chance of that like you say, but it could happen.

[Opinion Owner]

Again you are a man. Nobody will really feel sorry for you if get burned for being naive. Women have that luxury but not men.

Keep your eye and ears open. Don’t let your D and ego rule your judgment. That’s easier said than done but again you can’t afford to be naive. Watch for slights. Watch for warning signs. What for her double speak. If you see and hear something you don’t like chances are the ugly truth IS the truth.

[Asker]

Okay then, thanks. I won't feel sorry for women who get burned either, screw the double standard by the way.

[Guy13]

It sounds like you found the "dream girl" for you. What are your Orders for Valentine's Day. Don't F- that up. I assume you have those itemized if she did not do that for you. And you should know what those are, right.- She's not your Mom and you're a man...

Didn't she installed a both mental telepathy and tracking device in your wedding band. If not, I bet I know what your Valentine's Day "gift" will be. Hope you get this right... ;-)

[Asker]

Haha, I love it!

[Subarugirl]

Nope not at all, plenty of people really enjoy having a more dominant partner. As long as you are both into it, it's fine.

[Stressyalaire]

No, but be careful and find yourself an actual leader. Not just some dominant person.

[dynamicyandere]

Very well said. This is super important. 💯

Not everyone who wants power deserves to wield it.

Like, it’s one thing to simply want to become king or queen. It’s another to have good leadership traits and actually caring for people and helping the whole nation rise to a better place.

There are both internationally respected world leaders, and there are internationally despised dictators.

[UmbrusNightshade]

For me it depends on just how “bossy” she is. If it’s like actually making commands and demands constantly I’m not about it. I don’t like to be ordered around, at least seriously. However, I’m more introverted than most guys and a woman who is a bit more assertive and sociable, who tries to get me out of my shell is attractive. And I actually prefer a bit more sexually aggressive woman who likes to initiate because then I at least know for sure she finds me sexually appealing.

[Asker]

Oddly enough, I don't mind being ordered around.

[lightbulb27]

it's your psychology. you probably got that when you were younger and it feels normal. normal can be good or bad. She needs to respect you and value you, else it's abusive control.

there is no "normal"... we're all like broken vasses put back together with glue...

[dynamicyandere]

Not weird at all.


You should watch Love and Leashes (2022).


It’s a nice portrayal of a healthy D/s relationship where the woman wields the power in the relationship, but is also genuinely caring and nurturing.


Power should always be wielded with love and care. Otherwise, it can easily become abusive.

[Anonymous]

Being a narcissistic, overbearing bitch is not a young woman I want to be with. It’s ok if she has a feisty personality, naughty aggressive side, independent in her own right, sure, that can be sexy. But bossy, nah, I can’t stand it. When people get bossed around at work I don’t want to be bossed around at home, it just makes someone feel like garbage.

[Rockstarrrrr]

You may like it at first but I bet it's going to get old really fast 🤷‍♂️

[Asker]

Is there a chance it doesn't get old for me?

[Rockstarrrrr]

Doubt it... If it goes one way most of the time both of you would grow tired of it... I think best thing is to mix it up... Plus it's going to be really hard to find a woman who genuinely likes to take the lead in a healthy way... Most likely she would be toxic and selfish...

[Chazmatazz269]

It’s probably not extremely unusual. It ain’t for me though. To each his own.

[Anonymous]

No, you're just another weak male who probably has mommy issues or has older bitchy sisters. You have been become fully emasculated, so you can only get through life by being tortured and bullied by women. It's a very sad state of affairs, but you're definitely not alone.

[ChillaxingLove]

enjoy life. It’s not my cup of tea, but if that’s what you like then who cares what I think

[Dargil]

I don't mind being cued sometimes when she's arguably right.

[TrillXHippy]

I’m really not about to tolerate being bossed around by any girl. She’s not my mom nor my boss

[Anonymous]

It's only weird if you think it's weird and sounds like to me you're okay with it.

[Jay3344]

There’s plenty of very dominant men who actually enjoy that stuff… it’s a fun kink

[Vegasrunner]

No, most men are betas and will settle for anything they can get. Typically men who date "bossy" women do so because they can't get better.

[Anonymous]

Bossy women treat men who like being bossed, as less than. They cheat on them. And the saps take it.

[Anonymous]

Depends to the level determined and motivated is good but a narcissistic control freak is bad

[Anonymous]

nothing unusual. You like dominatrixes and session wrestlers then.

[Opinion Owner]

thats a dominatrix and for session wrestlers go to scissorfoxes. com

[Anonymous]

You're a beta.. And that's OK. Just make sure you find the one that doesn't take advantage of that and is an actual leader.. Most women though are not attracted to betas.

[OddBeMe]

No it’s called marriage.

And if you were to analyze properly or scientifically, I bet you’d find it’s closer to 50/50.

[Babygirl_S]

You're a submissive man.

[Asker]

Is that bad?

[Babygirl_S]

I personally don't find submissive men attractive because I'm a sub myself.

[Asker]

I guess it's better if the woman isn't a sub

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

You just need to find Yin for your Yang.
You, asker found yours. Does not necessarily mean the same fits for everybody.

I would like to be a good leader, who thinks of everybody in his group before making any decision than being a dominant person.

I have the leadership experience of two extremely important group projects from academics POV. And I have worked under a dominant person as well. So I can tell the difference.

Honestly, I don't care who is the leader in the relationship till we, as a couple are able to accomplish things while being satisfied individually.

So look out for a good leader, than a dominant person. As another user said.

[LiamJHayden]

Not weird. Most guys - most people - are minions who love to be controlled.

[Tomisworthless]

Only woman I could attract is a closeted lesbian whose masculine with a oversized clit

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

It's not weird. It's common by a bunch of punks especially in your generation.

[FreyaRed]

You have masochistic tendencies

[Nikki1989]

I can see how that could be a turn on.

[Anonymous]

Why are there so many females with blue accounts here lately?

[driven159]

Then that's your thing

[Anonymous]

Nah, you're good. Up and at them.

[Anonymous]

No it is not but it is demeaningfull

[SpokenTruth]

Simply no.

[Aneiltca]

Yes.