Dealing with being dumped?

[kclark30]

I have no idea why this has been so hard for me. I've handled breakups in the past without any issues. It happens, you get sad, and then you move on. I was married and even moved on from my divorce and the feelings I have right now are not as bad. I met someone and we dated for only 3 months. He seemed to good to be true sometimes, but sometimes he would be a real jerk and ignore me. He ended it because he was depressed and going through some mental stuff he said. He wanted to figure out his life and thought that by breaking up with me it would make him a happier person and needed to be alone. I got upset when he texted that to me because it hurt me to read that. I'm trying to move on from it (it's been a month) and I still think about him everyday. I'm slowly dating again thinking that would help and it hasn't. He was a jerk, didn't treat me well, and I still want him. What is wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

Each guy is different, and no dating experience is going to render the same emotions if it doesn’t work out. I think a combination of both the potential he brought to the table and how coldly he left made the whole thing more hurtful than you expected. You really want to be in a relationship, so having to go through the talking phase from scratch again is also a disappointing aspect to consider in all this as well. Anyway, don’t put a time stamp on your healing process and just allow yourself to go through it so you can move on from it. I’m not sure if dating is the best idea currently. It just seems like you keep putting a new guy in the place of the old one, without really healing from the last situation. There’s worse things than being single.

[Anonymous]

you took a hit to your ego. it happens. you had too much hope and then it brought you smashing down to earth. you'll find someone better, someone without as much emotional damage. i mean, who says "if i break up with you, i'll be happier"? why would you want that person in your life any longer? look out for yourself. put YOU first.

[Guy13]

It looks like you love hard which is admirable. It hurts hard too... unless they beat the crap out of the relationship and kill it dead. Either way it is difficult. Hang in there.