Yes, even if they were single parents by choice
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No, unless they had to leave a toxic/abusive spouse
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I would love to tell you that I am better person than I am and it should not matter, but then I am not a lair either. So I am dating a single mother, but her kids are 16 and 17... so it doesn't really get in the way all that much. But with that said she doesn't visit me every weekend because she has to spend time with her kids and I am understanding of that, and she understand that I want nothing to do with her kids. I am not trying to be a dad and I really don't want to have a relationship with her kids, and totally understands that.
But if she had younger kids I probably would not date her, because I understand how demanding kids are and I that I could never compete with that. And if she had younger kids then at some point I would have to actually patriciate more then I would like to or feel comfortable with doing... so I would not date her. When you get involved with a women with young kids you have to seriously be willing to do the right things by her and her kids... and I know at 45 that I have had my kids and I don't want any more... so I know I am not that type of guy.
I honestly have a great respect for single parents and I would never get involve with some one that I knew at some point I could not only hurt her, but hurt her kids. I would never hurt a kid.
No. I'm not raising someone else's kids or trying to more than one person at a time happy in a romantic relationship. Single parents don't have time for anything, let alone you. Twice as much effort, half as much return on investment.
Dating a single mother/parent is like working an 80 hours a week job for $10/hour, instead of 40 hours a week for $30/hour. Even if you liked the 80 hour a week job, you're still getting less back from it. WHO in their right goddamn mind, besides a simp, would do that?
Single mothers (aside from widows) already displayed they make bad choices in men and bad life choices, in general. I wish them all the best of luck, but I'm not dumping my finances and time into you because YOU f*cked up. Men get f*cked over in divorce court and child support, so it almost kinda balances itself out (except the single mothers had choice, where the men did not).
Once again @MCheetah nails it. Now there may be some single mothers who are still appealing enough to get together with (intellect, kindness, resourcefulness, even looks), but ceteris paribus, a man would always prefer a woman without some other guy's children over one with.
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Yes and no.
No if their ex is all up in his business and is crazy
No if he doesn’t want any kids
No if He dumps his kids on me to go out and do whatever
No if he won’t let me tell them off or teach them or make my own rules (I won’t keep quiet if his kids are naughty and he doesn’t discipline them)
No if the relationship ends and now you’re attached to these kids
Yes if he truly is amazing, disciplines his kids, wants me to have an active role with them, the ex is actually really nice and not all up in his business, he does want to have another kid or two and we want a future together and communicate about all of that.
My (step) dad married my mom back in 2011 and she had a 10 year old and a 14 year old. He loved both my brother and I like his own and still to this day he does, says it was his best decision in life and he is our dad. He’s more of a dad than our bio one. truly is the dad that stepped up.
So if it was a situation like my dad and moms then hell yes!
Sure why not. It's nice to make new bonds with people like the kids because you learn to love them as your own.
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Absolutely not.
No disrespect to you single parents out there, but as someone that does not like or ever want kids, it wouldn't be ideal for me to be with someone that has children. Imagine dating someone with a kid and I'm uncomfortable around children: that would be selfish for me and said person, not to mention a waste of our time. If we got serious, they might expect me to be a mother-like figure which NO, I'm not interested in.
The ONLY exception might be if he has older children (18 or older). Because by that point, they're pretty much grown.
I've done it several times over the years.
No.
1. I don't want their ex around.
2. I want my own kids.
3. I don't want the expense to pay for someone else's kids.
4. They wouldn't listen to my rules because they would say I am not their real parent.
5. If I got attached to them and the relationship ended I would have no rights to them.
6. The majority of single mothers have repeatedly made bad life decisions and many of them have participated in casual sex.
7. At the beginning of the relationship where you need more time together to get to know each other, get attached, and do things that are enjoyable without responsibilities, those kids would interfere with all of that.
if you're a single parent looking to date, I suggest you go for other single parents or older folks. Very few young folks are willing to date a single parent.
I've also seen some pathetic guys who can't get someone without kids so they settle for single parents until someone better comes along. Don't let people use you that way. There are a lot of predators out there.
Absolutely. A child doesn't affect her level of attractiveness. My fiancee has a 2.5 year old from before we started dating, and the father left her as soon as he found out. If a man has an issue with raising a kid that isn't his from a time that he wasn't present, he wouldn't make a good father at that point in time anyway.
NO. Once again, the great Latin phrase ceteris paribus, used in many Economics classes, applies here. Now there may be some single mothers who are still appealing enough to get together with (intellect, kindness, resourcefulness, even looks), but ceteris paribus, a man would *always* prefer a woman without some other guy's children over the same woman with some other guy's children.
Only if they were a single dad by choice, meaning they had their kids on their own through adoption or surrogacy. Because then there wouldn’t be an ex involved, no other parent to take into consideration when planning our lives, he’s not experienced having kids with someone else already and so on. I would never date a man who has had kids together with someone else.
Probably not, because I don't want to raise kids and that includes having my own.
If I were much older, I might, but that would be assuming her kids are all grown up and live seperately, so I don't play a part in raising them.
I would, mainly as I am.
i guess for guys in the US (some states), this will become the social norm, dating a girl of 18 who is a single parent.
When I was younger, no. At my age I'd be fine with it as long as there is mutual physical attraction, sexual compatibility, and no glaring personality conflicts.
I rarely date men with kids. But typically id date them only if they had at least 30% custody, current on child support, and only had one child.
I would never date a single parent! I prefer men with no kids, and men who don't intend on having any kids and who would rather adopt pets.
I myself have no kids at all so I want a man with no kids at all as well.
Nah. Too much drama and I'm not even a fan of kids.
No
I don't wanna deal with the kid
I don't wanna deal with jealous baby daddy
I don't wanna deal with you putting YOUR child over OUT relationship.
I don't want a financial burden
Plus I think a lot single mom mind aren't stable
Now that I am older I would do it if the kids were older.
I never like to say NEVER. But a woman with kid is bringing significant baggage to the relationship. She's going to have to put extra effort to prove she's a worthy gamble.
I did. Married her. But I'd always would like another wife. As long as she's kinky and willing to be nudist
done that , it is fun experience , her daughter is funny
I would date her. Unless she was exceptionally attractive, I wouldn't marry her.
No, a single mom bring too much baggage with her.
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