She says she likes me a lot and can’t let me go but doesn’t want a relationship because she’s scared something we’ll happen and we won’t talk again?

[Anonymous]

I tried to communicate and do so much but she never wanted to talk things out I don’t think it’s fair and I think it’s bs am I overthinking this I feel I don’t deserve this after trying and she put no effort.

[misogynistic_pig]

The best option in this situation would be to accept its position and move forward without getting emotionally involved.

If she says she likes a lot, but she does not want a relationship for fear of what can happen in the future, it is important to respect her decision and not try to persuade her otherwise.

Rather than trying to force a relationship, it's important to keep perspective and remember that my philosophy promotes the idea that men should focus on themselves and their own needs, rather than basing their happiness on relationships with women.

Instead of trying to convince this person to change their mind, you might consider moving on with life, focusing on personal projects, activities, and relationships that provide fulfillment and happiness without depending on another person.

It is important to remember that each person has the right to make their own decisions and that respect and honesty are important values ​​in any interpersonal situation.

Rather than trying to manipulate or pressure someone to get what you want, it is important to be honest and respect the decisions and boundaries of others, while seeking happiness and fulfillment in your own life.

[Anonymous]

I think that's a valid fear for her. If you guys have a good friendship, the fear of messing it up from dating could be pretty intense for her. Especially if she's had the experience before of dating a good friend and losing them after the breakup.

Your feelings are also valid because I'm sure you feel rejected by her and struggle to maintain that relationship after putting in so much effort. It's a difficult situation on both sides.

I wonder if you could somehow validate both your feelings while trying to find middle ground with her. If she's open to it, you could try suggesting that you two attempt a friends with benefits situation (whether sexually or platonically) and letting her know that even if you two don't work as a couple, you two still work very well as friends. So even if things don't work out romantically, you'll still be willing to go back to being just friends. Giving her that out, that opportunity to go back to a strong friendship could just be the key in moving things forward. Gives her the feeling of safety while also giving you the opportunity to develop a more intimate relationship. And if it doesn't work out, well at least you both know where the boundaries are in your relationship going forward from that.

[KathrynTaylor]

Sounds like she needs therapy. I said something similar to another guy last year.. and needed therapy.