Would you date a woman with a kid?

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Hi guys, Just want to know your opinions especially men. Would you date a woman with a kid? Like let say she's really pretty & responsible.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Let me start by saying I’m w one now. Have been for about 15 years. Now aside from her, if I went back in time knowing what I know now as far as what I had to go through. No. It’s a lot of work. First of all the kids will always come first, which they should. So she isn’t always free. She’s tired a lot from kids as well as work. Second, dealing w the kids father who was a shit head. Always talking his shit till I got in his face one day. Kids weren’t around. After that he backed off, but even before than he would never come get his kids. He showed up a few times w different women to take the kids. He was a POS. Then you have to deal w discipling the children. Most women don’t want a man to do that, especially if he’s not their father. Which I can understand but at the same time if you’re expecting me to provide for you, be your security, lead, provide food. What am I going to do feed you but not your kids? Who the he’ll is going to do that bs? You’re putting all this responsibility on w out me having authority over everyone. I’m sure she wouldn’t like it if the house was on fire, I saved her but left her kids. Someone broke in so I save her but not her kids. There were times the idiot father was supposed to take them for Christmas vacations but never did so your plans get cancelled. There’s also the kids not liking you. My girl’s son moved out when he was old enough because eventually because he didn’t like being told what to do. He laid around all day, played video games, didn’t clean up, picked on his little sister. Instead he moved w his dad who ended up making him pay rent once he started working. There’s a lot of stress that comes w it. So would I advise a man to date single mother. Probably not. But if they chose to do so I’d tell them just what I wrote in response to your question.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Accepted Answer

No, tried it, always ends up with nothing but drama and trauma. if it isn't baby daddy issues, then it's children's issues or always throwing around being a single mother to explain away bad behavior or money "hey can I borrow " or " I need help"

Then private time is almost always non existent. Date nights are always interrupted or canceled. Then the relationship seems to be kicked into fast gear with her pushing to move in or even marriage within a few months.

I know being a single parent is tough. I raised 4 children solo after being widowed when my wife died. But seriously it is just not easy for someone to walk in to such chaos to start a relationship.

Mr_twoface · Answer

I would say Yes! If I would have fallen for her and we get along very well, I would take onboard the kid and become a father figure if they allow it. Why I say, if they allow it, depends on how old the kid is and whether or not they is muture enough to make that decision as to whether wanting me to be a father figure or not.

admles · Answer

I married one! I love my stepson like he's my own, and he loves me back. He lives with my wife and I full time, his father only sees him every few weekends, and now even less as he's moved away.

Todd9612 · Answer

Yes, I married one, and adopted her daughter. Best decision I’ve ever made, 23 years later I have an amazing wife and daughter.

DarkWinterNights · Answer

Typically no. But situationally if we aligned on everything else it wouldn’t be an automatic dealbreaker.
Stepping in as the father figure without actually having a blood relation to the kids is a really big ask that comes with a lot of potential drama and issues. A lot of relationships have a very difficult time even without adding more variables. And then you even have to content with the real dad. You end up coming dead last and having to pay for everyone else’s poor decisions.

DextroShade · Answer

Only if I were a single dad, otherwise she's recreational use only. Even then it depends on her circumstances: if she's widowed then I would be much more willing than if she was just some baby momma. I am not spending my time and resources on another man's kid unless she's will do the same. As I am not a single dad, I could not take a single mother seriously.

Zestyassmf1997 · Answer

I don’t think so. I think it would be embarrassing. It’s not fair on me to have to raise another man’s kid. It’s not responsible of her to have a child by a man who’s not responsible enough to stick around.

jshm2 · Answer

Sure, great sex too. But he's got to "think for two" as you cannot neglect your kids input too. Unless it's only hookups you're after. In which case ensure the kid isn't too aware of your lifestyle.

RavVid · Answer

Like a Single Lady? No. I don't think she was responsible in her actions for a start. She is asking for a lot from me; a much heavier investment then with a childless woman.

I might quite like her but I can find a childless woman I quite like.

exitseven · Answer

I used to say absolutely not but now that I am older I would date somebody who had a kid if the kid was older. I am not interested in raising someone else. s kid.

HighValue · Answer

No chance. Desperate and low quality men can have them if they want. I'll have nothing to do with them.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I have in the past, but every situation is unique. Is the daddy involved? If so, is he drama? Is the child well-behaved? How old is the child? Is the lady self-sufficient?

Avicenna · Answer

Only if her kids were grown up, didn't live at home and weren't financially dependent on her. Otherwise, no, I would not date a single mom.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

No, single mothers want help and a retirement plan, not a man.

Paul09 · Answer

If mostly say no. But I'm 100% sure. It depends on how strong our connection is. And how any kids? More than 1, your chances get lower.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

I avoid it tbh. For simple reason if you break up double the heart break

Staximus · Answer

Yes, it's unrealistic at my age to only want women with no kids

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I would. But would you date a guy with kids

Jhonrembo36 · Answer

Yes i would go out That's not what was bothering me.

Berethor · Answer

Even at 36 I would say no, I don't want to raise other man's child, no thanks.

leonidas84 · Answer

It depends on the situation

Ds4739 · Answer

Definitely. But I had kids early

boggboss · Answer

Probably not

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not.

Billlewis · Answer

Of course.

Anonymous · Answer

No, too much drama

billmunch · Answer

#1 turn off

LiamS95 · Answer

Yes, why not.

dudeinohio · Answer

Sure

Roudyrebel8 · Answer

Yes.

Pterodon · Answer

I have

straightmax12 · Answer

No I wouldn't.

riverrat3 · Answer

I dated several

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