Is it cheating if you chat with a guy you know likes you but you don't like him back and just chat with him as a friend?

[Anonymous]

[Effably]

Of course it is not cheating. However it does call your intentions into question.

When considering you and your potential partner, why are you chatting with this guy? Is he just a good friend or are craving the attention or his romantic feelings? One is okay, the other a considerable issue. So on.

When considering him, have and are you brutally honest about where you two stand? Leading people on is shitty. It took me a while to come to terms with how bad it is myself but I found that it does in effect steal time from people's lives. So while your friendship is fine, if it includes feeding his hope there may be more it is now heartless.

[Asker]

Yes I am clear with each guy who does that anf I don't flirt back at all

[BarryLiverstone]

As long as you clarify boundaries and he is told he is only a friend then it’s ok as it’s his choice to continue the communication.


Did you let him know you have no romantic interest or have you left that part a mystery?

[Asker]

Yes i told him I don't see him that way

[BarryLiverstone]

Does he share a hobby with you?

[Asker]

Who the guy or my boyfriend?

[BarryLiverstone]

Both

[rienna888]

No In my opinion it’s fine as long as there are no flirting and he knows I have boyfriend

[Anemone978]

It isn't cheating but you are pushing boundaries, for reasons unknown...

[ShiftingMonke]

If you have to ask if it's cheating, it's already too close to the line; best avoid it

[Asker]

I don't send them photos nor do i flirt so I don't know

[ShiftingMonke]

If you're taking to them about anything personal, it's across the line. If you're saying things to then you wouldn't say in front of your SO, that's crossing the line. If they're crossing the line and you're not shutting it down, you're letting them cross the line for you.

[mathew1543]

Let him know you are not into him

[riverrat3]

Chatting is not cheating