I have always had severe social anxiety and I have a date this weekend, how can I calm my stress over it?

[Anonymous]

[WaterIsland]

Deep breaths. Remember that he’s probably feeling the same way (even if he doesn’t show it). The worst part will be right before you meet up. But just remember in that moment, that once you’re together, it’ll be easier. Just try to enjoy your time together.


Another thing. Think about what the worst thing that can happen is. He doesn’t like you? Well, then at least you know. You want someone who likes you. Is it that you won’t have fun? Well then you can do something different next time. The reality is, the worst thing that we think could happen, actually isn’t that bad at all, if you really think about it from a practical standpoint.


Finally. If there is something very specific and tangible that you’re nervous about. Figure out a way to overcome that before hand. For me, it’s meeting people from dating apps in real life. So I always ask if we can video chat before meeting each other. I know some people aren’t ok with that, or find it weird, but if that’s who they are, they aren’t compatible with me. I want someone who is willing to make me as comfortable as possible (especially early on in dating). So if there is something like that, I’d recommend doing that to alleviate your anxiety.

[Fireguy17]

It may sound odd, but have a glass of wine or two before you go out.
you do not want to appear drunk, but it can help take the edge off a bit.

[slatyb]

What's the worst thing that could happen!

[Anonymous]

At least you have a date.

[PepePatriot]

just chillax