Would you date a girl that is pregnant with someone else’s kid?

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Yes

No way

[MysticAngel5000]

As a woman, a post like that should send red flags to any guy reading it. She "recently" got out of a "toxic" relationship? How recently? Define "toxic". She is also currently 3 months pregnant, looking for something long-term and has made it clear she doesn't intend to work and wants to be a stay at home mom. Well then. Lol

So basically, she got pregnant either accidentally or intentionally, her relationship *recently* ended and now she's already looking for something "long term". She wants a guy with money so she can stay home and not work.

If she is newly single/separated, she still has a lot of healing to do, especially if the relationship truly was toxic. Instead of jumping right into a new relationship so soon, she needs to focus on herself and her pregnancy. Since she is so recently separated, there is definitely a risk of her going back to the guy who knocked her up as well.

Girls will sometimes claim a relationship was "toxic" when it wasn't as well. Girls will sometimes blame the guy for everything and make him look like the bad guy when actually, THEY were the toxic one. Guys are guilty of the same thing - some guys will label all their exes "crazy" when in reality, they are the toxic one.

A situation like described in the post should send red flags for many reasons. I wouldn't mind being with someone who had a child as long as the baby mama was sane and civil. I would NOT tolerate baby mama drama. It isn't good for me and it certainly isn't good for the kid involved. I'd tell the guy and his baby mama to be mature adults, ditch their drama and focus on the child they share. You can't change that you have the child together. Hate each other all you want, but be civil co-parents for the sake of the kid.

A guy should not judge a woman for being a single mom either. Things happen. If being a dad or father figure just isn't for you, that's fine. But be up front about it. I can understand how dating a pregnant woman that is pregnant by someone else would be hard. If the baby's dad died or was really abusive or something, that would be one thing. But if the girl just got knocked up either unintentionally or purposely (or even better... she got knocked up to try to make the dad stay and he clearly left anyway), then that's totally different.

It's ultimately up to you as far as what you're willing to accept in a relationship goes. Everyone has their own story and there are reasons people are how they are and reasons for why situations turn out the way they do. Just be up front and honest about your intentions as well as your deal-breakers from the start so no one is getting led on.

[MysticAngel5000]

Thanks for MHO!

[Soldieronmission]

This is why men need women. Y'all are freaking intelligent and able to understand things on a different level. Perhaps we're the perfectly created compliment to each other, man and woman I mean.

[MysticAngel5000]

@Soldieronmission I agree with that thought. I think men and women offer their own unique views for a reason. As you said, we compliment one another quite well thanks to our differing view points and insight.

[Soldieronmission]

Absolutely, almost as if we were created to do so. Crazy concept. You're a wise women.

[MysticAngel5000]

@Soldieronmission Thank you. Intelligence-based compliments are some of the most flattering to receive. I definitely believe men and women were created the way we were for a reason. We balance each other out.

[Screenwriter]

Wow! That is a very odd statement from the pregnant 20-year-old.

I'm all for her getting out of her toxic relationship, but at 20, and I assume this is mostly because she IS 20, she appears to be clueless as to how her situation will or might stop her for getting into a long-term "serious" relationship.

I would be worried that this young woman doesn't have brain in her head. She's JUST coming out of this toxic situation and looking for another relationship right away? At most, she left this person 3 months ago!

I think in her particular case, she is waving a host of red flags. There are too many unanswered questions and from the statement, it appears she's looking for a free ride for her and her baby. And what about Mr. Toxic? Will he come around looking for his kid to be involved with it?

Sounds like drama central...

I am unsure of her chances

[jennifer_bloom]

I'm a girl and I don't mind raising somebody's kid if I know the husband and the kid will be in my life until death. But if it's somebody else's kid, they might divorce you and rob you of both their investment and also their kids. I know a girl that robbed her ex husband of full time custody over their kids after the divorce, which of course you need to divide after a divorce, but if they did not divorce, they would not need to divide. I think they should have stayed together for the kids cause their problems were not gigantic, there was difficulty and challenge, but it wasn't violent or dangerous or toxic. Of course, I'm just guessing, I don't know how bad things were behind closed doors, but my limited judgment is that the marriage was worth saving.

[Avicenna]

Hell no. Who would want to get involved in such a chaotic situation?

[Avicenna]

And who would want to support her while she stays at home with someone else's kid?

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Date her in order to make it less chaotic.

[Apple1996]

You'd be surprised by how many men love pregnant women and want to wife them up even if they are pregnant with someone else's baby

[Billlewis]

@Apple1996 '*Especially* if they are pregnant with someone else's baby'. There -- fixed it for you 8><3

[Apple1996]

@Billlewis haha Thanks. When I was pregnant with my 1st I had guys all over me trying to get me to break up with my husband to be with them instead

[Avicenna]

@Apple1996: LOL, they just wanted to have sex with you, they didn't want to support you and someone else's kid. They just didn't want to be honest about it.

[Billlewis]

You assume that because this is so foreign to you that no one else could possibly be interested in something like this, but believe it or not, this kind of scenario is actually very sought after by thousands, if not millions of guys.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: Millions of guys? I very much doubt that. Of course there are always some clowns who will do something dumb like that, but not millions.

[Avicenna]

Occam's Razor suggests that these guys just wanted to get in her pants.

I used to know a guy who did try to date a pregnant woman, but he had no other dating options and from his point of view, it was worth it because he got some sex. But he wasn't trying to wifey her.

[Billlewis]

Around the world, sure. There are approximately 360 million people in the U. S. alone.

[Billlewis]

That's an excellent point, sir, and I can't argue with that one bit.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: I very much doubt that, and even then it isn't statistically significant in a. Being a beta cuck like that is even less acceptable in the rest of the world, especially places where there is no child support and welfare. Now, there are some places where men will shack up with women for awhile provided she does most of the breadwinning and doesn't ask much of the guy, but that's usually associated with questionable paternity.

[Avicenna]

* Isn't statistically significant

[Billlewis]

Unfortunately, the guys who just want to try to get sex from the woman are much more talked about, but I think it's equally important to take note of the wusses like me, who know they're only good for kissing ass, licking feet and paying bills.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: LMAO... what percentage of men would you estimate fall into that latter category?

[Billlewis]

I actually love the fact that you're so opinionated about this, Sir, because it's due, in large part to guys like you, who obviously think that wimps that exist solely for the purpose of kissing women's asses are utterly pathetic... that's exactly what you think of us, isn't it?

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: Well, yeah, of course, but I feel sorry for those who actually debase themselves to do it.

[Billlewis]

I'd say probably more than 2/3 of them. A strategy of trying to get closer to a woman by groveling at her feet is a dubious one, at best, so any guy who grovels is almost certainly sincere in his desire to serve her and literally worship the ground she walks on.

[Billlewis]

I beg of you, Sir; please, please don't feel sorry for me or allow even the slightest twinge of sympathy to enter your mind. And. i hope this isn't too weird, but I've so enjoyed this debate today. I sincerely hope to chat with you again soon, Sir.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: 2/3 of the millions?

[Billlewis]

I think it's very possible that the percentage is somewhere close to that level, yes, Sir.

[Apple1996]

Nah they didn't just want a hookup it was more than that. I also had multiple friends that got into relationships while pregnant and are still together right now with the guy. Some men seriously want to settle down with pregnant women

[Billlewis]

@Apple1996 You tell him, goddess. Although I'm ashamed to admit it, Mr. Avicenna's comments are super hot... if he ever wanted to date the woman I'm serving, I wouldn't mind that at all.

[Apple1996]

@Billlewis yeah no lie @Avicenna seems like a decent guy. Wouldn't say I see to many "hot" comments from him but his comments do catch my eye more than others

[Billlewis]

@Apple1996 Well, he's obviously correct in almost everything he says, other than possibly underestimating the number of guys who would give their left arm to have a woman who does these things to them. But he's been shaming the shit out of me all day, and I know I'm a degenerate pervert for admitting it, but it's kind of hard not to be truthful about it.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: I'll never understand why you do what you do, but don't think I'm shaming you- you are an adult and if that's what you want to do, who am I to judge?

Thank you both for your compliments!

[Billlewis]

Of course I know you're not really trying to shame me, but it sure does feel good, sir:).

[Billlewis]

For one thing, I'm very confident and sure of myself, so I need a woman who can give me a different perspective, etc.

[Avicenna]

@Billlewis: Whatever works for you.

[Billlewis]

Not getting any pussy just makes me so incredibly sweet and generous, and I have to keep playing with myself because she teases me relentlessly but never lets me get my dick inside her.

[midnightmoon05]

@Avicenna
You know I am in Europe second summer. I am healthier while here last summer. I went back to the US. Back to the junk we eat and air breath in.
I’m good again after being here for 5 days.

My point … the US (a country I call home and do love very much) … however, most people have been so proud to be accepted by Mr. Jerry Sprinkers show that…the new fucked society is the norm. Just like eating processed food is the norm.
Those who eat real food and carry on healthy family traditions are being looked down.
The scary part is…the numbers of those who are mentally ill are growing and are encourage to become one and stay that way.
We will be in Munich for a few days … any suggestions? We don’t drink.
Strange enough, we are in Norway at the moment…the hotel staff doesn’t drink…it’s so weird /rare to meet someone here who is not a drinker.

[Avicenna]

@midnightmoon05: Well, it depends on what you like to do and eat. In Munich, I'd recommend visiting the Deutsches Museum (science & technology museum) which also has a nice library across the courtyard. I'd also recommend touring the Allianz Arena (tours are available in English), Englischer Garten (nice, historic park), the Residenz, Bavaria Film Studios (also outside of the city, in Gruenwald), the BMW Museum and BMW World, and Marienplatz (the oldest part of town) and its dancing figures at 11 am. Other museums you might like would be the Alte and Neue Pinakothek (they are art museums).

As for food, I'd need a bit more of an idea of what you like to eat. If you'd like Bavarian cuisine, I'd recommend the Ratskeller (right there at Marienplatz) and the Hofbräuhaus (which is also a tourist attraction, and one I recommend). You might want to make a reservation for the Ratskeller via Open Table since it's high tourist season right now in Munich. I'd also recommend eating a Dönerteller (Turkish fast food).

If you haven't already, make sure you enjoy some salmon dishes in Norway.

[Avicenna]

I just checked on it, and the Bavaria Film Studios do have a daily tour in English.

[Ariana234]

@Apple1996 good luck they will need it. She got out of a toxic relationship who knows what kind of toxic relationship from domestic, and so on. That’s playing Russian roulette.

[lightbulb27]

don't think I've ever seen this scenario.

I'd leave that up to a clear message from the all mighty. For that would be the story of Mary and Joseph and Jesus of Nazareth. If she said she was another virgin Mary I'd probably run for my life. Can you imagine trying to raise "God" in the flesh? That be hand full... I still curse Jesus name and God when I mis the nail and hit my finger, eventhough it's not His fault and he fixed so much... old programming... I appologize. So it be tough.

And then there's the scenario she probably ain't a saint to begin with nor her x. There may be more of this... pregnant unwed... given our social decay. Social decay needs fixed immediately.

Help raise child... It is possible some people I know won't be dating in such scenario, but helping to raise such child cause momma and dadda didn't use their brains. We got too many daddy's who are little children and irresponsible in our society. Back to that part about social decay, selfishness and such. Traditional values ya know... are important. Kids need a lot of support.

We really need "the paddle" in society.

blah blah blah.. nobody listening without a good whacking... God help us...

[Billlewis]

You should have included the choice of, 'Oh my God, yes!' As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any penetrative sex whatsoever, my ultimate goal is to marry or have a long term relationship with a woman who is or has gotten pregnant by another guy, and become legally responsible for providing financial support for her and her baby/child. I want her to be able to tell her girlfriends that not only am I supporting her, and that she has a child by another guy, but despite our having been together for a long time, she has never even once let me get my dick inside her.

[Leapfrog00]

I've done this a couple of times and it ended the same both times. The girl was still attracted to her ex, he always came before me, then there was all the drama and whatnot, and eventually, she ended up going back to the ex.

I wouldn't expect a girl to completely cut him out of her life since they are about to have a child together, but that's where all the problems come in. As long as they have that special bond, the other guy is never as important.

These relationships don't work out for most people because of all the ties the girl still has to the ex-boyfriend.

[Billlewis]

@Leapfrog00 I can definitely see how that could become a problem.

[NotInterestedSorry]

I saw a woman on TikTok who met her partner online while she was pregnant, and from memory, they met for the very first time while she was in the hospital about to give birth to her son. He has basically raised the son she had with another man, and they just had a little girl together in January and have plans to get married.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've banged pregnant girls, but I wouldn't date them as if I'm interested in more than giving some cream pies.

What? Clowns cream pie girls all the time.

[DermalPunch]

Her photo choice alone should tell you all you need to know. The fact she has that out there upfront shows a lot of insecurity.

Also, she is probably toxic since by sharing that she is looking for a guy to manipulate by selling him her damsel-i -distress story. Whether knowing or unknowingly.

[Davidbrooks]

I have dated a pregnant girl. Even had unprotected sex because she not going to get pregnant again. But after the baby was born her ex wanted her back to play happy families. So she left me. 5 years later she is a single mom. We caught up on Facebook she wanted me back but she had 3 kids by then. I said sorry you had your chance but I was willing to look after 1 child that was someone's else's, and have 2 more children with her. But it wasn't ment to be

[Avicenna]

Wow, she has three kids and still thinks some guy she ditched when she had one is going to step up to the plate as of nothing has happened. That is beyond pathetic.

Some of these single moms think that you'll be willing to have no kids with them and still support someone else's kid (s).

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna Yes l know it is pathetic. I was willing to help out with her unborn child and have a couple of our own. I was not prepared to look after 3 of her kids. I thought our love making ment something but not to her. But l dodge a bullet because l now have a wonderful wife with 2 beautiful kids.

[Avicenna]

Glad to hear that- congratulations!

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna Thanks. Anyway its a good thing that pregnant women can't get pregnant again.

[Avicenna]

True. Imagine what a circus that would cause.

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna Yes imagine makes me feel sick a bit. Now which baby daddy will l choose lol

[Davidbrooks]

My sperm was probably saying why are you sending us up here there is a baby already here lol

[Davidbrooks]

I also remembered she was the one that didn't want to use condoms. It had to be natural skin on skin no pulling out either.

[Avicenna]

Whoa

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna Yes when l think about it jumping from me to another guy yes she was a bit of a slut.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, I suspect that a lot of these women use guys they have no intention of having kids with to help pay the bills

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna i had a house good job money behind me. If we stayed together she would probably have some kids with me and taken the lot.

[Avicenna]

Yup...

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna The only good thing about her even though she was pregnant she knew how to please me in the bedroom, what she had between her legs was so wonderful she knew how to, well basically fuck the cum out of me every night

[Avicenna]

Yeah, single moms are really good at that

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna i guess plenty of practice. I wonder how many guys she has had before me lol

[Avicenna]

No doubt plenty

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna And even more when she wanted me back after she poped out another two. But at least she wasn't pregnant when she wanted me back for the 2nd time

[Avicenna]

Yeah, well, she had way too many kids for any guy to date her seriously at that point

[Davidbrooks]

@Avicenna Yes true but she wanted me when she had 3 kids but she is up to 4 and l believe they are all different fathers

[Avicenna]

Whoa... talk about dodging a bullet. No one will be a provider for that mess.

[Anemone978]

Seems like a dumb person to get involved with.. she doesn't want to work and she wants you to pay for her kid too..
I don't think it is such a bad idea if it was someone working and willing to take care of her own kid while starting a new relationship but to want to rush a long term thing and so quickly with no goals besides being a mother doesn't seem like a smart new partner..

[Lionman95]

Not in my current situation but I wouldn´t say no way in general. To me it depends on her character and on her view of the past. Because it would different to me if she reflects her past actions and take actions to not repeat certain mistakes or if she just blames her ex for her problems and just states expectations in me while thinking she´s perfect... In short is someone who isn´t actually looking for a healthy relationship.

[SnowedIn]

Yes but not in a dating app sort of way. If we met and hit it off, that'd be a different discussion. But not the trolling that the picture in your question shows.

[BoopBoopBeep]

AND she wants to be a stay at home mom, so I'm the only one paying for your kid with some other dude? Put down the crack pipe, you MUST be smoking...

[Billlewis]

You see, that's the difference between guys like you, who are very handsome, masculine and confident, and guys like me, who enjoy providing anything we can for a woman, even if we're never allowed to have sex with her. A woman who has a child by another guy is extremely attractive to guys like me, for obvious reasons.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@Billlewis I can see how that would do it for you.

[Billlewis]

Yes, sir, thank you very much for being so understanding.

[Billlewis]

The only thing I'm s oking is the skin off my little piglet penis, because just thinking about this is indescribably sexy...

[Billlewis]

This is quickly becoming my favorite discussion on here... so sexy...

[YesterdaysChild]

Some desperate guy would take her up on it. Hey, I got a bridge to sell you in San Franciso too.

[Anonymous]

Pregnant? No! A woman with kids possibly.

Why one and not the other? Because if that kid is not her focus, if she's gotten knocked up and she's already thinking about the next guy, she's clearly NOT a good person. I feel bad for the child. But no way would I want to to get attached to that woman. NO WAY!

[alice55]

Men say no but in real life they actually date and marry those girls, I've seen it happening a lot...

[Billlewis]

You're absolutely right -- I'm one of those guys, and my ultimate goal is to not only date, but marry a woman who is pregnant with another guy's baby, and be legally responsible for supporting her and her new baby in the context of a long term relationship.

[_SillyShoes_]

Why would a pregnant woman want to date?

Especially in circumstances depicted here?

Sounds like she is trying to sling from one toxic tree to the next.

[Avicenna]

She's looking for a simp to be a provider for as long as she feels it's needed

[Cuminginside]

It does appear to be that way from the fire to the frying pan.

[boggboss]

Nope that seems like a shit situation waiting to happen

[Apple1996]

For sure If I was ever single again I'd only get with women who has kids

[Billlewis]

Although many people view this kind of arrangement as little more than a kinky sexual fantasy, I think it's very beautiful and heart warming. There are too many children in this world who need a daddy, and playing the role of doting but submissive step daddy is something that I find deeply fulfilling, especially if she wants to restrict me from ever having any penetrative sex with her...

[Apple1996]

@Billlewis yes those kiddos need a daddy in the picture

[anon1903]

She's had a toxic relationship. What do you suggest she would have done, abortion or stayed with the toxic baby daddy? Seriously, get help.

[Jazzy54]

It depends on her relationship with the child’s father. If there’s drama and/or she’s still in love with him, I’d say no. You don’t want to get caught up in that.

[Jazzy54]

*If it was a toxic relationship, I’m willing to bet there’s some drama there. Therefore, proceed with caution.

[DarkLegacy]

Are you a lesbian

[Jazzy54]

No. Why?

[DarkLegacy]

Because the question was would you date a girl, and you are a girl. You obviously get no say in who men date

[Jazzy54]

When children are involved, gender is irrelevant. Whether it’s a man dating a woman with kids or a woman dating a man with kids, drama can still exist. At any rate, I can still give my opinion.

[DarkLegacy]

Yes you can, but i am pleased that the men are being sensible on this. We are not going to go against our natural instinct.

[Cuminginside]

Because I can cum in her, No more birth control for a while that's already taking care of.

[chicken_nugget24]

I mean people have kinks but to me this is too messy and complicated

[BlackJeep]

Hard no. I wouldn't date single moms and I know there are a lot of great single moms out there but other guys kids are not my responsibility. Empty nester or no kids

[inhua]

only a "real man" would accept this woman without any hesitation

[DarkLegacy]

Crap

[inhua]

@DarkLegacy hence the quotation marks

[DarkLegacy]

@inhua yeah i get that. Obviously only a weak minded man who is either desperate to find someone or not strong enough to elect to stay single would go with her

[inhua]

@DarkLegacy apparently it takes a strong "real man" to put up with bad behaviors from bad women

[DarkLegacy]

People are so full of shit these days, i personally think the feminists are just plugging this shit so they can get away with whatever they like. Strong men don't put up with shit from toxic women.

[inhua]

@DarkLegacy male feminists are even worse because are enablers and supporters of such bullshit which they turn around and throw their fellow men under the bus for female validation

it definitely reflects the Edmund Burke quote "the only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing" though I'd go one step further and say they encourage evil to thrive

[DarkLegacy]

Yes the only thing worse then a feminist is a 'man' who appeases them

[TomMarks]

I would get to know her before committing. I wouldn’t just say an automatic “no” cause of the kid, but I would have to make for sure they right for me so I won’t be a heart ache for the child.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, It would be no problem for me.

[DarkLegacy]

Certainly not, especially after reading that she had been in a toxic relationship. I will never date a girl who had a kid with another guy.

[Anonymous]

Hell yes, absolutely. There is nothing more beautiful than a pregnant girl.

And a girl who wants you to have sex with her and cum inside her while she is pregnant with another man’s baby is the sexiest thing ever.

[Unit1]

No way. It reeks of her just wanting to find an easier way out at my expenses.

[DextroShade]

Hell no! Why would I want to pay for some toxic guy's kid and have to deal with baby daddy drama? Baby mommas are for the streets.

[Anonymous]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/-K7fCQlUhj0

Nope.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Yes. I’d help her with the kid. Pregnant women almost always require help!

[Avicenna]

Her friends and family can help her

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@Avicenna I’d add to the help!

[Avicenna]

Then more power to you. I wouldn't be bothered to do such a thing unless I were getting paid more to do it than I could make doing something else.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

@Avicenna paid for a girlfriend? Nu, that’s no girlfriend, then!

[Avicenna]

So be it...

[JesseP1nk]

BIG NO. To me it seems she just needs walking ATM.

[Unit1]

Ditto

[Anonymous]

Date her? No. Fuck her? Yes, if she were really hot and I believed she was clean. I don't want anything to do with another man's spawn.

[Pohjolan]

Its not necessarily a deal breaker but I wouldn't pursue her.

[Twalli]

Ordinarily it isn't a deal breaker, but I work from home so I don't want a stay at home wife.

[Chthou95]

FUCK NO. What dumbass would? He needs a reality check

[Boomchakalaca]

Passing on that. Esp that girl

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I wouldn't date anyone from Tinder

[Hiroshi-Kun]

I wouldn’t be around such woman.

[exitseven]

nope, not interested.

[PointTaken]

I would if we hit it off.

[Drumlin2001]

If the right person yes.

[JCT666]

Absolutely not. Major red flag.

[msc545]

of course not!

[LimitedBenefits101]

Only a fool would.

[shades777]

how pregnant are we talking

[TheUniqueOne96]

Nah.

[RavVid]

It is just nasty

[als24]

It's a no from me.

[clampfan101]

Maybe.