"Its because all these guys like her, and she doesn't wanna hurt them" - Lamest. Excuse. Ever. Girl + Mr. Right = yes every time. That means the chances of you being Mr. Right in her mind are slim.
This entire situation is being seen from a subjective point of view - you're emotionally involved with this girl and when guys are head over heels, they can't think straight. So, allow me to be objective and blunt:
"She told me she liked me from way before she went out with her ex" - Oh man, you missed the biggest trick here. If she liked you ENOUGH, she wouldn't have gone out with her ex. She's stringing you along like no other because since your head's in the clouds, she can get away with murder. Think about it. She tell you she likes you, dates another guy, comes back after it's all over and you accept her with open arms on the slim chance you guys will marry? She's done it once and knows she can do it as many times as she wants.
Solution: you could love her to pieces but if she doesn't reciprocate then the relationship is a dud. You'll walk away from her if you know what's good for you. But, to be frank, I know you're going to waste a hell of a lot time waiting for nothing because you won't walk away.
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Well most of the time a girl says they aren't ready for a relationship they mean they aren't ready for one with you lol, but if she said she wasn't gonna go with anyone else this would be the exception. If your serious enough to talk about marriage your probably close enough to just talk to her about it. That would be the best thing I think at this point, because no one can really say what she's feeling but her, and it sounds like she would give you an honest answer. It could be that her ex makes her nervous or something, or that she's scared the same kind of thing will happen and she's not ready for that kind of heartbreak. But either way I see no way to lose in talking to her.
This girl definitely wants to have her cake and eat it too. If she said you would never lose her and you were talking about marriage...then wouldn't she just want to be with you right now if she was thinking of being married to you etc. In my opinion, she definitely likes you and likes the attentino that you give her but she's clearly not over her ex. I think if she liked you as much as she says she does then nothing and noone else would matter. I mean if she told you she's just not ready for a relationship, then she shouldnt be flirting with you...or her ex.
I think you should just move on and maybe crush on someone else...and see how this girl reacts. I honestly thinks she just liked the attention you gave her and the other guys who like her give her, but don't let her play you...
Im going through the exact same thing! but I'm the girl in the situation. My guy friend who likes me is very understanding and he is giving me loads of time and I really appreciate that. He let me know he will always be there for me and that he loves me. But I'm in no way ready yet. just let her know how much you love her, trust her- big factor. and tell her you will always be there. tell her you will wait (if you honestly will). I'm sure she will gain lots of respect for you.. have you ever heard the saying "if you love something set it free, if it comes back it was meant to be"? maybe that's what you need to do...
=)im sure you will make the right decision =) best of luck.
I am not saying this si exactly why, but it may be becuase, she was reallly hurt from her ex. He may have broke her heart. She may also still have feelings for her ex. I think you should find out more about her ex. And about what happed and why they are ex's! You did not do anything, and I would hate to see you wait for such a long time and than she leaves and nothing happens. I think you also need to tell her that your not goona hurt her, and that you are here to stay.
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I've chased after a number of girls and let me tell you the marriage thing killed it. You guys aren't even together and already discussing it, she feels pressured by that and scared. If a girl wants to be with you, she will be with you. Since she's only considering it, she's not serious but you are. You're putting her in your top spot while she is giving you a 3rd, maybe 4th spot? You trust her completely and yet she never even bothered to tell you she went out with her ex. Pack your bags and run for the hills. Any girl who doesn't find time for you, doesn't deserve yours.
i JUST had this happen about 6 pm yesterday. i had went on a date with a nice woman tuesday, had dinner. it worked out fine. over two hours of talking and eating and drinking.
now two weeks earlier, she wasn't responding to messages to i went super cold turkey NO CONTACT and she asked if i lost interest because she was extremely interested and still wanted to meet...
yesterday she gave me the "i'm not ready to date, i'm still stuck on my ex, i'm sorry, i thought i was ready to date. i still want to be friends though."
so all that crap over the last month was for nothing. SHE LIED.
if it was you she had to get over, she'd be sleeping with someone the same night.
for your question...
her real answer is "i'm stuck on my ex who treats me like crap and i can't have peace of mind until i make him treat me good. so im not ready to date...you because you treat me good."
don't wait on her.Whoa dude! Are you guys both in highschool? At that age you think you know what's right for you, but remember things change. I say take it easy. It sounds like her hormones are raging...I'd just be friends with her. Wait it out...for abit. Don't rush,ok?
wow. intense. I wish I could find a guy who was serious about me. just talk to her and see what other reasons she might be thinking about.
i think that you need to act because you can't spend ur whle life waiting and waiting for asomething to happen. tell me how it goes
She doesn't like you...she just doesn't want to hurt your feelings by saying that she is not interested...I did exactly that to a guy I didn't like and it backfired on me ...I could NOT get rid or him
You should get married.
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