What made you initially approach a former or current SO?

[Whatthefluff]

They were attractive

Thought they were interested and had a chance

Could relate to them (personality, interests, etc.)

I was lonely

Friends or family told me to

It was a friendship that evolved over time

Other

[TheBootyChest]

My last SO, I met at a bowling event, she was shy and hanging out in the back by herself until it was her turn. So I would cheer for her no matter what she did. Eventually we just started talking for a few weeks between events.

We decided to meet early before a pub crawl with the same people from the bowling event. She told me she lived close by so she planned on drinking. My plan (since I don't drink) was to walk her home to make sure she was okay. We got to her door and she invited me in for some water before my drive home. Shortly after me sitting on the couch, she asked me to follow her, which led to the bedroom, which then led to you know what.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I was very depressed and I simply sought the abuse and degradation I have experienced my entire life as I convinced myself that it was love in some strange form

when I opened up to her she ignored or laughed at me and told me to kill myself when we broke up and that was what gaslighted my second attempt

[Anonymous]

I think it is all a mix. Honestly I’m going through a rough period and I’m lonely. I started talking to my boyfriend because I wanted a boyfriend and to see where things went because I knew he liked me. And I got to talking to him and he was very nice and we had a lot of similar interests. Plus he treats me fantastic and makes time for me like no other guy ever has. I’m not necessarily in love and I think it’s far too soon to define it. But taking a chance is worth it and guys you wouldn’t necessarily choose first can be one’s to have a great and happy relationship with.

[Potteplante]

My first two real relationships, just developed during boarding school - who approached who, I've no idea. We were friends first.

My ex husband I don't count in this - but he did approach me as a kid, he was my big brothers friends - older brother.

My late fiance was my best friend's brother - knew him for years before we found each other romantically.

[Anonymous]

I met my now boyfriend in 6th grade and we were best friends for a long time but as the went on and we got a little older I started noticing how cute he is and I started to develop feelings but I never said anything because I was too afraid that if said I liked him and he didn't like me back things would be different between us anyway fast forward to last July he told me that he liked me and asked me to be his girlfriend and we've been together for a little over nine months

[EmmaMary]

Ten years ago my husband approached me when he was a junior architect surveying, and making drawings for a new extension at my employment establishment.

[FilmGuy93]

Initial attraction, but she actually approached me online.

She had no idea what I looked like, but I made a post on Reddit about dating women of her race, and she thought it was funny so she got in touch with me to speak further.

[NathanDavis]

they approached me first... with interest/intrigue

[OfMiceandMen]

It was an initial attraction at a fundraiser.

[JustinTheGreat]

We started off as friends in middle school but I always had a little crush tbh

[LiamJHayden]

I found every one of them attractive. Not in a purely aesthetic way, but something about her interested me.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

It was always the first. Maybe that's where I failed so much, lol.

[kattieem]

As in the film, Flipped.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/q40GxY5n2Dg

[Anonymous]

It's never any one reason. But it's typically a foolish move.

[Nikki1989]

He approached me.

[tesniolite]

i didn't
i got approached

[Agape93]

Honestly that depends

[turnpost]

lol no it doesn't. You just answer the question. It can be mixture as well.

[Agape93]

Yes, it does. Mind your business

[Anonymous]

Cute and had a similar personality

[Anonymous]

Serious big dick.

[LickSmack]

Miraculously, She came to me ❤️

[TheFlak38]

Women call that rape today.

[Anonymous]

Matched on dating app.

[EaterPeter]

Option b and more

[Anonymous]

I was horny.