7 years ago when I tried to use dating apps like a stupid sucker I would always fail to get a date and even hookup because I MADE IT CLEAR to the women I would match with THAT ALL I WANTED WAS SEX.
My male friends and relatives in the other hand we’re getting lead from left to right thanks to them being borderline pathological liars
So CLEAR that women are repulsed by CLARITY. So I ask myself why give such a horseshit advice?
Ps: this is yet another reason why I rather choose prostitutes and other sex workers
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hey @TheSpaceGnome this update is for you since being a coward and blocking people is the only way you can have the last word and score a dopamine rush
why am I not surprised. you're needs to defend women like a white knight in shiny armor was enough to tell that you are a virgin loser.
also here is a tip. stop being a white knight, life is not a Disney movie. women dont reward you with sex when you stand up for them. they will instead find you repulsing as all the other nice guy
Is it me or is this the worst advice you can give a man?
Whenever I’ve been through a phase where all I wanted was casual sex, I’ve always been honest. I couldn’t lie and string a woman along, I’d feel like shit.
I lost some girls with this for sure, I was fine with that for the above reason, but I still got laid. I actually think that in a way, with the ones who were interested, it made things a lot easier.
See, when a girl sees you as boyfriend material, she’s more likely to make you wait for sex, either because she wants to make sure that you’re serious about her, or just because she doesn’t want you to lose respect for her because you think she’s too “easy”.
But when she knows it’s just casual sex there’s no need for any of that, it becomes more straight-forward and it happens much more quickly.
If you don’t get any women at all by being straight-forward like this, it’s probably just about the way you talk to them and the way they see you. They don’t see you as the type of guy they’d want to have casual sex with for some reason.
It would be so easy to play a girl but I don’t have the heart for it. I know what it feels like to be used and I’m just not into doing that to another human being.
you wanna get laid at the expense of your honour? Fine, but you have to life with yourself at the end of the day. Better to just find a girl who’s down foe what you are down for and ideally both of you are honest with eachother
It is good advice and a good way to do things, but most women want a relationship from my experience, that means you are competing with lots of other men for that small percentage of women who just want sex.
I say it is better to be honest and direct, rather than lie and say they want a relationship when all they want is sex.
@Filthy_Immigrant If they actually prefer relationships, then why are they hooking up so much? Their actions do not seem to align with their supposed desires.
@Jamie05rhs Most I know do want relationships, now the thing is they also want sex... and if they can't find Mr. 100% perfect they'll take hookups in the meantime while on the prowl for that needle in a haystack that they'll never find.
So MOST do want a relationship but most are way too picky trying to find someone that doesn't exist.
No one finds a perfect match, that simply doesn't exist. Even my parents who've been happily married forever, weren't perfect matches. You find the best possible match and compromise, work together and collaborate.
That should answer your question on why they do hookups, there are other reasons too... like I did them to try and feel like I had control over my body after being raped.
@Jamie05rhs I guess that all depends on where you are at and who you are. I’m from New England and most women here do not like hooking up. And I guess for some odd reason women don’t see me as hookup material, they see me as something to cling on to
I would love it if a man did that. I have looked for them before, but I end up having to go on a date or something then state, hey do you want to have fun or you looking for more.
I know I am rare cause right now I do not want a relationship, I am not sure that I ever will want one.
Worst advice is to be nice, women don't like nice and don't like to be worshipped.
Women will get into friends with benefits relationships where its just sex with a high quality guy that see a possible future with in the hope he will someday commit to them.
Completely untrue, I love to be worshipped and have slept with multiple virgins. For sexual relationships I could see how you could want a more aggressive approach however most women don’t want purely sexual relationships. They want companionship.
Not my experience and I’m an actual woman, so maybe try to take other people’s input into account, especially when you’re making generalizations for an entire sex that makes up almost 50% of the world population.
I agree all the way! that is why I dont even get into friends with benefits relationships either. not that is possible because after all women here in my area are not that open minded. they see sex as an element of ego boost
@lazgrl I dont know if you are aware but there is a saying that goes "action speaks louder than words"
not saying it pertains to you nor do I care if it does but when it comes to wome you have to live by that quote because a lot of women never mean what they say or say what they actually mean
I think people should be very clear on what they want from their partner. Time is a valuable thing to waste. Be honest with me I don’t wanna feel stronger about someone than they do about me. Or want a relationship and they just want sex
And it’s my choice to decide if I want more than just a fuck buddy. I rather know than a dude come and fuck me all good and never call. Some girls are ok with that and some girls actually want companionship.
"And it’s my choice to decide if I want more than just a fuck buddy."
then you better be honest about this one yourself from the start cause men hate women who are DTF one night then cling on to them afterwards since a lot of women in the west think that one night of fucking is an instant precursor to a relationship
yeah especially women. the vast majority of women who use that app will pull anything out of their asses just to deny that's a hookup app. too bad their wishful thinking dont change shit
very true. unfortunately this doesn't stop women from bitching and whining about pathological liars like you who claim they are interested in them when in reality you and these losers who are the real hump and dumpers.
luckily most women can see right through you all. but again it doesn't stop them from bitching and whining in the end, wish it did
I've never even had sex dude, I'm waiting until I find the right woman to marry, whereas you have already admitted to being a hump n dump loser in your post.
A lot of people either don't know what they want or think they know what they want. Even ones that mention wanting sex seem to want a relationship. I don't get it.
Yeah, that's funny you mention it. I always make emphatically clear that I DON'T want sex. But sometimes I think I might have more success if I lied and said that I did.
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