We send 3-4 snap pics a week but it’s just of our work etc, no real chatting, I do find him attractive but wouldn’t actually ever do anything with him as I do have a boyfriend. It’s almost like a bad habit now when I go on to my Snapchat app.
It’s your conscience and asking the question in a form that display self-conviction. Now think in terms life and the real question.
Will my free will choices cause him to leave? So, the Effect being break-up and Causes being Actions/Choices conjoined with Condition of innate knowing Right/Wrong. Yes, given you know it is wrong as evidence by Secrecy plus Choice. It is up to him, your Conscience and the degree to which your heart is or is not harden. 🎉 Have fun with mirror 🎉
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It's only cheating if you feel you should hide it from your boyfriend. Your allowed to have male friends too
The main test will be just casually dropping details of a conversation you've had in snap chat when your speaking to your boyfriend. If you can casually talk about this other guy without feeling guilty then it's not an issue.
No it isn’t but why do it? Seriously, why snap with someone you think is attractive? What’s the point of that and you really can’t be without those 3-4 snaps/week? Just stop it or if you’re not going to do that then just be open with your boyfriend about what you’re doing. Would you really like it if he secretly kept in contact and snapped with a girl he found attractive? Because I and most people wouldn’t.
It’s not cheating yet but I would be careful bc it sounds like u are developing feelings for the dude. I think this might be the reason why u avoid bringing it up to ur boyfriend. Nothing wrong with a little crush but it’s what u do about it that counts. I would say cut back on the communication with him/ distance urself if ur serious about ur relationship with ur boyfriend.
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If he doesn't know then it's disrespectful because you are getting attention from another man and you have to hide it because deep down you feel guilty of that attention given.
I tend to steer clear of women who use snapchat in general not as a specific guideline but its something that naturally happens based on other factors I'm attracted to. If they did have it though, I would expect it wiped from their device before I ever decide to commit
You should let your boyfriend know, especially if this guy is just a friend. I have friends that are girls on snapchat that I will talk to now and then, but my girlfriend knows about them.
Just like I know she had friends that are dudes. She gave me the heads up before we dated or tells me when I ask who she is talking to.
It's emotional cheating. Reverse the situation and you wouldn't like it. And as you said 'Well me and my boyfriend haven’t been in the best place for a while'. And you asking the question means you already know it's wrong.
I think if you feel guilty then it’s probably not the best idea…especially if you’re not in the best place with your boyfriend. Either dump the boyfriend and move on if you aren’t happy or stop it I reckon.
Likely emotionally cheating. I'd leave someone over that.
Social media should be deleted once in a relationship because most people can't handle it. They lack self discipline and aren't mature enough to set boundaries.
I would have said no but then you gave the information that your boyfriend doesn't know about it and just your need to mention that makes me question your intentions honestly
Ok so let's do the test. The way you talk to this person, could you talk the same way to a relativ? Like a sibling, cousin or something? If not then it might not be ok.
Just dump your boyfriend already.
If you're talking to other dudes, it's only a matter of time.
Something is 'missing' at home with your boyfriend, so you're sneaking around tryin to find it. Just end it, it ain't workincould have been platonic and innocent till you mentioned "i find him attractive" which now opens it up as mild flirting, likely some fantasies, and reeks of option in waiting.
If you have to hide it... its not good is all I can say...
Tell your boyfriend before it happens.
Let your boyfriend read everything that's been said
If your boyfriend was doing what you're doing with another girl, would you feel cheated on?Tell your boyfriend you guys snap. Talk about it. Problem solved.
not cheating but disrespectful to your boyfriend
It's disrespectful and I bet he'd be really upset if you told him. You kept this from him. It's not innocent.
If the guy's know about each other, I don't see the problem
Of course not!! What, does he OWN YOU? Are you not ALLOWED to have male friends?
Well, here on the opposite side of the world we tend to be critical with these chats and we always advice not to go through it
It's not cheating but ask yourself how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing this with another woman I think you have your answer
no as there seems to be clear boundaries and no intentions of doing anything else together
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