Would you date someone who didn't speak your language?

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And you don't speak theirs?  If you have ever done it, how did it go?

Anon621 · Accepted Answer

Yes. The main way I communicated love is through actions. Actions are something that can translate to many different people of many different cultures but some people may see certain actions a different way. I do believe that most people would probably want to fully communicate something on their mind such as a stressful week and they want to cuddle or perhaps talk about something they are angry about because there partner did something the other person dislikes. I am studying about something called emotional intelligence. Emotinal intelligence is extremely relevant in this case because people that have high emotional intelligence can correctly perceive emotions that other people convey non verbally as well as conveying emotions within themselves. I would make an argument that if you have two people that both have a high amount of emotional intelligence then words are not quite necessary and all you need is to be able to look at how a person is acting and then you can make a decision using actions. For example, if you spot your partner being sad you can just comfort them without saying anything or you can pass them a tissue box so they can dry their tears by themselves. If a person is angry towards you but they don't speak your language anger is usually expressed in the form of shouting which requires the action of listening. Sometimes people will be angry at you and it can be hard to determine but that will require knowing the person over a long period of time and noticing small details of how that specific person acts when they are angry or that person is sad. I have never had any experience up to this point of dating people that did not speak a completely different language than I did but I did date a really quiet shy girl one time and she rarely talked or just always agreed with me but I wouldn't really count that since we still spoke the same language.

andreasderjuengere · Accepted Answer

If there's absolutely no vocabulary in common, I see no chance to interact other than doing the rabbits.

Here: I know just a few phrases of the local language, and my Missus speaks English on a basic level only because before she had little chance for practicing. With a lot of patience and awareness of possible misunderstandings it does work though.
(would you have thought that ''lamp from sky'' is a lightning? :) )

I appreciate this language barrier: it prevents meaningless conversations (waste of time) and makes me a lot more sensitive/empathic about communication in general.

Purple_Rose · Accepted Answer

I tried to date someone who was bilingual when I was in college, but I ended up not dating him because he had a wife and children back home in Puerto Rico. I wanted to somehow reach out to her and let her know what her husband was doing, but there was no way I would be able to communicate with her because I didn't speak Spanish and she didn't speak English. He not only tried talking to me, but he was a bit of a player and was known around campus as a fuckboy. He slept with half of the women's soccer team, a few softball players, a professor and a few of my friends.

Puppystarfish23 · Accepted Answer

Its really awkward when there's a language barrier in a relationship. I've had foreign men approach me before and they will try there best but it's kinda hopeless if you can't understand each other. Clear communication is one of the most important parts to a relationship

Account · Answer

Yes, of course, we could always speak English.

Lanabear119 · Answer

No, because how would we communicate? Through google translate? No. That’s a waste of my time if I can’t understand what’s he’s saying to me. And I would say most people at least know a little English. It would be weird if you didn’t. Except for elders.

flamiE · Answer

Yes. In fact, I’d rather date someone who doesn’t speak my language lol English is my second language and there’s always room for improvements. If his mother tongue was different from English but we could still communicate well enough for me to fall for him, I’d be willing to learn his one so we could communicate even better. But if we didn’t have a common language then no.

MBTYNCRNT · Answer

I did... kinda... was the 2nd guy I ever dated and was the first one I was ever physically intimate with. He came from Hong Kong so he spoke Cantonese. His English was okay but not great. It was pretty difficult and our different backgrounds just wound up not meshing. Plus he was in his 20s and I had just turned 16. He was an ass most of the time. Oops sorry tmi. Lmao... anyways its hard and takes work but I think if people really care for eachother they would try to learn the others language...

Avicenna · Answer

Well, it'd be fine as long we have a common language even if we don't speak each other's native language.

I've dated a number of women who had a different native language than mine, but we could still communicate in English or one of the other languages I speak.

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I mean. I don't know how I could tell if I liked them if I couldn't even understand them. I'd have to be going solely off of looks and I'm not usually shallow lol. Let's say for some reason I did like them so much for reasons other than looks, I might try and learn their language.

psychoticanimaIIover · Answer

Most people don’t speak troll, but I wouldn’t hold it against them.

TruthBringer · Answer

I have dated someone who doesn't speak my native language. Our communication was all in English. It was a long distance relationship so that is pretty much self-explanatory. Wasn't worth every second I spent on it.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Am from middle east, i speak aramic and arabic, plus English. Moved to Sweden 2005, am in a relationship with a Swedish woman since 2009, we had our ups and downs with communication but we are doing pretty well now.

SphynxUK · Answer

I don’t know how it would work.
My partner isn’t English but speaks it very well.
He told me about a girl he used to date for a few years. She wasn’t from his country and also didn’t speak English! They got by with the odd word and google translate lol.
I guess you’ll try and make it work if you make the connection!

boboho · Answer

Not. It was terrible not being able to communicate and be close to him and his family. I guess if it was just a matter of "feeling can understand" it might be yes but not forever. I bet good relationship is based on good communication. If language becomes a hindrance, I'll learn. But it must be difficult because I also want him to understand my language too

Miristheiss · Answer

Interesting question.

How would they interact at all and be able to communicate?
Is someone around who is translating all the time?

In theory yes... if there was a way to communicate initially. If you could communicate somehow, if you were crazy about them you would learn their language quickly.

I always imagined if I were with someone who had a different mother tongue other than English and it was a language I didn't know that I would learn their mother language.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I haven't but I think I would if he can speak English, that way we can communicate. It could still be frustrating at times when misunderstandings arise but if both people are willing to try then it may be worth it.

wkozak · Answer

English is my second language but if you mean that she can't speak English so it will depend on how much i like her, if i'm charmed and totally love her i will learn her language or trying to teach her mine, but it will be difficult to understand and communicate with each other.

Unit1 · Answer

Of course. There's always English. Or so i hope? We'll figure it out. Translator is always to the rescue.

but they don't want me, who doesn't speak their language. So i still have to get back to Germany.

JackSmy · Answer

Or a deaf person? Either way, you have to learn to communicate, between you both, and that can really help unite, and help make you feel closer!

sheikalana · Answer

For the past four years I've only dated people who don't speak my language neither I do speak their language however, we communicate in English.

Anonymous · Answer

Gee, a woman who couldn't talk to you-what would there be to do other than make the beast with two backs? And no endless conversations about the minutia of her day? No endless phone calls and non stop all day texting? Just doing stuff together and sex? What guy WOULDN'T want such a girl?

Anonymous · Answer

No- it’s just a hustle and I bet both parties would be frustrated not being able to freely communicate with each other.

electromagnetic · Answer

I speak quite a few languages and so does my fiancé. The only language we have in common is English. I’ve been trying to learn to speak his native tongue and he’s done the same for me. Just a few phrases here and there but it’s a start.

shinnaeun · Answer

I mean I guess I'd speak anything other than Korean? So it wouldn't be a problem, thank fully, I've never this problem since I've always been with someone whom I can clearly communicate with linguistically wise.

ChloeDoeTho · Answer

Human beings are still alive to this day because of a few big reasons but one is that we're always learning and always can learn there's almost no limit to that if your willing to learn that is.
Also I have and evidently would
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justafoolisall · Answer

No 100%. I find it so unnerving speaking to someone who I don’t know what they’re saying. I’m also terrible at learning different languages so fat no for me

rxm_bxl · Answer

For as long as you and I are able to fully express the extent of communication in a common language, then I care less bout what other languages you speak or if you don't speak my mother tongue etc.

stardust2021 · Answer

Men are already difficult to understand sometimes.. I don’t need a language barrier too. But hey if you can make it, that’s awesome, good for you!

Minahh · Answer

I totally would as long as he knows English I have no problem

iFarted · Answer

Didn't speak my language at all? No Wasn't fluent in my language? Yes, she'll only get better or I'll learn her language.

Coulis · Answer

Totally. Attraction is a universal language. La guages can be leatned. It happens all the time people get married and one or both learn each others language.

COMMODOREII · Answer

Yeah i would date a girl who speaks another language. We could learn from each other.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

They would have to learn it. Communication is extremely important in a relationship.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No lol. All you could do is fuck.

themythos · Answer

No. being able to understand is a basic requirement

SkittleMayn · Answer

How do you expect to communicate with someone that doesn't speak a common language? I don't understand.

Dragonpurple · Answer

Yes I would, we would still have to find a way to communicate though somehow or else it would awkward.

Walamagicc · Answer

No, it would be too hard for us to understand each other. It’s easy to offend someone when there is a language barrier

TonyV · Answer

How would you even be able to date someone you can't talk too?

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

But he must learn (take that dick bitch) in my language

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Yup. That's how I learned Spanish and some Portuguese, French and Greek. I highly recommend it.

wysiwyg2525 · Answer

Yes I would. I speak a few languages from being in the Army

Juxtapose · Answer

We would lean on a lot of nonverbal communication but sounds like it could be fun if Google translate was used for basic shit, like setting up dates while we learned each other's language.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

I think that's what I mostly dated. I mean we both spoke English but our main language wasn't English. It caused some problems of course but not much.

AdithyaR · Answer

As long as we have at least one common language to communicate in we're fine. But if we have no common language, I don't know how it's gonna work.

AFellowWeeb · Answer

If she knew how to speak either English, Spanish or a bit of my own language, portuguese, i wouldn't mind, i would like to learn another language, especially italian.

maryisbreathing · Answer

Communication is really important so I need to be able to talk to them

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know if you mean mother tongue or no language at all. But if we both know English it's alright

zagor · Answer

I thought about it. This girl from Peru I met on vacation. She spoke no English, and my Spanish is very rusty. Didn't follow up tho...

loveslongnails · Answer

No, I wouldn't do that as a long term thing. Might be fun for a fling though !

LatinaTanya · Answer

I speak Spanish and English so either or wouldn’t mind

Alyssa11 · Answer

I mean I wanna be able to speak to my partner lol

Anonymous · Answer

Communication and understanding are very important to me so no, I would not

Twalli · Answer

I can't do it. It's okay if English is not her first language though.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

If the other language would be German or English its totally ok

pizzalovershouse · Answer

No cuz it would be hard to talk to each other not unless you had a language interpreter

Shiningtempest · Answer

@jean-marie_celine I wouldn't date a woman who doesn't speak my language because dating would become more difficult.

shalt · Answer

Touch and sensual times together could speak as many words as a normal couple.

amelia-freaky19 · Answer

Yes I would because I could learn

Charlottethompson · Answer

Yes, as long as I love the person and I'm going to teach him my own language and I'll learn his own language too.

nodnol32 · Answer

Nope. They have to speak English for me.

simplesarah · Answer

Call me desperate but I would 😂

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