Is being too nice an excuse not to bother dating or getting into a relationship?

[Anonymous]

As we all know by now women are find nice guys extremely repulsing.

Me am a nice guy by default. I always had numerous of qualms about treating other people like shit unless they give me a reason to inspired me to do otherwise.

I mean I don’t know why but maybe me and Good Guy Greg might be from the same planet. I just love doing the right thing cause it keeps me at peace, but of course from the looks of it I’m not gonna find love this way and I know it. Therefore should I just withdraw myself from the gene pool?

[magiusX26]

saddly, not only is it near zero chance of finding love, there is also a much higher chance of manipulation occuring to you. higher chances of those misguided fools whom decide to use you because of your kindness, causing you to have severe trust issues, potentially ruining the 1 or more (few) time/s that a potential real partner comes along because you then wind up screwing things up from that mistrust.

[Asker]

trust me, like I already told someone else in this post. my own mother and many other family members did all the things you mentioned

[magiusX26]

same

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Nice guys and "nice guys" are not the same thing.
Women don't like weak guys who go overboard to show how chivalrous they are, and can't stand up for themselves. That's a "nice guy".

They do like friendly guys who treat them well though

(And given your responses to the other guy, you don't sound very nice to me. You sound bitter and angry)

[fonduegirl]

In many cases, nice guys are manipulative. If that's not true for you, kudos.

[Asker]

I suck at manipulating people. and growing up with a mentally ill mother that did nothing but manipulate me growing up its safe to say that manipulating is something I hate doing

[fonduegirl]

Ah I see

[clampfan101]

I’m positive I’d be considered way “too nice” by people who believe that’s a thing, but I still had a girlfriend. I’d have even gotten married to her if she hadn’t tragically passed away. And I’m sure I can find someone new despite being “too nice”.

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes. If you decide to be “nice” and fake af and not be yourself then avoid dating.

[Asker]

No fairness here. I really am a nice person. Like I said in my op I’m nice because I’m a peaceful person not because I expect it’s gonna reward me. I don’t need anyone’s reward

[BarryLiverstone]

Dude I’m also defaulted to being a positive person. But I had to learn how to stop being nice all the time. Girls say they want a nice guy and that means they want you to be nice to them but sometimes be an asshole to others when protecting your boundaries. So you may be peaceful by default but just don’t let others walk all over you

[BarryLiverstone]

by the way guys who are authentic are not repulsive

[Asker]

“They want you to be nice to them” 😂😂😂😂

[BarryLiverstone]

If course. Why is that funny?

[Asker]

Cause of how naive you sound

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not naive to say that girls want a guy to respect them and to be kind to them. That’s part of caring for someone else and making them feel safe.

[Asker]

Jesus the more you talk the more naive you sound. have you paid attention to any woman's actions? the only part I agree with you on is the "feel safe" the rest you sound like you are telling a Disney story

[BarryLiverstone]

Oh my name is Barry. But I’m glad you are not the peaceful person you claimed to be

[Asker]

just because you are offended does not mean I'm not peaceful.

[BarryLiverstone]

I wasn’t offended. Can’t remember the last time I felt offended using gag. Seems kinda silly letting a free online app offend me

[fonduegirl]

Girls want to date nice people, but if you let people use you like a doormat... Yep, not so attractive.

[fonduegirl]

You should know when NOT to be nice.

[fonduegirl]

It's like being bullied. You might be nice enough to not tell on your bullies but the said bullies are not going to appreciate you looking out for them or whatever. They'd say you lack a spine 😬

[BarryLiverstone]

She’s right