How does it feel to be dumped over somebody else?

[Anonymous]

Anyone ever experience this? How would you react if the person came crawling back later?

[Guy13]

If I were in a relationship with a woman and we had agreed to date then I would be upset. One does not suddenly chose another. Usually, that individual is testing out multiple options. If we were exclusive and suddenly she chose someone else then I would be upset.

I would also be like so..."This is the real you... good riddens... glad I discovered hoe you are and how you operate earlier rather than later." And, if this woman came back later after discovering the grass is not greener on the other side... at the expense of us to begin with then I would tell her to find another field to graze in. Hell no, you C-. Go find someone else to F- with would be my sentiment.

[SnowedIn]

Honestly, in terms of being dumped over somebody else, that's easier/better than any of the real or fake reasons that have to do with just me. There's always someone richer, smarter, better looking, hotter, better sexually, fill in the blank whatever than me. So, if I'm dumped for that, shrug, grab a latte, be sad and move on. So much better than if she dumps me and says, I don't like you.

As for crawling back? Prob not. You dumped me. I'm not Lyft or Uber and here on demand.

[billmunch]

Well, I was in a LTR and my SO started seeing a guy 7 years in to our relationship. It evebtually got serious so she left me for him but kept me as a side guy. After a while, things started to fizzle, so she came back to me and moved back in and we're still together, and he's back to being the side guy. He moved away, so they meet up once or twice a year and go on vacation. He's also seeing someone else now and is married with a child.

I know most guys would have left but I didn't. I'm not going to end a relationship if SO does a little light dating on the side, especially if we have a few years sunk into it, so long as there's no pregnancy. But this time it got real. She moved in with him, but kept me as the side guy, unbeknownst to him. It was a bit strange getting demoted, I must admit, but we never broke up, so it was tolerable. But alls well that ends well. And since he since found a new wife and had a kid, so he won't be the main guy ever again.

My SO doesn't want to date seriously again, joking that two husbands is enough. She likes to hook up with a couple of younger guys when we go away on holiday to the Caribbean or whatever, or have one off encounters once in a while, but that's no biggie. It's just holiday sex.

I think most guys couldn't handle a woman who sleeps around so much, but she's a very horny woman who really loves having lots of sex and I knew that before we started dating, so I knew ahead of time. Anyway, we're life partners who love each other and are committed with our own active sex life. Besides, I'm not the jealous sort, so I don't get upset. She's a great woman who just enjoys having lots of sex.

[Anonymous]

Expected. Nope, I have a 1 strike you're out policy with women. If you chuck me overboard I do not take you back when you learn you actually had it really good. How else will she learn? She may not get me but hopefully she learns from. That mistake and doesn't do it again when she meets a quality guy.

[Anonymous]

It's feel awesome