How long can you date someone that can't speak your language?

[MementoMori777]

Or is that a deal breaker? 😂

[Miristheiss]

Forever. You can marry them.

If you both really seem to like each other then start learning each others' language.

Label everything in your house and their house with the saying and spelling of that word in their language and have one day to where you two will just speak in that language, total immersion and then on another day you'll speak only your language.

Your thread title seems to operate from the premise that you can't learn each others language. You can.

[MementoMori777]

Homie got solutions no lie 😂

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Can they read and write in my language or is there a complete barrier where I have to know theirs?

If they can understand it but can't speak it, I'm golden, but otherwise, I've forgotten too much Spanish and French to not have a conversation at all.

[MementoMori777]

Nope nothing, y'all can use a translation app tho lol

[cryscrys1]

Google translate lol
If you are a non English speaker with a non English speaker is perfect because you make sense of mistakes easily.
I have noticed with native English speaker is annoying how they repeat what I just said or write because it’s sooo unclear to them 🙄 like try a little hardER maybe you won’t choke and die

[MementoMori777]

I'm sure you lose patience after a while, I guess it all depends on patience

[Agirlinneedhelp]

If we don't have any language in common then definitely no. But if they speak good English (not my first language either) then it's totally okay!

Long-term though, I think biracial couples should try to learn each other's languages to some extent even if they have another mutual language.

[MementoMori777]

Yea that makes sense ha

[TrueConfection]

Let's say I'm vacationing in Italy and meet this man. I guess I could put up with the language barrier for about a week. 😋

[MementoMori777]

So how would you break his heart after that week? Lol

[TrueConfection]

He'd probably be relieved to finally get rid of me.

[MementoMori777]

I guess I'll take your word on that

[happyfoetus]

It was fun at first as I could show off my boyfriend, who everyone thought was a catch. But eventually I realized I need a guy who speaks my language when I cry in sadness than translate.

[MementoMori777]

Yea no lie I never thought of that either

[Sour-rose]

30 seconds. they won't get my humour I think aaaand I'm now feeling like this is a waste of time

[MementoMori777]

You know, I never thought about how humor would play in the situation 🤔😂

[belle_kai]

It couldn't work. We'd have to speak the same language. I love deep conversations and learning from someone vice versa. I'm definitely a sapiosexual

[MementoMori777]

Yea that's understandable

[Apulu_Imback]

I guess I can become familiar to their language by staying with them for long. Same goes for them. Otherwise English is always an option.

[MementoMori777]

But what if you gotta tell the person something fast? Lol

[Apulu_Imback]

I'll always carry around Alexa with me or keep Google translate open in my phone lol

[MementoMori777]

That is an unusual habit, I'm sure you got a reason tho ha

[Apulu_Imback]

Then again, I was never an usual human being at the first place.

[MementoMori777]

That's what makes you unique tho 😂

That's one way to tell the difference between you and a clone, I'll be like pull out your phones 😂

[Apulu_Imback]

LMAO 🤣

[slatyb]

That's a deal-breaker for me. I need someone I can talk to easily.

[MementoMori777]

That makes sense, seems fair

[Agape93]

Not a deal breaker. You just need to put more effort into it.

[MementoMori777]

Yep like translation

[Agape93]

Or learn the language or make a pidgin language together.

[MementoMori777]

Interesting ideas 🤔

[Ben487]

I can do it. It would be an interesting relationship. I bet I could last long enough to learn what they're saying.

[MementoMori777]

That's patience mastered no lie

[genericname85]

if they speak perfect English, that's gonna be fine. for me English is a second language by the way.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough

[Blackcupcake]

not a dealbreaker at all, as long as we both have a common language we can communicate in

[MementoMori777]

That's what I mean, no way to communicate verbally lol

[Blackcupcake]

Im multilingual… lol, if we can’t find any common language then yes that would be a dealbreaker since not being able to communicate would be extremely stressful

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough 😂

[Anonymous]

lmao I don't know why you'd even think of dating them if you can't even communicate with them!!

[MementoMori777]

You can communicate with them just slower, I've been considering it no lie, because the women in my country just don't seem to be it lol

[Minahh]

Not a deal breaker at all. I have a perfect English and in this age it would be weird if he doesn't know the basics.

[MementoMori777]

Really? I don't think so if they never even heard English before lol

[Minahh]

What is he? Tribal man?

[MementoMori777]

Imagine 😂😂😂

[Still-alive]

if after i've made myself really clear through open honest communication they still haven't gotten it... i might just go ahead and leave.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough, homie's patience is nonexistent 😂

[Still-alive]

well if they don't know might as well try telling them lol. they aren't mind readers

[MementoMori777]

How would you communicate with them, hand gestures? 😂

[Still-alive]

no i mean tell them what my love language is lol. its actions and words together.

[MementoMori777]

Or you can just pull out a translation app 😂

[TacosRAwesome]

A while. Half the people I dated didn't speak my main language.

[MementoMori777]

Interesting, fair enough

[zagor]

I met this cute girl from Peru but my Spanish is very limited so it didn't go anywhere.

[MementoMori777]

You didn't want to use a translator app?

[zagor]

It was on a snorkeling trip so I didn't have my phone.

[jujus]

My dad didn’t speak English well when he first met my mom now he’s pretty decent at it my mom doesn’t know his language all. Same goes for his friend. Pretty bad at it but it’s enough to make out what he’s saying. They all been married for years with kids of course, no translator at all.

[sheikalana]

As long as they can speak proper English I’m good. For the past six years I haven’t dated anyone who speaks my mother language.

[Quackthulu2]

Depends on how long it takes to finish.

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough quacky

[NathanDavis]

why even try...

[MementoMori777]

Oof 😂

[NathanDavis]

to me... "dating" means getting to know one another, and if you can't have a basic and decent communication, that's just not possible

so the aim would be something else... lol, I don't do casual stuff

[MementoMori777]

With more effort it's possible, there's translator apps lol

[NathanDavis]

you know some Spanish right? so you know how wrong a translator can go sometimes, lmao

[MementoMori777]

You ain't wrong about that 😂

[Anemone978]

Deal breaker I wouldn't even attempt it..

[MementoMori777]

Fair enough