Dang we are basically on the same level. I agree with you and feel the exact same way. I also feel too weird dating a guy younger than me and they have proven to me time and time again that they are just not on the maturity level that I am looking for.
I have always found older men really attractive. But there is some things that holds me back. Maybe it's because I've somehow come across the creepy ones that are barely a step away from a pedophile but I have had older men into me that were just so disgusting about it.
They weren't trust worthy, level- headed, like normal lol not sure how to put. Like they saw me as a sex object. I've met one too many like that, dirty old men and it's hard to see older men in a dateable way when I've met too many like that and actually find a normal one that isn't a bastard basically lol.
Even though I think older men are sexy, I also wonder if they are normal in the brain section and is for some reason hard to find? At least that is my fear and how I think.
They are wiser, they are basically an old dog you can't teach new tricks to. I can assume that they'll be too hard set in their ways which I wonder if that is healthy. It would be healthy for a woman who doesn't care and wants their husband to dictate their life, but for someone who wants to be heard, their opinions considered and to talk things out.
I can picture an older man who feels he is always right or too dogmatic because he's older and believes he has a saying in everything no matter the situation except for of course womanly duties around the house. You would have to find someone who doesn't shut out your opinion just because he assumes everything you know is young foolish ideologies.
That's something women way older than me in their 80s-90s have told me about having a successful marriage after so many years. They told me to avoid men who are controlling and who are bossy. Any age can be that way but just something to look out for.
Another thing I fear about older men is that I assume they have a lot of baggage from a divorce. Something I noticed, which I mean they are only human to get upset, but after a divorce I feel like some older men let it ruin their personality. They just hate all women after that and treat them horribly because they feel horrible. I don't know about you, I would never want to have someone like that in my life.
Anyway, I ended up going down a rabbit hole of the many things I think about when it comes to dating.
For me I generally date up to 5 years younger and 10 years old.
I've dated guys much younger than me (8 years) but usually feel like they still have life lessons to learn. They tend to still be carefree about things I take more serious.
I've also dated to guys significantly older than me (16 years) and find that they are more humble and have they're s**t together a little more than I. So I feel like the carefree one.
I enjoyed other but I still lean towards dating older men. My most current prospects are 3 years younger, 1 year older, and 2 years older (yes I am currently talking to, not sleeping with 3 men. Sue me!)
Is this really an age question or is it more about our assumptions of what older vs younger partners do or don't do? Other than women's biological clocks, what difference does it make?
Ignoring the children question for now, if our personalities clicked, I would date a 60yo woman who shared significant interests and was sexually compatible.
Lately, I've dated women close to my age that are tired. Tired spiritually, intellectually and experientially. Confounded with that, they're willing to make love once a week. I suspect, their preference is even less. Our interests are in line, but they all seem... old.
My first girlfriend was 14 when I was 16.
I never dated anyone who was older than me. The biggest age difference was one girlfriend who was 30 when I was 36. She and I lived together for over a year.
All my girlfriends were on the pill.
When I say girlfriend, I mean an exclusive, infatuated, sexual relationship. They were all probably Christian and at least believed in God, but they weren't into your version of "traditional". Not that there's anything wrong with that if that's what you're into.
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I’m not comfortable with dating a guy who is younger than me. Also, I am 18 and in the first year of uni, so dating a guy who is in high school, even if he is a senior, would be weird. I prefer 18-21. I’m not really looking anyway. I have more important things to focus on.
Id go either or it just depends how mature the guy is but right now im seeking someone close in age or older since i want something long term and only one guy who was younger which i dated was mature in ways but other ways not so mature, the oldest would be probably 36 maybe 37 and im 24 going on 25 this October.
Twenty five to forty five. I'm slightly confused. A previous question you mentioned you don't plan to date or marry. I suppose that means you're open to it but don't think it's possible to find whom your looking for.
I don't know I never thought I would date down much but lately I keep getting involved with young guys in their early 20's... they seem to like my baby face :P
As for older I am too immature for the older gents I still want to have fun since I feel I missed out on so much life.. I haven't lived much... guys the same age just seem like assholes.. or I keep attracting them because I am an asshole.. who knows...
25-33. I could make an exception for an exceptional woman, but some views (or lack thereof) could be a non-starter. Lacking traditional Judeo-Christian morals and values would be a problem.
I seriously dated a woman a few years older than me a few years ago... Not saying I'd never do it again, but I understand why most people with a preference prefer the men to be older.
Im 27. I am willing to date men 27 to 36.
Young guys are immature. And i can't grow old with someone who is already old. I dont want to find myself married to a senior citizen by the time i am 45
As a guy l would want a girl to be other than me by 1 year max. As far as younger goes if she is barely legal I’d hit that. If she is young she might be a virgin with a sheltered mind. She continues to wear not so sexy panties that is really basic, big, and cheap from when she was teenager. if she kept wearing Hanes granny panties into her 20s I would love it.
i’m currently 25 and my cut off is 21, if she younger than 21 then most she could be is a friend. And in all honesty, 21 is even a bit young for me too, so the closer to my age the better for me
I'll be probably 25+ by the time I date so I think the highest would be 30yrs. old. Depends what I want in a relationship though. If young then they must be around the same age as me, but older.
I used to be very strict about age. Now I'm trying to be more flexible and open. I don't think I could date a man much older than me nor one who is much younger. That being said, my preference now is 27 to 33.
I would date from 18 to 65. Would you like to go out some time?
sometimes dating a much older man can be nice at least for me i prefer giving my boyfriend blowjobs and older men are much kinder and nicer less likely to do drugs as well.
I wouldn't date younger and older maybe up until 8 years older... for now, who knows what the future brings
Mostly I dated men who were 2-5 years older
I'm married now but when I was dating, I never dated guys younger than me. If I had to assign an age to dates, I guess I'd go from whatever my current age to 10 years older. 🙂
My dating days are over. The range that I did date way back then was 7 years older and younger than me
I like people my age
Like my wife is older then me by 4 days. That's right she is 4 days older than me
Every person I have been with, all been within a yr or less of my birthday
I would date from 21 to 28. I dont like age gaps and i only want to date with people close to my age.
Age is not so relevant, but rather we have something in common and she has a brain.
But one can't beat the charms of youth.
My dating days are over as I am married, but when I did date, I always dated older.
Wouldn't date anymore then a year or two in either direction
Oldest I dated was ten years my senior.
I would never date women younger than me.
Age is not as important, as having enough stamina to keep up. I am a busy body.
3-4 years younger/older than me. It's not much about years, but generations are getting too different to understand each other.
It's fine as long you two can find sth in common.
Other than legal consenting age; a woman who is likely older than 25.
I don't like to set age parameters. But let's just say I don't see me dating younger than 30 or older than 55. But I'm not even looking so...
I'd date a couple of years older and roughly 5 years younger given my age but that would probably change when I hit 40, I reckon 10 years younger by then is still good if you can get it
I will date only around my age ranger and 5 years younger than me. Aslo they must have a passion for Christ and putting others before themselves.
I’m not strictly adherent to it. But I would preferably date 24-34.
So im partial to younger men.
So imma say 24-51. I'll date you and your dad 😈
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I like dating a girl younger than my age, at least age 21-38.
I generally date older. 21 would be the absolute youngest limit. Highest? Unknown. I once dated a lady 17 years older.
I'm 33 and lowest I'd date is 30 and oldest I'd date is 40.
At 28, 25 - 35
Gotta get away from the uni girls
I am 25, so -5 and 10 of my age is something I try to stick too but really what matters is of we click, if we don't then age doesn't matter.
Any age is acceptable for me. I ain’t biased.
As a man, I wouldn’t date a girl older than me, unless she was exceptional.
I don't think I would date older at this point. Younger, as far as I could.
@cth2188 To be honest I'm not comfortable dating woman over the age of 30. Thus, I only date a woman in early or mid 20s.
The youngest I'd date currently is 24 and the oldest would date is prob 28
Young maximum 27 probably, 30 even old no limit
I'd say 20-60
What would you have to talk about with a 20 year old?
@Anjoomkabir: I always laugh when I see someone say something like this. It's not as age-dependent as you think, and, furthermore, I'm a student in a program with women who are mostly 22-24, plus I was a high school teacher and taught mostly 17/18 year olds as recently as last year.
It's about what you have in common with them as far as interests go, including intellectual interests.
13 to 16 and mostly 14 or 15.
10 years, up or down 👆 👇
Probably up to 45 I would go.
Legal age, its all just a state of mind.
24 youngest, 37 oldest
How old are you
Not much age gap!!
Youngest 25-28.
Oldest 30-31.
18-25
19-24
20-23
17 is the youngest. 30 the oldest.
5 years
18-28
18-65
Mid 20s to miss 30s
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