Would you date a girl whom has had an abortion?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

Sure no prob. But not if she had more than one unless there were extreme circumstances like contraception failure or rape or the fetus was unhealthy or her life was in danger.

I had two different girlfriends who had gotten abortions before I met them when I was a teen. They had each had one boyfriend before they met me. They were young and naive, got pregnant, and aborted immediately because they were in no position to raise a child. It was an agonizing decision for both of them.

People make mistakes, especially when they are young.

The learned their lesson and began taking the pill. They were up front with their parents about everything. Their parents were good people, too.

They were just normal girls who just wanted boyfriends. They were good people. They were loyal and monogamous and weren't promiscuous. They both went on to get married and have children later in life.

I'm still Facebook friends with one of them. She was actually my first girlfriend. She's now a happy great grandma.

BarryLiverstone · Accepted Answer

Of course, why wouldn’t I?

lilyanony1 · Accepted Answer

I'm gonna say this contraception fails. The only sure way to prevent pregnancy is abstinence. Judge less, try and have empathy.  Not everything is black and white...

Agape93 · Accepted Answer

Yeap. I am now. I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't based in just having an abortion. That's like refusing someone because they had a root canal.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I am very much opposed to abortion, but I also believe in foregiveness and not judging people too harshly or permanently unless they are an incorrigible and unrepentant repeat offender. I MARRIED a girl who had an abortion earlier in her life.

AviatorTom · Answer

I have dated a woman who had an abortion, and if I ever get into dating again (I have an SO), I'd date one.

coachTanthony · Answer

I think most would date a girl who has had one because I think most wouldn't say they had one so men wouldn't know.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I definitely would. That just proves she has a brain and knows how to make smart decisions to better her own life.

I won't date some self righteous little whacked out religious girl who thinks the jumbled pile of snot and cells in her 3 week pregnant womb is a "baby"

TruthBringer · Answer

No. And it's not even about being pro-life or not. I simply don't date women who carried another man's child. I only date women who have a clean slate just like my girlfriend I've been with for some years now. And if that offends anyone, then good. Cry me a river.

magiusX26 · Answer

thats not entirely a yes or no question. if she used it as birth cobtrol, we got a problem. if it was to save her life or from a rape type of situstion then its a bit different. i have dated one once who had one. she didn't tell me till nearly a year into being together. we almost split over it (me leaving her)

Anonymous · Answer

but how would i even know if she had one at some point or not , i'd imagine is some girls i know in real life who had one at some point and i don't even know , especially if it happened when they were younger . if they didn't like talk about it , which most don't , is very unlikely i'd even know.

megabamse · Answer

Yes 100% I'm not being sarcastic. But that sounds like a strong and intelligent person. She knows what she wants, she takes having a family seriously. At least when not to and so on. To have kids is not a right, it's not an obligation. To have a choice is a right. And to choose who not to have kids with, and what situation that won't fit to have a kid in, now that is a right we should care about. It's not our body, not our choice.

Anonymous · Answer

Out of curiosity, why wouldn't you? What if she was a young teenager when she had the abortion? What if she was in a situation she didn't believe was good for raising a child? What if she was raped? Or coerced into having sex by her boyfriend? What if she just didn't want children? To be fair, everyone has their own things that are dealbreakers and it's not my business to judge, I'm just wondering how many guys are outright against women having abortions

richardcory · Answer

Its not something I'd ever ask, so I'd only know if she told me, its none of my business. Not a problem for me - I recognize / respect both sides of the abortion debate, but am personally very much in favor of it being safe and legal.

Ascyltos · Answer

Personally I don't like abortions, I tend to find them horrific, and I feel alienated by women who say they had an abortion and that it feels absolutely right for them. So guess what, lol. It's a bit like the question: would you date a girl who isn't a vegetarian? Though less extreme, because I'm not a vegetarian either. I'm glad my girlfriend is a pescatarian and doesn't feel able to undergo an abortion.

loveslongnails · Answer

Absolutely! I wouldn't think twice about it.

humanearth · Answer

I don't care, if they did or not. Its their life and body. Not the governments body

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, it is just another medical procedure.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Yes, as long as they have a good mentality about it by treating it as something serious. Most women do, but there are a lot that do not.

cth96190 · Answer

When a woman has chosen to murder her unborn baby, that tells me all that I need to know about her character. She would not qualify to be the mother of my children.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Depends on the circumstances and the reasoning. If they cheated on a previous partner and got an abortion to cover it up or used it like birth control, no. If they had a medical or other reason not already mentioned, most likely yes.

KAYJJAY · Answer

What was it for? Rape, yes. Incest, yes. Simply because did not want, no. (just an opinion

DarkLegacy · Answer

Depends on the reason for the abortion, if it was being done as contraception or because of babies would be disability then no because that is like the worst thing ever

misogynistic_pig · Answer

No, abortion is a morally wrong act and a murder of a defenseless and innocent human being.

Quackthulu2 · Answer

More likely that I am to date someone who has kids.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

That’s a red flag the type of woman who would do such a thing is unfit for a relationship  too self centered

DavidBibs · Answer

Cause at least she may not try to use the baby trap method on a man.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure if I would want a guy who wouldn't mind if I had an abortion because I don't believe in them.

Anonymous · Answer

I know quite a few women who have had abortions. What they have in common is that they are stupid.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@captain-obvious I would never date a woman who had an abortion because it's incompatible with my value.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Yes, I would. I don't have a problem with it

msc545 · Answer

Yes, turns out that most women have had abortions.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, they are not going tell you right away that they have, and so many have had one that you would be really limiting yourself if you didn’t

admles · Answer

I married one.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

It would not bother me at all.

fonduegirl · Answer

Of course! It's better than a single mom lol

noohair · Answer

The past is in the past.

Anonymous · Answer

I would not date a guy who supported abortion

Anonymous · Answer

No. It's murder. I don't date murderers.

LiamJHayden · Answer

How would I know?

Cubus · Answer

Of course not.

Anonymous · Answer

Not knowingly.

Deserter · Answer

No, she will kill my child

Nachowedgie · Answer

Depends on what the reason was

Guardian45 · Answer

Why wouldn't I?

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Fuck no! You crazy?

AngryCarl2 · Answer

I may do.

CubaPirate · Answer

Why not

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