Hey guys I would like your input on something what do you guys think this means?

Question

I’m currently in no contact will my girlfriend because it felt like I was the one putting all the effort in the relationship so I decided to fall back I miss her so much but I’m done chasing. I recently found out she’s been texting my little sister still I was wondering do you guys think this means anything? It gives me hope

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

You need to have a talk with her and express you’re feelings to her and be honest with her , tell her what you are telling us , that you feel like you are the only one really giving in this relationship and you feel she isn’t doing the same in return. You did the right thing by walking away from her so tell her if she wants this relationship to survive she needs to put in effort as well , Sadly most girl’s are selfish people and they don’t really realize that they are , they want a guy to constantly do for her but she has a hard time doing for him and that’s why most relationships fail because girl’s have selfish personalities. Don’t straight out tell her she is selfish , just tell her for a relationship to work it has to go both ways , you can’t expect me to give to you without receiving in return , you can’t expect me to remove selfishness for you if you can’t do it for me , if you want to be with me you have to wear my shoes like you expect me to wear yours , Girl’s sadly need that guidance for her to be able to respect you the way you deserve to be respected , if she can’t do this for you , then you need to walk away. By you putting your foot down to her is going to make her realize what she is losing , you need to get her to chase you and the only way you can do that is by not allowing her to walk over you , Girls’ want a man she can look up to not a guy that she feels is weak , so the ball is in your court man , if you love and miss her then this is the best advice I can give ya

Iron_Man · Accepted Answer

You need to talk to her and organize things

SueShe · Accepted Answer

If she has been texting your little sister, then for what purpose? Is she trying to obtain information about you through her? If yes, then you should contact your former girlfriend and set the record straight.

The fact that she tries to get information about you through your sister leads me to believe that she is not over you yet. You owe it to yourself to either put an end to this indirect stalking or then to talk to her and try to solve the issue once and for all.

Your sister would be the one to tell you what your ex girlfriend wants otherwise you are just making yourself false hopes. If you want to go back to your girlfriend, then you have to make it clear that you will only do your share and that she has to do hers if she wants things to work out.