Would you ever date a single mother/father?

Question

Why or why not? If you have been with one, how was your experience?

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

Not going to lie your odds suck since you come with a kid. Dating is expensive and when providing for children becomes part of the equation even men who are interested and do like the girl are like "Fuck I can't afford to help with the kids, guess I have to try with someone else." A lot of the time.

It basically feels like being financially cucked. Someone else knocked her up and now we have to take over the payments because they ditched her often times in my experience because either the guy was total trash only wanting sex and the woman went for it anyways despite red flags or she's a nasty venomous piece of crap and the dude finally cracked and lost it and left her. I'm sure there are exceptions but they seem to be the minority in my experience it's almost always either the guy only cares about her body, or the girl is awful and treats men like crap.

"MOST" of the single mothers I've met were selfish entitled and rude too. Some girls try to "Trap him" and if you do that, you're not just stupid but you're cruel because you're using your own child as a pawn in your game trying to tie down the man further doing that to a guy who doesn't want kids and told you skyrockets your chance of being dumped. Cause it's a violation of consent and trust.

Also, if men forge a bond with a child, they want it to be either their child or a child that thinks of him as his "Real dad" No man wants to deal with being a parental figure to an ungrateful brat that doesn't see them as a father. if they do their settling because they've had low success dating.

It's also incredibly frustrating dating a single mother for reasons completely out of her control. The kids take up a ton of time and have to take priority over you and the relationship. They make you cancel plans last minute often times and they add such a massive responsibility if you have to re-schedule a date if could mean you have to wait a week or more to see each other again after canceling last minute.

It doesn't create an attractive set of circumstance for any man looking to date in fact it's a lot more work and trouble than most men and woman are willing to deal with. It makes it hard to form a strong and consistent bond and this is all assuming the kid is just indifferent or even likes you. If the kid hates the new boy or girl friend trust me the kid will completely find a way to kill the relationship If they get it in their head that they want to.

Kids throw fits about hating the boyfriend, he's not their "real dad", they act like a brat, but you're not allowed to call them out for being a petulant child because since it's not your kid you can't ground them etc. If a man doesn't feel like a big enough investment of time, respect, and trust he'll eventually get sick of it and leave.

I wouldn't date a single mother for most of these reasons myself but another big reason I'd never date a single mother is this is coming from the perspective of someone who grew up in a home that broke halfway through my youth. One of the reasons I'd personally never want to date a single mom with kids is I feel insecure about being a role model in any capacity.

It sucks when you're a kid and your parents get divorced it's incredibly stressful and confusing and your sad because now your mom and dad aren't together and you have to go back and forth if you're lucky and they don't end up trying to steal you from each other.

The last thing I want to do, when I see a kid in that position is barge into their life trying to take away their mother's free time and make things even more confusing and complicated for them emotionally. For me it's not even just about the mom, it's also about the kid too I think that's also a factor for some guys too.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sure. I don't see a reason not to

Avicenna · Answer

I’ve dated two single moms and although it could have been worse, I won’t date a woman again who still has kids at home, even adult ones.

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends on her situation. I’ve said it a million times a single mom is a case by case basis.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Whatever fixed speech/opinion we form in our minds, in the area of sentiments, many people will find out that their opinions will matter less than their perceptions. Since reality experienced is a punch in the face, while preformed opinions are just virtual monologues, a story told to ourselves.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If I were single again I'd be going in as a single father. Would be a bit hypocritical to dismiss a single mum. Have tried it before, before I had kids, it was hard and frustrating. Very limited time together, only really every other weekend. But now I have kids I think I'd understand more. Though juggling a relationship and the kids could be tough. I wouldn't want my kids to meet them until we were serious, many months in

LiamJHayden · Answer

It depends upon the specifics. A self-sufficient faithful widow with well-behaved child (ren) on the one hand is a completely different scenario that someone who is on assistance and whose kids are brats while the four ex-con baby daddies are lurking.

Anonymous · Answer

At my age knowing what I know now no I wouldn’t date a single mother if I was younger. I’ve been w the girl I’m w now for 16 years. Yes she was a single mother. But if I’m being honest the amount t of bs you have to deal w is ridiculous.

DJB72 · Answer

Since I  am  a single dad (widowed, not divorced) I'd consider it. How long I'd date her would depend on how she speaks about her kid's dad - because if he ain't dead, next time that's me...

PeachyPie93 · Answer

If I really liked the guy and his kids were well behaved I would otherwise that wouldn't be my first choice.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

i been for a short time with a single mother, it was hot, but seems she need more then just pleasure, we was in diferent stage of our life so our relationship come to an end.

exitseven · Answer

If her kids were older like high school age I would. I am not interested in raising somebody else's kid.

LazerBean · Answer

I would if I was a single mother also. Otherwise, no.

HungTexan · Answer

Not for me currently, I’m married, but with the right woman it wouldn’t be a deal killer.

Unit1 · Answer

Don't want kids.

Strongballs38 · Answer

No, but can do some fun if she like to do. My testicles are funny things and I have some ideas to do with it, which was really really fun 😊 😄

Anonymous · Answer

If she convinced me that she didn't fit the single mother profile. Which would take some effort.

ehatsham_hussain · Answer

Never needed , but it it was needed i would marry a single mom.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

"Date" her would be a polite term, but I would never take a single mother seriously.

najekim · Answer

Dated single mom. Been married to her 27 years now.

Abbycado · Answer

Nope. I date around my own age.

Rohaan2020 · Answer

I’ve dated 2 single mothers and the experience was great

Anonymous · Answer

Yes i would, I dated a married lady before, experience was good 👍

marshmallowcream · Answer

Would never say never , but rather not

molonski2 · Answer

I have previously, so I'd have to say YES.

nawtee_me · Answer

I am a single father….

Jennz6 · Answer

I want to start off with a virgin

CubaPirate · Answer

No real reason not to

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe, if she's really my type of girl.

ClassicDropout · Answer

Hell no

jahaims · Answer

Nope

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