Stared at silent treatment or little talking and talking to others more than me?

[Anonymous]

I asked out this girl at work and yes I know don’t shit where you eat. She led me on basically and I’m not gonna lie it hurt and I spoke to her more than I should have. Then I asked if she had a boyfriend and she said no but I knew she was lying. Since then I’ve not spoken to her at all. Now when I see her she stares at me with a dead look and giving me eye daggers which I ignore. I give her one worded answers and she likes to talk to people in front of me. From previous conversations I know she’s not happy with her current boyfriend or whatever she has. I can now say that I’ve moved on. Why is she so angry with me?

[ManOnFire]

Yikes. This is a classic case right here. First: absolute kudos to you for moving on and not being dumb enough to keep trying with her like some other dudes out there. But there's an issue here: you caught feelings for her and asked if she had a boyfriend but knew she already did. If you already knew that, you shouldn't have tried anything.

However, the moment she lied and said she didn't did told you everything. That means she had the intent to cheat, whether it was going to be with you or anybody else. Sorry that she's not happy with her current boyfriend, but cheating is just not acceptable.

So she could be trying to manipulate you with all these things because she's either angry that you wouldn't go through with any direct moves/asking her out, or because you really have left her trying to figure out why you won't speak to her anymore and that's what's upsetting her. So I get it that you felt like you wanted to remove yourself from that situation knowing she has a boyfriend, but that's not exactly a situation that would require you to completely not speak to her at all anymore. If anything, you should just keep things at a light hello-goodbye cordialness. You don't necessarily have to be her friend anymore, but it's not needed for you to just cut her off entirely like that.

[Asker]

I’m soo happy I didn’t end up with her. Dogged a big bullet.