You can't be everyone's cup of tea and to think so is just arrogant. Agree or Disagree?

[coachTanthony]

People out here claiming rejection is painful. How about you not thinking you should never be rejected as if everyone should be your cup of tea?

[WonderBell99]

I have had people spread malicious, untrue rumors about me in high school. I have also had people, whom I admired, hate me for absolutely no reason whatsoever.

I know that I am not everyone’s cup of tea, but it is not arrogant to think so. Intention matters. Most of the time, it is just wishful thinking. Nothing is going to change, but that tiny hope deep down keeps you going. I have also had people change their impressions about me from indifferent to good or good to bad etc.

I’m not sure if this question is about dating or in general. But as for dating, it only gets arrogant when you think you are entitled to a relationship or a date just because you’re x, y or z. A lot of people, especially some men who do not get any dates project their insecurities onto women and start whining about how most women expect the “top 1% men” or whatever. I haven’t a clue where they even get these shady statistics from. If only the “top 1%” by their logic, get all the women, then most men must be single, and not married or in a happy relationship.

Rejection is a part of life. I have been rejected twice before. I don’t really care and do not think much of it now. Not everyone will find me attractive, and that’s really ok.

[WonderBell99]

And as the famous adage goes, “there is an ass for every seat”. Meaning, there will always be someone who might like you, or date you.

[Anonymous]

I've read so many posts on GAG about guys in particular (since they are usually the ones receiving more rejection) acting as if women are evil if they are rejected (and I mean in a polite way) because they are a "good guy" and "these girls should like them." Just because you're good in life, that doesn't guarantee anything in life or in the dating world. One would hope you strive to be a good person no matter what, and not just to get a girl, but even so, there is zero obligation on planet earth for anyone to like you and yet some like to talk about how women should be grateful they even asked. That to me is insane. If I'm minding my business, as I was one day, and some guy randomly comes up to me and asks me out, and I say thank you, I am flattered, but I tell them no, its absolutely arrogant of the rejected to think that just because they asked or they are attractive in their minds, and they got up the nerve, then of course, she should say yes. I reverse this question all the time and say to guys, would you say yes to literally anyone who asked you out just because they asked you?!? No, and they are lying if they say yes because we've all heard how we're ranked and locker room talk. Rejection sucks absolute @$$, and it can be very painful for some especially those that experience it a lot, but all any of us can do in those situations is look elsewhere or accept defeat and just go be depressed, but I'd rather it be the former.

[coachTanthony]

Exactly.

[mobiusforniner]

Because so many anime gamer virgins with frail egos think being nice means guaranteed ass. Women can sniff that shit from a mile away. As you say, id hope people are nice because thats their genuine nature, not because theyre trying to please a lady to receive her affection.

[Opinion Owner]

@mobiusforniner agreed

[TalynMere]

It's literally impossible to do so.

there's a guy a work who is very popular. He is polite, kind, good at his job for the most part, people like him and he gets along with everyone well enough to climb the ladder. He's fine to talk to, he's energetic and easy going, he's a decent looking guy.

I fucking hate him. He's so fake and shallow. The politeness is not natural, it's all forced and he constantly crosses the line into trying to pretend like it's real so he can get stuff done at work. He condescends and it's so transparent a lot of the time.

I've grown up hating people like this a lot, it's impossible to convince them why that fake friendship is so terrible, they just think they're right and you're wrong and then condescend about it.

There is an extremely good chance that if you think everyone likes you, at least some people are just putting up with you because they have to.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I agree. Feels like (especially on this site) there is way too many people seeking validation from people they should just let go.

Their rejection is only so painful because they allow it to be.

When someone doesn't want/like me..."NOT MY PROBLEM" is the words I tell to myself... and just move on. People on this site could find that mentality useful instead of the massive amounts of cope-ium. lolz

[DizzyDesii]

Even if rejection is painful, it frees you to move on to something better. I dont think its arrogant thinking but the person is just being a bit stubborn

[coachTanthony]

Rejection is an integral part of life in my opinion.

[DizzyDesii]

I agree but i dont think its arrogant for someone to think its painful

[coachTanthony]

It's not arrogant to think it's painful. I mean it is painful. I said it's arrogant to think you should never be rejected and for YOU to be everyone's cup of tea.

[midnightmoon05]

My son had his first lesson in kindergarten. He was rejected.
he tried again in 7th grade and was successful with a girl. But he was so mature. Told me.. what’s the point…we are moving over the summer.
again jn 8th grade, a girl said she is already talking to someone else.
I know he isn’t giving up. It’s part of life and with his early experiences, he will do fine.
I rejected others and they have rejected me.
If we leanr then we can succeed. Many here seem to waste too much time getting upset, pointing fingers rather than reflecting and grow from to become better.

[mobiusforniner]

Rejection and how we respond, is what builds a man. Every time I was rejected, I took on a new skill and learned to grow as a person. I've managed quite successfully in my life, driven by determination to make myself better. To prove I can, not to those women who turned me down, but to myself. As one can imagine... i was rejected many times.

[Potteplante]

People are out there claiming rejection is painful because well being rejected can be very painful - no matter the type of rejection.

Agree with the question tho - it would be arrogant to think you're everyone's cup of tea.

[purplepoppy]

True but some of us are darjeeling while others are old teabags.

[coachTanthony]

and some are just Earl Grey in disguise.

[anon1903]

Of course 💖 But if plenty of people reject you, it's safe to assume there are certain attributes that you need to change if you wanna date.

[coachTanthony]

Yes exactly. Self awareness is key. Many though just blame others, their height, their circumstances, etc.

[anon1903]

That's how they lose dates lmao.

[coachTanthony]

LOL yeah it's a never ending self fulfilling prophecy.

[razelove]

100% agree, I'm not most people's cup of tea, and rejection is par for the course if you're trying to get close to people while being yourself, rather than trying to be mold yourself into the image of what you think people want you to be.

[EricSummer]

Yes, this is correct. In terms of looks and appearance it is still possible to please a large proportion of people, for example like George Clooney when he was a bit younger. In terms of personality nobody is compatible with everyone.

[EmyyWolf]

Yes but they way women get rejected is worse. Because the dog male pig will bed you. Pump you. And then he will dump you. It’s the way males reject us.

This is how they leave us in the friendzone. Leaving us more confused than ever. And thinking there’s a chance.

When they could simply reject us outright, but they won’t do it. They’ll get their fix first. They’ll get their piece of ass first.
AND THEN they’ll leave 😒

[dynamicyandere]

I agree. 💯


Not even celebrities have that luxury.


No matter who you are, some people will like you and some people will dislike you.


It’s impossible to simultaneously please everyone on the planet.


To think one can do so, is to live in delusion.

[SaoirseS]

Agree. I KNOW I'm not everyone's cup of tea, and I'm perfectly fine with that. As long as I'm the Cream in my husband's coffee, that's good enough for me.

[OfMiceandMen]

I agree. I learnt right away that I am not really compatible with women who are clingy as I need time to myself, not only for my career, but my own well being and personal growth.

[EclipsedMoonlight]

Agreed. You can not please everyone and people are attracted to different things hence why we are all different. It is ignorant to think otherwise. No one is perfect.

[AdithyaR]

This is gonna be extremely hypocritical of me to say but yes I agree with you. Not everyone will like us, sometimes people will dislike is for literally no reason other than just not wanting to like us.
We can't really do anything about that. What we have to remember is that for every person that doesn't like us, there are probably tons of people who do.
And besides wouldn't one rather be with a person who genuinely likes us rather than someone who only pretends to do so?

[Randalama]

Completely disagree. I am the God Emperor. Worship me or despair.

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[Msputiton]

Arrogant, naw.

It could be self conscious. So people think they are too ugly to get a date.

So when rejected their mind goes, more confirmation that i am just ugly.

That isn't arrogant

[coachTanthony]

That isn't arrogant at all and not what I meant. I think you and others have read the question wrong.

[Anonymous]

People and their glass-jawed, weak-ass egos. Just a little tap and they fall to pieces. Just like anything else worth doing in life, you have to fail a lot before you succeed. Wish people would get that sorted out

[HippieVeganJewslim]

I agree that I cannot be aight with everybody, but I’m nowhere near trying to be everyone’s cuppa. The key to failure is to try to please everyone.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Yes absolutely I was brought into the world believing that 98% of the people I meet won’t like me

[Quackthulu2]

I may not be everybody’s cup of tea but that doesn’t stop them all from wanting to take a sip.