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Yeah, I did. My ex and I are both Indians but there are 100+ languages in India, lol. I speak 3 languages fluently (Tamil, Telugu and English) and my German is a bit rusty. He spoke neither Tamil nor Telugu, he only spoke Hindi and English but understood Tamil so we communicated primarily through English. Sometimes, I would say something in Tamil, and he would reply in English, lmao.
I've been volunteering at an ESL site online for a couple of years now. Then a few months ago I started tutoring in person. I have a Japanese student who knows very little English and I know zero Japanese. I would date her in a minute if she wasn't married.
Google Translate is pretty damn good. We can communicate with no problem using it. We use voice, and have instant translation. It's wrong sometimes, but it does a very good job - far better than it did not long ago.
She knew some book English before I started with her, but she knew very little spoken English. In just a few months we are able to do basic communication by voice. It takes some effort. It also helps if you are comfortable with silent periods. This student also drives home just how much communication is non-verbal body language.
Ouch. That's a tough one. Communication is so important in a relationship. I think it would depend on what brought us together. Like, I can't see wanting to date someone based on looks alone. There has to be some other spark and I don't see that spark coming without the language. I'm trying to envision some movie-esque scene in Paris or Rome and meeting someone in a coffee shop but that just seems trite and movie-esque.
Well in 2022 you could easily meet someone in paris and communicate with them using an app on your phone but sooner or later if you really like them I would think you would
WANT to learn the language.
Exactly... for most they will never have a situation like this but it's fun to think about.
At all? I don't know cuz how could you communicate, or even get to really know someone if they can’t speak or understand your language or you theirs🤷♀️
Well you can always start with the app on your phone but sooner or later you would have to learn the language.
The question makes no reference to you understanding their language or not. I think what the question meant is more this: does it bother you not being able to speak your mother tongue with your partner?
Also note that s lot of people here are not native English speakers.
@spearheadbt2 I understood the question just fine. But communication works both ways does it not. I think it would bother both partners if they can’t communicate or understand their partners
@Brainsbeforebeauty miss brains muffins do not know a single word in my language but i do know her language, that's where the magic starts 🤣🤣
@TonyMetal___86 who said I don’t know yours? Okay I don’t, but you didn’t REALLY know that real I said it. Anything else would be an assumption😁😂
Spending too much time with psychics eyyyy sponge, are you sure you ain't at the mardi gras right now? 😁
@TonyMetal___86 nope cooking chicken😁
The smell is reaching my room on the other side of the planet 😋🍗
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This was my instant association to your question:
Sure, we would teach other how to communicate in each other's language. Or, maybe there's another language that we both know.
I have heard of a few instances where two people who didn't speak any common language at all , date and fall in love then get married. One guy told me that when he first dated his ex wife, she only spoke 1-2 words of English. Honestly , I don't believe its love at all. Its just lust. or what people like to call "love at first sight" type bullshit. You can't fall in love someone you can't communicate with or can't understand
I'd forgive anyone for not knowing Swedish and taking a liking to them on the romantic/butterfly level.
Most people know some words in English these days or can relate to it with body language. I talk superb English.
Not really a problem.
Not something I've experienced or seen happen, but I wouldn't be against it either. Most of people I know are big on dating within the same culture/ethnicity so everyone pretty much speak the same language.
Hopefully the language isn't Mandarin or Hungarian, since I heard those are among the hardest to learn.
I have before. A 6'2" Korean woman who I would talk to via Google Translate. It didn't last very long. She said (through translation) she needs someone who can speak Korean.
But yes, I am open to it.
wait you dated someone? lol had no idea
Been there and done that. Not for me. It's not difficult with chemistry to form the early part of the relationship and have great fun and curiosity towards each other in the beginning but it's very difficult to go beyond unless one starts to learn the other's language very seriously.
I'm factoring in all the tech available nowadays including ones that allow us to speak into a phone and output a voice in a new language. That works fine for getting to know each other and having enormous fun and adventure together but it's not exactly the type of thing we want to be doing in a conflict situation that demands mutual understanding to resolve it.
I like learning languages a lot. And I think dating someone who only knew a different language would help us both learn new languages and would give us great communication skills because we have to communicate with just feelings and not the use of a baseline language.
"Yes, that's real love. It doesn't matter if they lived on another planet, you would still wanna be around them."
According to my girlfriend I am also dating my dog.
Having said that, I actually understand what my dog usually wants because her barks are of different tones. Also she nudges a doorknob if she wants to go out.
P. S. my girlfriend is joking about it. She loves my dog as much as I do.
Don't know my mother language? Fine, if they can't speak English nor French either, I guess I'd bother to make effort for it, as long as it isn't indian languages, Korean or Mandarin, I think I can learn it overtime.
Absolutely! In fact, I want to date someone who doesn't speak my mother tongue (which is not English). I would learn quickly, I'm interested in learning languages and it would be so much interesting. It would make me be attracted to him even more.
It seems unlikely but I guess it is possible depending on the person and the situation. The problem isn't really about preference it is just how you communicate. If that can be solved then for the right person yes I guess I would date them I just have trouble imagining how this would start to begin with and how it could progress enough to become serious.
Probably not since there's a language barrier. I have picked up a few words and sentences in Spanish that's mostly just from being around them and them saying that word or sentence often enough that I just pick up on it eventually.
I'd probably give it a try, even if we had to communicate through some translator app first.
There's no certainty as too how long I'd be able to put up with it however.
Yea, but then I speak his language (English) so not much of an issue here. I’d date anyone as long as we can communicate in one similar language.
She would have to at least speak some English I better really be in love with her. I don't think not understanding each other would work. That or I would have to speak her language but I don't really know any others
For me if you like someone at least you can do this much to her/him... And it will be a good thing if other person do the same
Bonus learning a new language won't be a thing. Maybe it might help you someday really.
Yeah I think most people will never get the chance to really have this happen but damn if I liked em I would certainly try.
How would I ask her out if we didn't speak the same language. No I wouldn't date someone I couldn't speak to
I guess FOR YOU there is no way to ask her out if you don't speak her language. Maybe she will find someone who is a bit more creative.
I think if people move to a certain country they should learn the language of that country. We should not have to learn their language unless we go to their country
For a hookup it's possible. For anything else even if I wanted we couldn't do anything about it. This one time I had a ukrainian girl crushing on me and we tried using our phones for translation but, it gets old real fast. Although the whole thing has an exotic feeling to it and we both tend to fill in the blanks with with our imagination, making part of the flirting even easier.
Of course not. That would be on the “extra” end of the dumb scale. I tend to operate on the other end.
How do you think I learned Spanish 😂
dame cabeza mami🤣
You sick bastard lol
Hey she is the one that taught it to me lmao
Don't think I actually ever dated someone who spoke my language, lol
Not interested in the slightest.
I want a woman who is far more literate in the English language than the average English speaker.
I mean you laugh, but dating with a language barrier is laughable.
If I have to teach her the English word for chair, we aren't going to be having conversations about scientific paper validity anytime soon... (or possibly at all if after teaching her basic English, I find out she's dumb).
How would you even gauge a person's intelligence, character, or preferences when you don't speak the same language?
I wouldn't even be able to know what kind of person she is, what her hobbies are, how smart she is, her talents, etc. and incompatibility in those things are dealbreakers for me.
I actually have. We had a foreign exchange student who spoke Spanish and like year 2 English. And I was in year 2 Spanish. And we both thought we were hot, obviously that carried the relationship. Lol but we would mumble through conversations so badly but we made it work. It was fun and my Spanish actually got much better as well as her English. I have pleasant memories of the whole thing and I'd do it again.
I've dated a couple of foreigners in my country. We just spoke English, no big deal.
Yea, my ex is australian x dutch, he only speak English, so sometimes he asked me what the things are in my language, i taught him, same as him who taught me some of dutch language while he was learn dutch.
Not anymore. I dated a couple people who didn't speak my first language but spoke English quite well.
I think it's probably waste of time... but sometimes I feel like it's an adventure... perhaps sorry because I hate adventures so I don't even think about this issues
If I thought it would be serious I probably would and try to learn and use a translator to communicate
Depends on the language... it can be too hard or too much work
because I have fallen in love with a foreign man before and I believe that it can really show you how many different ways love can come to you. No matter the way someone looks, the way they speak, or what they are educated of I personally feel that Love is Love no matter what.
People here do realize this question is mostly meant to people whose mother tongue is not English? Or native English speakers who speak the other person’s language, say Spanish? It is of course ridiculous to date someone and have to rely on an app for communication…
Generally no it would be really hard to communicate but I wouldn't mind if they only spoke like English, cause my English is pretty close to my German skills
Yeah you cannot learn another tongue without having that tongue touch yours
I don't see how that would work. It's kind of important to be able to communicate to form a relationship.
Nope, both my exes had other fluent languages as well as enhlish, I did dabble with one of them
Nu, few people whom I dated, if any, speak any Russian. They can speak English or American, none of which are my languages, but I understand them, somehow.
No, they gotta know English, but I'm open to learning their birth language if I plan to have a future with them and live in their country
Yes I would but if I'm looking for another companion. Eastern European women love to cater to their man.
I wouldn't cause I'd have no way of communicating with them.
Me I do not like you
Him oh you like do nuts
When a "senorita" say from Mexico/Chile is near by, oh, oh white boy/brotha,"Oh, I know poquito spanoL".. When everybody/anybody knows some Spanish.
google translate is your friend
yup yup
Might as well buy a dog.
Sure. Siri could talk us through it.
Yes, if i liked them enough. Why not?
Besides--there is the language of love... you don't need a language for that...;) I think as ling as you both get along and there is attraction between the two of you, it should not be a problem to learn one another's language. There are so many ways to communicate these days in a different language.
I really don;t think so.
no time for that.
Would be excited to learn new language XD
won't be an issue
Yes, totally
Body language?
What about it?
@coachTanthony if you can’t speak the language, let you body do the talking
I think my language app on my phone would come out before I start trying to flip gang signs lol
No, that would be too frustrating.
I’m sure we’d get along great! 😆
No wai
Yes and I have.
FUCK no.
God Bless
I have enough problems with my own language
Nope
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