Can you be too nice for a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Ok so here’s the thing I have always wanted a relationship as someone on the spectrum it has always eluded me going through childhood into adulthood many around me wondered when I was gonna find a relationship. My personality is completely centered around genuine kindness I would never call her out of her name I would never abuse her. If I did something to upset her I would apologize and make it right. I do read on various site here, YouTube and other places that women don’t want men like this they want guys who aren’t doormats let me clarify I’m not a doormat I do speak up and defend myself I don’t just take abuse but I’m a respectful person. Anyways they say women see men like this as weak so how can you hope to find a relationship when you are hard wired to be this if a guy is fake nice he can turn it off but if you are a genuine kind person which I am because it shows in all faucets of my life how do you have a chance. Nice is boring

[Billlewis]

That's been my Achilles heel for years, but I just keep going, because I'm rewarded by every opportunity I receive with which to please the female.

[Dnice1]

Not to my knowledge. In my opinion it's better to be nice especially in a relationship. It's something that is hard to find these days. Kind people are the best kind of people (no pun intended) 😊

[ItsMariusz]

If you're too nice people take advantage of you.

From what you described, you're a nice person, but I don't know about too nice, which is good.

[ValeriusDover]

Being nice will not get you a relationship. You will be single for life with that attitude. Your only chance is to become an asshole.