Would you date a single parent?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

no. sorry. it's too much baggage. and it also makes it less special of an experience because they already have children. i also wouldn't want to be a stepmom nor do i want to deal with the ex. or parent a child that's not mine. i have no say in anything. it is not my child and i don't want to overstep boundaries.

i experienced this as a child and it's terrible to go through as your mom is dating someone else. i'm actually still not over my parents divorce. so honestly i don't want to contribute to the problem.

thankfully, i don't have to go through this since me and my partner have been together for a long time and we don't have the kind of baggage.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. I want both of us to experience being a mommy and daddy for the first time together

Qdbrown · Accepted Answer

Not seriously as a man. Single mothers can't really prioritize a man. Kids, pets and she come before the guy. Early on she will make it all about him, but if married, she will quickly put him at the bottom rung.

If a man seriously dates and marries a single mother, he is setting himself up to be the provider. That's his lot in life. Some guys like that yoke and need to feel special. If a man wants that, I would recommend he do it at least with his own children. Raising another bastard child should not be even a consideration. Likey, she made a lot of bad decisions to be a single mom, with serious abused women and widowers being the only exception.

FoghornLeghorn99 · Accepted Answer

Probably not. Kids are a parent's priority. Many kids would have a problem if some new guy is banging mommy. Also, the kids have a father. I don't need the noise of another man in the picture.

TwinTonyz · Answer

There's more risk than reward in that relationship. Motherhood is lauded as being the pinnacle of the human experience. This, so far as I can tell, has turned hyperbolic and suggests that just being a mother grants certain status well and beyond all other things. Fatherhood is in no comparable way celebrated. I've found becoming a father of children who're not your own to be more of an entitlement exclusively for the benefit of single mothers.

There's neither a shortage of judgement against men who won't date single mothers, nor a long enough to detail all the praises mothers shall receive.

Stevo-Irl · Answer

Yes I would, I did in the past and now that I am a single parent, of course I would.

However, I would note that many single parents, in my experience are more high risk, regardless of the baggage, so you need to factor that in. It depends WHY they are a single parent and how they behave as such.

If they gave up on their relationship with their child's father too easily, then they will probably do the same again to you. Also, if they prevent their child's father from seeing the kids IN ANY WAY, avoid like the plague.

justlookin69 · Answer

Done that before recently and will never do it again. It’s not for me. The Ex kept his nose in our business, tried to fight me because he wanted his ex-wife (divorced) back but she didn’t want him (still don’t understand that shit), talked shit to me, but when it was time to man up, he called the cops on me but then they start looking at him for the bitch he was. 😂

I’m chill and laidback with a lot of good going on for me. You have to do a lot to make me step up. That was my only experience though, so yea… not again.

Guanfei · Answer

Potentially, yes.
Realistically, it would be hard.

First, you're never a priority to them. Whatever happens, you'll get to see her whenever she has the time, which is often never.
And the rest of the reasons are linked to it. If everything goes well with the mom, but the kid doesn't like you, you're out.
And on the contrary, you can get along with the kid and get attached to him, but if it doesn't work with the mom, you'll never see the kid again.
Also, you have to take care of a child who isn't your own, and you have no say on his education, and no authority on him. The mom of course, but also the real dad are before you, even tho you're more present. You give the same amount of effort, but the result is even less guaranteed than in a regular relationship.

In the end, you're just an option in the relationship. It's not the mom and you, it's the mom, the dad, the kids, and maybe you.

Anonymous · Answer

No and I am one, well was. I just can’t love someone else’s child enough to be a step parent. They already have a bond too and I’ve never quite liked that because you feel like a third wheel. I started dating a guy with no kids a couple of years back. He was adopted so blood means nothing to him. He’s barged his way in and is an amazing step parent. Most of the time I still feel left out but it’s my kids I’m being left out from 😂 they just get on so well. I wouldn’t date a guy with kids (well not under 18 ) again! It’s just no good for me!

Anonymous · Answer

I might, if she is a special women who became a single mother through no fault of her own. But chances are I would not, and here is why.

Most single moms my age today are low quality human beings. They have allowed themselves to get to where they are by casually sleeping with low value men with no care about whether those men would stick around and be a father to her children if it came to that.

Or they have chosen to exclude the father form the child's life, which is often the case today.

Either way, in most cases, a woman who has allowed herself to become the mother of a fatherless child is not someone who I would care to date. The statistics about fatherless children today are well known and very, very sad. And we need to stop blaming that all on men and start holding women accountable for their part in it, which society has yet to do.

menina · Answer

No, I wouldn't. Nothing wrong with being a single parent but I wouldn't be able to date one.
I would have to deal with his children. They probably wouldn't like me or they would think that I was trying to replace their mother. I wouldn't want to be the evil stepmother.

Alyssa11 · Answer

I wouldn’t just because it’s too much for me to take on. I’m literally a virgin and the longest relationship I’ve been in was 8 months lol.

Nothing wrong with single parents at alllll. But dating them comes with a lot of responsibility and I can humbly admit i don’t have the capacity.

hannahjo022 · Answer

I think it would be ok if I was a single parent to date a single parent. I have no kids and dated a guy who was a single father with two kids. It made dating difficult because the guy always had his kids and we never had a chance to spend time alone. Its great for him to be in his children's life and he's an amazing dad. But its hard for a single person with no kids to date a single parent.

iseekpinetrees · Answer

Dang so many people saying no. But I'm guessing most people on here don't have kids. Prior to me having a kid I would have said no too but now that I have a kiddo I'd be more open to it but I'd definitely be watching how he acted towards his kid vs mine and how he parented.

AgentRED · Answer

It’s really a lot of unnecessary responsibility for starters and it may not be a rewarding thing bc what’s in it for a lot of us single guys (can’t speak for everyone but..)

You’re never a priority. Also you’ll never bond with the a single mom (in this case for men) bc her kids are first and that’s totally okay. Plus, you’re just an AtM for her and her kids needs and guess what? The biological father could just step back in at anytime so where does that leave you? Out the damn door.

jshm2 · Answer

Depends how many dependent crotch goblins we're talking about.

The main issue with a "single parent" is not the person or their baggage, but the extra attention thieves that come along with them.

Don't get me wrong, some people have great kids and have dated women with kids. But it's not a good idea to take on that extra responsibility on a whim.

Andres77 · Answer

I did, I married her.
I did a few more times but the drama of kids (standard life) that aren't yours was too much for my immature self at the time. As long as she just wanted to fuck with no strings attached, fine.
I wasn't ready for other people's kids.
To any step-parents, I applaud you. It ain't easy.

bolverk · Answer

Would depend on how they came to be a single parent, If it was due to an accident or a terminal illness I'd give it serious consideration.
If they were a single parent due to not being on one of the 12 contraceptive methods that women have access to the I would not consider them at all.

kc_4308 · Answer

I have no issue dating someone who has kids. I don’t feel comfortable dating someone who doesn’t have experiences around kids. I also prefer dating someone divorced and or married as in they understand the marriage life like me

Echosoul · Answer

I have no desire to be a parent at all. If I'm a step-parent I'm not comfortable with this and know they're not mine besides again not wanting to be a parent and not in a position to. If I'm not in a parental role then it's still uncomfortable. I'm aware that I come second and she may also have ties to ex. There is no situation where I'd be comfortable with this at present.

imanf7 · Answer

Very unlikely , it's a hard no. unless he's the perfect guy and they're great kids and their mom is dead lol

humpbackjack · Answer

When I met my wife she had 2 kids that after we were married I adopted them and I loved them and raised them as my own. I do believe it’s important for both birth parents to be involved in the kids life if at all possible

420Rachel · Answer

I am dating a single parent. Couldn't ask for a better partner and I love his kids! Of course it all comes down to preference. Some people don't mind it and others don't want the added responsibility of caring for children. Nothing wrong either way.

TonyV · Answer

Yeah but the second she tries to make her kid my problem I'm out, it's not my fault she wasn't careful and now has a kid. I'd give her a fair chance but I won't be a doormat just cause some guy it didn't workout with knocked you up.

Black-a-knese · Answer

Guys are more acceptable to a step parent depending on what happened with the real father and you. Woman generally have a harder time accepting this.

MAAJD · Answer

I was thinking about it and almost did it once. cause i would helping not only helping a lady out but also doing a favor for the kids.

But it's a lot of responsibility to walk into. and a little scary for many guys.

Blackcupcake · Answer

If me and him have a genuine connection then yes, as long as I’m not gonna have to deal with any drama from the mother of his child cause I’m not about to deal with that.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

If their kids were grown up and lived seperately, so just basically me and then, then yes, otherwise no, because I don't want to raise someone else's kids or have my own.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

I did it already, it whas fine and the kid (girl) love me very much, olso her mother (my girlfriend) like the way i whas akting whit her and her daughter.
The daughter wanted even to call me daddy/father, i whas schared and refused.

zagor · Answer

Depends on the circumstances. I was at a singles meetup and a woman asked if I would be willing to date a woman with kids. I said one or two wouldn't be a dealbreaker. She said, how about five? Bye.

Anonymous · Answer

While I would love to have children including non biological children, let's assume I wasn't already too old anyway, in order to date someone that already had children, it couldn't fall under adultery. That and it would have to be dating someone in a non western country since the laws that pertain to children are against men which has made it much too dangerous for men.

iamElisa · Answer

If the child's mother was not alive, I would be with that man and try to approach his child like a mother, all children deserve it. : )

KrisPW · Answer

I like kids, and I'd have to get along with all involved. I certainly wouldn't NOT date someone because they had a kid.

Anonymous · Answer

Why would you pass up the opportunity to find an amazing person just because they had kids in a previous relationship? You really score if their kids are great too.

Caliguy88 · Answer

I don’t really want kids. I feel like I’d have to like the girl first. I’d probably not go on a blind date with a stranger knowing they have a kid but I’ve got a couple GFs that I’m close with that I absolutely would….

JBlade · Answer

Nope, don’t want kids or any other issues related to that type of life.

karaspara · Answer

I'm very interested in this because completely understandable to not want to I just wonder where people who were raised by a great step parent stand

Joker_ · Answer

I will answer from the perspective of a guy. No sane man would answer yes to this hypothetical question. Though say if the question you posed was not hypothetical but was in fact an actual event happening to someone, then that person may answer "for sure I would" if they loved that woman

Relux47 · Answer

I was in a long distance relationship with a girl that has a kid. I don’t know about dating a single parent because I never dated a girl that isn’t a parent or wasn’t one when I was talking to her and became one later on after we no longer talked

nickaboy · Answer

Nope I am 26 if you have Kids and are single at this age you are a slut or went for the guy that liked drugs so now deal with your poor decisions your own

The-Wise-Phoenix · Answer

Not unless their child or children are in their teen years so she will not require a babysitter everytime we go out.

exitseven · Answer

I used to say no, right out of hand but if her kids were older like in high school I would dated somebody with kids.

Medhat-M · Answer

I wouldn't date anyone who's still carrying any relation to people from past relationships... I'm not here to share nor fix someone else's mess...

Backspin2 · Answer

I personally wouldn't. Am I speaking against dating single mothers? No I'm not. I just prefer not to.

JamesCarrington · Answer

Of course! The lady might turn out to be the one! Got to give it a go.

SecretIdentity · Answer

Would I let him take me out and buy me dinner and give him a blowjob at the end of the night? Absofuckinglutely.

Would I enter a relationship with a single parent. Different question. Absofuckinglutely not.

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Nope. I was sterilized for a reason, I don't want kids

FatherJack · Answer

I am one myself , and no. I don't want to date anyway. I know I would have few , if any options , in the male heavy dating market

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah why not.. I don’t understand why most people are against single parents.. if we like someone we like who they are and shall accept everything they have..

Grubhub · Answer

No a woman with kids is a huge no no for me unless she’s a Latin who’s as fine as these imagine models with a big ol ass

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. At least for now don't know what the future hold but I cannot deal with kids and I'm very much not interested in playing house and playing step-parent or whatever.

SunnySensei · Answer

Depends on whether the girl is completely over her previous partner or not, Miss.

MM5578 · Answer

Yes. At my age I have to be realistic. Single women my age are more likely to have children from a previous relationship.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I've done it many times.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Yeah it depends on how many kids she got. If it is one am ready to give it a chance. NO matter how weird sime kids can make it hell for you, since you ain't there father.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm not good with kids and I don't want to have kids. So I wouldn't date a single parent.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Nope. Single moms already ruined 1 or more men's lives im not going to get involved with that.

greg217 · Answer

It's not all the single mom you see might be they way you all would think but seriously when you are actually with the right one that treat you better you know it's a mutual feelings

clampfan101 · Answer

Not my preference, but yes if I can easily get along with her kid (s).

Dchrls78104 · Answer

No, I am not. I fear that it is too much of a risky move and a thankless job in my country.

disgustingfather · Answer

If he's going to treat me the way he treats his child, why not? 😃

Anonymous · Answer

As long as I can manage my expectations you're there go get some that's about it

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

I'll bone a single mom, but I don't ever want to meet her crotch-goblins.

Joshua0213 · Answer

Yeah if they would have another child with me in the future

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