Is casually talking to someone of the opposite sex on Snapchat cheating? No flirting but boyfriend doesn’t know about it?

[Anonymous]

We send 3-4 snap pics a week but it’s just of our work etc, no real chatting, I do find him attractive but wouldn’t actually ever do anything with him as I do have a boyfriend. It’s almost like a bad habit now when I go on to my Snapchat app.

[Guy13]

It’s your conscience and asking the question in a form that display self-conviction. Now think in terms life and the real question.
Will my free will choices cause him to leave? So, the Effect being break-up and Causes being Actions/Choices conjoined with Condition of innate knowing Right/Wrong. Yes, given you know it is wrong as evidence by Secrecy plus Choice. It is up to him, your Conscience and the degree to which your heart is or is not harden. 🎉 Have fun with mirror 🎉

[integrale77]

It's only cheating if you feel you should hide it from your boyfriend. Your allowed to have male friends too

The main test will be just casually dropping details of a conversation you've had in snap chat when your speaking to your boyfriend. If you can casually talk about this other guy without feeling guilty then it's not an issue.

[Anonymous]

No it isn’t but why do it? Seriously, why snap with someone you think is attractive? What’s the point of that and you really can’t be without those 3-4 snaps/week? Just stop it or if you’re not going to do that then just be open with your boyfriend about what you’re doing. Would you really like it if he secretly kept in contact and snapped with a girl he found attractive? Because I and most people wouldn’t.

[Asker]

Well me and my boyfriend haven’t been in the best place for a while so I suppose I get some sort of confidence from it. I know what you’re saying tho. To be honest when I first started to snap him, I genuinely considered meeting him and he agreed but I couldn’t do it and it make me realise I couldn’t do that to my boyfriend. It’s just like a habit now. There’s no bad intentions there

[designer1]

It’s not cheating yet but I would be careful bc it sounds like u are developing feelings for the dude. I think this might be the reason why u avoid bringing it up to ur boyfriend. Nothing wrong with a little crush but it’s what u do about it that counts. I would say cut back on the communication with him/ distance urself if ur serious about ur relationship with ur boyfriend.

[Asker]

I absolutely do not have any feelings for him. We don’t talk about personal stuff at all. Maybe how’s the job but that would be as detailed as it gets. If I had feelings so him then I’d be worried but I don’t.

[designer1]

Is there a chance you in denial about it? Because the way u described the situation sounds like u have a crush. If u don’t have feelings for him then just be honest with ur boyfriend. By not telling him about this snap chat friendship, I feel like that is being a little dishonest. If it is truly nothing than just tell him u made a friend through snap chat. If you feel like u need to hide it than I’d be more worried about the reason why.

[coachTanthony]

If he doesn't know then it's disrespectful because you are getting attention from another man and you have to hide it because deep down you feel guilty of that attention given.

[Asker]

You’re right, it is disrespectful:( but I know I’d never do anything so that’s probably why I continued with it.

[Jdjfjcjj]

I tend to steer clear of women who use snapchat in general not as a specific guideline but its something that naturally happens based on other factors I'm attracted to. If they did have it though, I would expect it wiped from their device before I ever decide to commit

[ShadezMcgee]

You should let your boyfriend know, especially if this guy is just a friend. I have friends that are girls on snapchat that I will talk to now and then, but my girlfriend knows about them.

Just like I know she had friends that are dudes. She gave me the heads up before we dated or tells me when I ask who she is talking to.

[Truthatanycost]

It's emotional cheating. Reverse the situation and you wouldn't like it. And as you said 'Well me and my boyfriend haven’t been in the best place for a while'. And you asking the question means you already know it's wrong.

[Asker]

It’s not emotional cheating as I do not have any feelings for this guy. And I do not talk about anything personal with him. It’s literally pictures of work screens and mundane crap like that. It just passes a bit of time when I’m bored.

[Truthatanycost]

'To be honest when I first started to snap him, I genuinely considered meeting him '

[Asker]

Yes, but I didn’t and I think that says a lot! I was feeling unsure of my boyfriend at the time but I did realise that meeting him would ruin my relationship so I did not do it.

[CelestialDaisy]

I think if you feel guilty then it’s probably not the best idea…especially if you’re not in the best place with your boyfriend. Either dump the boyfriend and move on if you aren’t happy or stop it I reckon.

[HighValue]

Likely emotionally cheating. I'd leave someone over that.

Social media should be deleted once in a relationship because most people can't handle it. They lack self discipline and aren't mature enough to set boundaries.

[Asker]

I don’t have any emotions for him at all. No feelings whatsoever! It’s just a habit of snapping him back I suppose.

[melanieeeB]

I would have said no but then you gave the information that your boyfriend doesn't know about it and just your need to mention that makes me question your intentions honestly

[megabamse]

Ok so let's do the test. The way you talk to this person, could you talk the same way to a relativ? Like a sibling, cousin or something? If not then it might not be ok.

[Asker]

Yeah like it’s never pics of myself that are sent. And the conversations (we’ve had less that like 5) are just “how’s you, how’s work” etc. It’s not anything ever flirty!!

[VikingWarLord]

Just dump your boyfriend already.

If you're talking to other dudes, it's only a matter of time.
Something is 'missing' at home with your boyfriend, so you're sneaking around tryin to find it. Just end it, it ain't workin

[magiusX26]

could have been platonic and innocent till you mentioned "i find him attractive" which now opens it up as mild flirting, likely some fantasies, and reeks of option in waiting.

[Asker]

Yeah but he is a good looking guy. I think even when you’re in a relationship you can appreciate if someone is good looking. I have no intention of doing anything so I think that’s the main thing.

[Anemone978]

If you have to hide it... its not good is all I can say...

[In_Trance]

Tell your boyfriend before it happens.
Let your boyfriend read everything that's been said

If your boyfriend was doing what you're doing with another girl, would you feel cheated on?

[Asker]

Nothing has really been said for him to read, like I said we send silly snap pics a couple of times per week! We don’t have conversations!!

[In_Trance]

So show your boyfriend all the pictures

[Asker]

They’re harmless!

[In_Trance]

That's not for you to decide that's up to your boyfriend to decide

[LivDev]

Tell your boyfriend you guys snap. Talk about it. Problem solved.

[devilish-cutie]

not cheating but disrespectful to your boyfriend

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It's disrespectful and I bet he'd be really upset if you told him. You kept this from him. It's not innocent.

[fonduegirl]

If the guy's know about each other, I don't see the problem

[FunkyMonkee]

Of course not!! What, does he OWN YOU? Are you not ALLOWED to have male friends?

[lottiebannotie]

It's not cheating but ask yourself how you would feel if your boyfriend was doing this with another woman I think you have your answer

[d_e141]

Well, here on the opposite side of the world we tend to be critical with these chats and we always advice not to go through it

[Anonymous]

no as there seems to be clear boundaries and no intentions of doing anything else together

[007kingifrit]

it isn't technically cheating but it can only lead to cheating, stop

[Jamie05rhs]

You're sending pictures to another man? YES, that's CHEATING!

[PatriceONeal]

It's cheating. You're fucked up for doing this to him.

[Texas_guy]

If it’s something you would feel guilty about telling your boyfriend about then yes

[Anonymous]

No it is not and anyone who says otherwise is an idiot

[WanderingLoveWizard]

It's never cheating until you get caught 🤫

[Drumlin2001]

If you're hiding it then I'd say yes, cheating

[tinydiva1991]

What kinda pics?

[_Ashley__]

It's not cheating in my opinion

[ummi59]

Just stop it

[Danael31]

I'll say no.