Girls, What do you think of this type relationship?

[Anonymous]

This is what I want for the future:

I want my partner to be dependent on me

I want to be the man that takes care of the whole family.
I want to have a wife that just loves and cares for me and supports me with odd jobs and helping me from time to time.

I like the idea of working hard to give my woman and kids the best life and being loyal to them. That’s how I show love.

Sounds perfect

Sounds good

It’s okay

I don’t like this dynamic

[LazerBean]

So just to clarify what is sounds like: you want a wife who does all the traditional housewife stuff, but also work part time. Right?

[Asker]

Nah I would say sometimes do a part time job. Obviously not with kids, newborns in particular. But kids go nursery and can have carers. It would also depend on my earning potential.
It does seem unfair if I’m in the top 1%. I would think through it logically like men usually do and not think on my emotions like women do.

[Anonymous]

What you want is for her to care for house and kids and do a part time job. While you do work only. Doesn't seem that fair because being the housewife is a full time job.

If you want a trad wife then she should only care for the house and kids, you should be the sole provider. This is possible to find though many women do not want a trad life and many man would want it so you will need to search. Good luck finding your ideal partner

[Asker]

Nah I would say sometimes do a part time job. Obviously not with kids, newborns in particular. But kids go nursery and can have carers. It would also depend on my earning potential.
It does seem unfair if I’m in the top 1%. I would think through it logically like men usually do and not think on my emotions like women do.

[Opinion Owner]

Logically if you were top 1% you wouldn't need for your wife to do a part time job to help you be a bread winner (top 1% men are rich). Also if you put kids in kindergarden that a time when your housewife has time to so housechores without kids constantly needing her attention.

Then perhaps if you are looking for better equality it would be fair if you were in a modern relationship where both of you do equal parts. Put kids in kindergarden so both can have jobs, at home when you all are finally together you two do house cleaning and make sth to eat while playing with the kids (if you two would work a 9-5 that would be appx 3h of together time with the kids while doung chores because you both work) and after kids are in ved you would have a few hours together as a couple before you are both too tired and go to sleep.

[Asker]

Wrong actually. Everyone needs to have some form of work from time to time.
Housechores aren’t fun. But it’s no difficult job like owning a company and managing x number of people. I’m not saying it’s not an important job. I believe the man should be making the money and the woman should be looking after the kids and they should be very grateful to each other for the roles they play. It’s hard to compare the two.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course chores aren't fun. Thats why most stay at home moms get hobbies like yoga, gardening et al. It is hard to compare the two because both are important for their role. If those roles worked back in time when everybody was more happy why "fix" it with extra work like a part time job which in my opinion just gives the woman a disadvantage because it is not easy being home cooking, cleaning and looking after children all the time.
So i would say if she has to work part time also, then you have to clean the house and take care of kids the same hours that she works a part time job too
Both being a boss and being a mom is hard in a different way. You not respecting a womans role enough is why most women don't want that. Women want to be respected.

You are interesting because you want a trad life with a little less equality than a trad couple has. But yes if you look really really hard there may be a woman for you but honestly a trad wife is hard to find your type will be even harder due to extra work for her

[Asker]

Everyone wants to be respected. If anything men want to be respected a lot more: men don’t get enough respect nowadays. Watch any netflix show, the woman is the smart one and the man is the idiot drinking beer. They are reducing men to nothing worth respecting:
Men die for respect in wars etc…. that’s why men don’t run away like cowards when artillery shells are landing on them.

[Asker]

When men don’t get respect they just won’t want to come home to their woman. A man’s life is stressful enough the last thing he wants is a problematic and combative woman.

The way society has brainwashed woman into feminism and all this garbage is incredible. Like yesterday was international women’s day and girls I know made such a big deal about it. Why? Women haven’t been through shit compared to men. Billions of men died fighting wars to keep their women safe, doing dangerous jobs etc…

Men don’t get any respect for this. Think of the billions of men that slave for their wife……. nowadays all us men get is shit back and it thrown in our faces.

[Opinion Owner]

Being a housewife is also not respected thats why women dont want to do this. Men say that they are working and its stressful, oh boo hoo. So is taking care for the whole house and people in it. It should be an honorable thing to be a housewife.
Yes man also want respect but why shouldn't both parties be respectful to each other. Man and women do different roles in society and constantly comparing with each other (gender roles) is very problematic to both sides.
The last thing I would want from my family is to do my part in a relationship and be degraded that that is not enough work or it is not stressful enough to be a real job. Raising children and taking care for the house is hard and it is looked down on, why do it then if men think that. It is an honorable job just like some low wage jobs, someone still has to do it because it is important

[Opinion Owner]

I dont understand why men have problem with celebrating love. We have womans day and mans day, valentine is a couples celebration. Celebrating is showing appreciation for one another. Of course women love celebrating apparently we are the emotional ones, we love romace, we love getting flowers, we like things. Men are supposedly the logical ones, don't want things. If you appreciate your partner you show them that you care for them, womans day is to appreciate having women in society, mens is to appreciate men. Why is that wrong?
Feminism nowadays has gone too far. The world is trying to brainwash the society into not procreating. As a woman you are born into being a feminist and you need to be red pilled to see the world for as it is.
They slave, oh please. Either both parties do everything together or a man works and a woman works at home (thats not slavery, it pulling their weight in a relationship)

[Asker]

I think being a house wife is respected. But it’s not as hard as owning a company or a high up job. We have 10,000 issues that can happen. I do understand it very well as I’ve seen my sisters struggle as a house wife. But their partners have always been understanding and say anything else you earn would just be a bonus

[Opinion Owner]

Might be feminism that brainwashed me that it is not, i do not know. I never felt like it is respected. And man saying that it is not as hard as their job doesn't help to show it either.
As someone who isn't very keen on idea of being a housewife I gotta say that I'm really leaning in that way for my partner who I know would like me to be. I'm just saying that if he told me wants me to be a housewife and have a part-time job I would be really against it because that would be unfair to me because then I would have two jobs

[Opinion Owner]

I hope you find a girl of your dreams but if it would only be a bonus do not be too dissapointed if she would be against it. I don't think it is common to find someone who would even be a housewife this day'n'age.

[EmmaMary]

Go for it... Good luck.

[EmmaMary]

@Lgiylyly

What?

[EmmaMary]

@Lgiylyly

So why are you commenting on my post?

[EmmaMary]

@Lgiylyly

I wasn't aware that this was a competition.

[EmmaMary]

@Lgiylyly

Being very happily married with two very precious children, already makes me a winner.

[Asker]

@emmamary that’s great!

[EmmaMary]

@Lgiylyly

I'll leave you to him... But please make your comments on your own post, as I don't want to keep getting notifications... Thank you and wishing you too Good luck. x

[Agape93]

Wanting is one thing. But can you actually do it

[Asker]

Soon. Not right now but over the next few years I can pull it off easily

[Agape93]

How so?