Is flirting with someone else when you’re in a relationship cheating?

Question

I have a flirty personality but I’m married.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Depends. I mean… I was at an event and sitting with my guy… everyone else knew we were there together and whatnot… An older guy friend came in and we hadn’t seen each other in a while. (He’s an actor and came straight from his set.) I hugged him and smiled and asked what the heck he was up to etc. HOWEVER to make sure my guy didn’t feel insecure I sat next to him, our legs turned in towards each other.

Later I realized my guy was watching me like a hawk and I smiled and asked what was wrong. He said “nothing… just… the flirting.”

I’ll say it wasn’t on purpose and certainly wasn’t flirting bc the guy is MUCH older and married to a lovely woman I know well! I had to explain that to my guy as he walked me home.

Silly sometimes what guys consider flirting when they’re hyper focused on their gal.

Would I ever ACTUALLY flirt while in a relationship? No of course not. A good guy is hard to find… don’t screw around once you’ve found one.

2_beHappy · Accepted Answer

Depends on what most people understand when you speak the word ,, cheat ".
Usually , it is considered cheating , when you develop a romantic interest in someone else , other than your partner, and you begin to take actions.
In your case, it really depends on your intention when you flirt with somebody, even though you have a partner. Not to mention, flirting is practically used when you are looking for somebody to have sex with, or have a relationship with.

Also... I, on one hand, I consider it a negative trait, flirting with someone , especially if it s in front of your partner, and on the other hand, you re supposed to not feel the need to flirt another human being when you are already involved with someone

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

If you are doing it behind your wife’s back, then yes you are a cheater , just because you might not act on it , it doesn’t mean the girl you are flirting with isn’t going to act on it either? , she might take it the wrong way , and come stalk your ass or she may find out your married and tell your wife as well. why flirting isn’t a wise thing to do if You are in a relationship or you have no intentions of taking it further , I watch and read a lot of true crime and most of the cases all stem down from a partner flirting with someone else , and then their partner at home gets murdered. So you are best to no longer flirt if you love your wife and want to keep
Your marriage

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

Some people will think flirting with someone other than your spouse is cheating, while others will not. The key element is whether there's any intent to do more than flirting.

Personally, I don't view it as cheating. Often, my wife flirts with the male server when we are out to dinner together. It sometimes gets us better service. She used to be a server herself and enjoyed it when a guy flirted with her, it brightened up an otherwise boring shift.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Ah, the art of flirting! It's my aim on Girls Ask Guys to help you navigate these waters without crashing the ship, darling. Let’s not rain on your parade, but it's essential to know your spouse's comfort zone. If your partner's cool with your playful winks and charming words, you’re golden. But if it's causing tension or jealousy, it’s worth a chat. Flirting should be fun, not a red flag waving in the relationship wind! 😉 Stay playful, and keep those sparks where they belong! ✨💘

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Forget the word "cheating." Ask yourself if that violates the reasonable expectations of your partner. Would you do it openly if your partner was present? If your partner wasn't present, would you go home and tell her what you had done? Why not?

AvaRay · Answer

Ask yourself r u respectful man / not.. ?

Let's change the position, let's think that your wife who do that to u, ll u be ok with that? Ll u accept it?

What u get by flirting with other woman? Is 1 woman isn't enough for u until u still need another woman as your emotional satisfaction? how disgrace what u r doing

U should feel shame not feel proud of what u r doing..

When u r already in committed relationship with someone in your life then put respect to that commitment...

N also to your partner's feeling.. if u can't do that don't make relationship

U just waste your partner's time n make your relationship n commitment as a joke..

CorneliaUSA · Answer

You have to be in a relationship that has trust. If you asked this years ago I would have said £uck Yes. But after dating AND going through a marriage and have gained knowledge and experience, it all comes down to TRUST. Trust is a MASSIVE issue. As a woman, If you and your partner have a healthy, loving, trusting relationship, and you know that what is in his pants will stay IN his pants, then a little light flirting or looking would be fine. But.. you'd have to allow for your partner to do so as well... If you don't like that idea, then you should not be thinking about flirting with others. My ex wanted to open up the relationship and trust him, but I was not allowed to date others - only him. That is not fair.

Angelo75 · Answer

Well honestly, it's the attention u're supposed to give to your S. O.
It's a "package" reserved for that person.

It might not be straight up "cheating". But its sure as hell isn't something you would be doing without some kind of instinct, feeling or idea.
Maybe you can do a test with yourself and ask "Would I flirt with my mother or sister?"

If the answer is "no" (as it should be), then it should be a wake up call to know that it's a behaviour that is supposed to be directed towards ur wife/girlfriend.

But hey... I'm old-fashioned like that.

TrimmedTip · Answer

Flirting can mean different things to different people, but if it makes your partner uncomfortable or crosses a boundary you’ve agreed on, it could feel like cheating. Being open and honest about what’s okay in your relationship is key. A little playful flirting can be harmless if everyone’s on the same page.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Depends on  several answers to questions that haven't been asked: Do you lead on the people you flirt with? Does your wife consider your approach as cheating? Do you talk about your wife when flirting? Do you see people being led on when you're flirting with them? Do you set personal boundaries when flirting?

noohair · Answer

Flirting is part of the caveman part of the brain. Almost all men to an unconscious evaluation about passing their DNA to every woman, I am 71 and I do it too. So I see this as a normal male trait. Just as women have female traits that are normal, yet are annoying to men this is something to be accepted and tolerated.

mysteriousN · Answer

👀 🧐 "but what if your woman works as a server, waitress, etc* - or something involving professional clients or professional customers - no strip club joke there. I mean it's hard to imagine nobody out there doesn't unintentionally flirt when "service with a smile keeps the customers returning for more products" aka - customer 101 service

Ninania · Answer

Well, in my polyamorous relationship, flirting isn't considered cheating.
However, flirting can definitely be considered cheating if you've agreed to a relationship in which it is a deal breaker. There are no universal rules that apply to all relationships, you gotta figure out what kind of relationship you want to be in and then find a partner who shares your values.
If you're unsure about your partner's views on cheating, it's about damn time you figure out if your values align.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Going out of your way to do it is cheating. Some of us, though, are just naturally flirtatious. I am often accused of flirting without even realizing I am doing it.

FakeNIK · Answer

I'm not here to validate your actions, however if you feel like cheating maybe, you are. Definition of cheating varies depending on what your partner thinks. Sometimes even going on a single walk can be considered cheating or simply talking. You should talk & discuss this with your partner...

Flower7 · Answer

Do you flirt with the same person regularly? If so, that’s getting into a danger zone.

avery58 · Answer

Yeah it could be seen as such. Depends on how your wife sees it.

dustybiker2 · Answer

I like the rule. Anything you can pay for is cheating.

HelenaHandbasket · Answer

Flirting and being positive or pleasant are kinda the same thing. Unless you’re pulling your blouse neck open and biting your lower lip at him, you’re probably fine.

Ironco · Answer

I've been told I flirt with ladies all the time, I just don't see it. But I'm usually nice to everyone, sometimes I guess I go overboard and flirt and not know I'm doing it. I'm just trying to be friendly.

aquamarine321 · Answer

My question is, what is cheating exactly, because different people have a different definition of cheating, but I believe people not only cheat physically but also mentally

exitseven · Answer

No, but you have to be careful it does not get out of hand.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes. Be single if you want to act single.

molonski2 · Answer

Just because you are married does not mean you instantly loose all sexual desire or communication social avenues , there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you are doing.

SotiCoto · Answer

If the answer isn't obvious there is probably something very wrong with you.  Yes, by the way. Absolutely and undeniably YES.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I don't think so. Cheating is cheating, some men just like to flirt. My Dad flirted with women all the time, my Mum wasn't even bothered.

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

Yes and it’s called a gateway excuse, it’s good your aware of your personality and should have self discipline with it, if you want any type of lasting marriage

HeartShapedHaze · Answer

It probably isn't the best thing you could be doing

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. It's normal, expected and can be a little fun for both by keeping them passionate.

Anonymous · Answer

i think if you would feel guilty about it if your partner found out, it‘s a sign that it‘s not the right thing to do. it also depends on your partner, so you should not assume that it is (not) okay without talking with them about your definition of cheating first. personally, i wouldn‘t want another woman to have the impression that my boyfriend is interested in getting with her.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

I think it depends on what you consider flirting and what you consider cheating.

LiamJHayden · Answer

What we think does not matter. What does your spouse think? That is what does matter.

jahaims · Answer

Obviously. Flirty personality = immature attention seeker

lorenzomichael · Answer

No I don’t think that counts for cheating unless your making contact with that person your all good.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

When your wife flirts with another guy how do you feel?

MattBlair21 · Answer

Ehhh... technically it's not cheating, but if you're doing it, you might want to reevaluate your relationship.

juleyboo74 · Answer

Depends on personality - it can be, usually is, but not always

Pterodon · Answer

If you do it in front of your wife then you’re an ass

jazzy34 · Answer

Bleh. I can’t  stand  married men like you. 🤮

Twalli · Answer

It depends on the type. If you make clear that you are in a relationship and you are not seeking anything beyond just flirting (no strings and no commitments) then it should be okay.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Obviously not. What’s considered flirting is open to interpretation

Jennz6 · Answer

It’s not cheating if I just smile at a guy 💃

nojdug76 · Answer

Well a whlote of men and women do flirt in there relationship but I would prefer not to flirt in my relationship

Purpleronnie · Answer

Well …. if you have to ask !

worldscolide · Answer

Not cheating, but highly disrespectful.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I think so, yes

queenofcardio · Answer

No but it's disrespectful

236color · Answer

Cheating is when you fuck someone else.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

No, flirting is life

blackeagle007 · Answer

Downright rude for sure

Abbycado · Answer

Yeah.

mrshooiser · Answer

Duh.

Brittanyrunner06 · Answer

Of course it is.

WhatIsYourZodiac · Answer

Healthy flirting is cool

RavVid · Answer

I think so.

Staximus · Answer

No, but it's a shit bag thing to do

Bloodparadise · Answer

Only if you think it is

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

MOUTHWASHING · Answer

Yes it is

DCVsMarvel2 · Answer

Yeah

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it is

Anonymous · Answer

obviously.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes it is.

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