Would you date a single parent?

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HighValue · Accepted Answer

Nope. Not worth it.

1. They wouldn't have as much time for their partner when the relationship is new.

2. More expenses that aren't my fault.

3. Behavior issues. (Kid may not want to listen to my rules because I am not their real father even though they are in MY house.)

4. I won't date someone in contact with any ex.

5. She is likely irresponsible or bad at making Important life decisions.

6. If I got attached to the kid and the relationship didn't work out I have no rights to it.

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

No.. I tried that once, it didn't end well.

Guy13 · Answer

Probably not likely but it depends on purposes. Never having time for me and bank rolling the child does boy sound like a pleasant reality

Leopard23 · Answer

In the past I have. I never got serious with any of them. Some of them were in real great shape.

Ultimately as a single man there are too many pitfalls of dating a single mom vs reward. For starters you are not her no1 priority, which is probablamatic if you don't have kids yourself and you want to go out somewhere on a Friday or Saturday might or a week away, even just fooling around. They expect you to act financially responsible for their kid but that's it, you can't discipline the kid as you ain't the daddy and if the kid doesn't like you then your life is not worth living. Then there's dealing with the baby daddy, he might be an angry asshole or which is a real red flag for dating a single mom may be a decent guy that she cheated on, dumped and is vindictive keeping away from his kids for maximum child support and pure evilness, this is a warning as you could be this guy in the future. Women who acted bad in past relationships pull out all the stops to vilify an ex.

Some of these single mom's have such high standards when dating, they don't realise that having that kid lowers their stock, they won't lower the bar. So they will date a long line of men they consider high quality that have no intention of ever getting serious.

VIVANT · Answer

I used to think not bc I don’t want the pressure but now I think if he is my age and esp if the kid is very young- would be awkward if the kid wasn’t too much younger- then yeah I think so esp if the kid lives with him…Dads who love their kids are pretty attractive. in my opinion

Emiliamazing · Answer

This is a strong question with a lot of factors that come in to play. I hope I never have to make this decision, and I hope my husband doesn't either. The children must come in to play as do your feelings and acceptance of their children (and vice versa) as well as -acceptance of the parent.

loveslongnails · Answer

If you're a man and you can accept that you'll ALWAYS be a distant #2 in her life, presuming she's a good mother, then go for it. If you're a woman dating a single dad, there's a better chance for a real bond later in life when the child is out of the house.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I suppose, but only if she's a widow. A lot of single moms that I know made a choice to be with a deadbeat, had a child with them, and then he moved on to the next one. A lot of them are like my mom that ask for the boyfriend to discipline a child that's not theirs. I'm not going to deal with that crap.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Depends. One one extreme we have the faithful, self-sufficient widow and on the other we have the never-married welfare mother of four or more from multiple guys. The former is probably "Yes." The latter is a "No." Those in between depend upon the specifics.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@wowwgirl I would never date a single mother because I don't want that child to experience heartache early on.

Berethor · Answer

I rather not, single moms bring too much baggage and I don't want to raise other man's child.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would date a Single Mom with Kids.

DaisyM23 · Answer

yeah, as long as i like the person and they're well balanced

CateM · Answer

Maybe. But they must realize at least at first their kids are theirs, not mine. If it lasts, I might come to love their kids and I'll take on some responsibility

DarkLegacy · Answer

Lol, i got my post removed for saying i wouldn't last time, some butthurt plus 30 women. Guess what i still wouldn't and im in the majority. In the UK single mums are becoming the new incels.

AFretiredTXn · Answer

Yes I would and did date a divorced Mom with a 4 mo old baby. We married less than a year later.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

If they are a single parent by choice, then no. But the situation made them, then I will look into it.

zagor · Answer

It would be a major factor but not a show-stopper.

UncleBilll · Answer

Yes single moms are great to date, knowing that some dates the kids will be there also. They are great in bed, and willing to swallow, most have incredible boobs too.

Jerre · Answer

Yes I would and I have done that many times.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Yes, and I have. No problem as long as both parents get along ok. I don't want to be part of a shit show.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

That was my first date!

Marked_Man · Answer

Hard no I don't raise another man's kids. I want my own.

admles · Answer

I married one, three months ago today! Love my step children very much, and they me.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes , I can’t be a hypocrite 😋

SnowedIn · Answer

Absolutely yes.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I wouldn’t date someone who has kids.

RavVid · Answer

No is the simple answer.

LazerBean · Answer

Nope.

Alex8736 · Answer

of course. no judgement here

Auf_schweden_ya_doma · Answer

Yes If I like the girl

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Maybe in a few years.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope, no kids

clampfan101 · Answer

Under the right conditions, yes.

Kelly6 · Answer

Yes.

Guardian45 · Answer

Why wouldn't I?

Pterodon · Answer

I have

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Hard Pass.

eagle1951 · Answer

yepper

andy530 · Answer

Yeah I would

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