Is it normal if I lose interest right away in a guy who’s too nice or serious? I prefer guys with a sense of humor?

[Paulalove98]

So there’s this guy I’ve been texting a few days off an app he’s 29 , I’m 24 and he’s been kind and thoughtful but I have yet to know him but he texted a few things that made me uncomfortable already like “I missed you” “do you wanna call” stuff like that and I appreciate the gestures but I feel like he’s being somewhat pushy, he hasn’t asked me anything inappropriate but I just wish he’d be a little more I don’t know, funny or upbeat? The guy I am crushing on has a sense of humor and that’s so attractive to me and he’s not a phone person either which I find mature but I feel like I instantly lose interest in guys who are too serious and even if they look good on the outside it’s not enough to draw me in, I need a guy who’s funny and can make me laugh, I wanna be goofy with them, entertained, and do fun stuff together but the same time take our boundaries serious. I hope I am making sense here.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's completely normal to lose interest in someone who doesn't have the qualities that you find attractive or desirable. Everyone has different preferences when it comes to personality traits, and there's nothing wrong with preferring someone who is funny and lighthearted over someone who is serious and thoughtful. It's important to listen to your own instincts and feelings, and to pursue relationships with people who make you happy and fulfilled. If you don't feel a connection with someone, it's okay to move on and keep looking for someone who is a better match for you.

[Alex8736]

It all comes down to the balance of work and play. When it comes to work, school, paying bills etc then it comes down to focusing and being responsible and attentive. On the other hand we as humans have to let loose, have fun, be goofy, silly, be in good company and be yourself. Life's Too Short and I literally live each day like it's my last. 😁🍷🍸🥳😇

[PizzaPieMamaBear]

Can I be honest it looks like you’re looking for reasons to disqualify figure, not a judgment just an observation. What’s your longest relationship how long ago was it?

[Nikki1989]

Yes, I can relate. If a guy is too serious, I lose interest pretty quickly.

[Paulalove98]

I feel like people try to standardize looks with height and abs and what not but a guy can look really good and hot but if he has a shit personality I’m like goodbye lol, but some girls settle all for looks but that’s just unhealthy.. I like my crush because he’s funny, friendly,& down to earth, I could care less about him being 6 ft which he’s not but I find him super cute too so it’s a bonus, this other guy is okay but I just feel like he’s not entertaining my taste.

[serious]

I can understand what you say. It is a known fact that women like men who can make them smile, laugh and keep it humorous. I don't know why it is like that but that is very true. I know.

[Still-alive]

Very normal. A woman who can laugh and tell jokes is one of my must haves. They dont have it i can't do it.

[Paulalove98]

The thing is I feel like I’m being mean because he is nice but he doesn’t seem like the type with a sense of humor, I will meet up for sure to see if he doesn’t ask anything appropriate but first impressions matter even if it’s through phone.

[Paulalove98]

The reason i am crushing on my coworker is because he’s super funny with an uplifting spirit, he always has something interesting to say and he knows how to have fun and I don’t have fears of being bored with him, with some people I’ve felt that before

[Still-alive]

Well are you even attracted to him? If not I recommend just letting him down now. You can't force this stuff you know.

If you do have some attraction for him then sure go for it.

[Paulalove98]

I think he’s okay but so far not really, but we haven’t met.. what do you think?

[Still-alive]

Yeah i would turn him down then. Physical attraction is pretty important or it won’t work. you'll just won't feel that spark on the date.

And ill be honest i think your thoughts would mostly be on your crush at work rather than him on the date lol.

I know you feel like you’re being mean but its better if you let him go. At 29 he should understand too.

You dint have to say anything other than ‘sorry im just not that interested’ if you like to keep it short and simple.

[motownplayer2000]

Normal, for a woman.. yeah. Women get bored or lose interest over the smallest things in men. One of many reasons why relationships never last.

[Anonymous]

Cut him loose. He's wasting his time with you. He deserves a woman who appreciates what he is, not that he's not entertaining enough for her.

[WhiteBoyChill]

Lol I don’t have a sense of humor either

[HowardB]

No, nice guys do finish last

[tedbuoyy]

Hey can I DM you

[eagle1951]

nope