If you’re in a relationship and a random man or woman asked to hookup, what would you say?

[Anonymous]

Tell them to f*ck off

Risk it and destroy your partner’s trust

A total of 31 votes were cast: 10 girls and 21 guys. See detailed results

[SteveSmith1985]

Definitely not hooking up. I'm not a cheater. That's what it comes down to. Whether someone is a cheater or not. The person who would say "yes" to hooking up... is a cheater. They didn't need that particular opportunity to cheat. It's a matter of personal morals (and whether one has them or not).

[EricSummer]

I would refuse politely. Why would I tell them to fuck off? It's still a compliment.

I would suspect the offer is commercial in nature. If not, I would be flattered.

It would still be a no.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't tell them to fuck off but I would tell them in a polite way that they are so barking up the wrong tree.

[loveslongnails]

c) None of the above. I'm in an open relationship. I'd have to see if I was attracted to the person and make a determination. Random hook ups are generally too risky.

[shades777]

You can always just take their number down, and tell them you'll call if you break up, but don't call them because some people like to disrespect relationships.

[Asker]

Oh, ok. So, you’ll take their number and have them wait for you to break up?

[Asker]

Of course without your partner’s knowledge, am I correct?

[shades777]

there's always a chance for a break up the difference is now I have to go looking for a new woman where as I have one.

I'm not planning on breaking up because someone wants to sleep with me.

I view it as convenient

[shades777]

Definitely without her knowledge, thats not something you go sharing, there's nothing wrong with getting a number, what is wrong is cheating on your girlfriend

[Asker]

How come you don’t want your partner to know you have another woman’s number?

[shades777]

Getting a number is a good confidence boost, lets me know I still got it, when is what most women want, they want the man desired by other women, well as a man I can either think im desirable or I can know it and since knowing is better the number is the knowing to reaffirm Im vauable, thats going to improve the relationship

[shades777]

Her knowing I got other womens numbers isn't helping her in any form, I can't see a benefit to sharing that info that wouldn't lead to a break up

[Asker]

Oh! I get it now. You don’t want her to know because that’ll mean she’ll break up with you. Exactly why is that a bad thing if she does?

[shades777]

Because she will translate it to me cheating, I'll be accused of things I didn't go, which leads to less trust, which leads to less communication and eventually we go our separate ways.
Thats all based on a hypothetical.

A woman will take something and run with it. She will connect dots that aren't even connected.

When in theory and practice women get mens numbers or contacts all the time, they don't act on it either but if we break up she's got opinions lined up, its the same thing only she's smart enough not to tell you every time she's got a new number.

Thats not something you should be sharing with your girlfriend and she shouldn't be sharing that info with me.

[Asker]

Well, duh. Of course she’s not going to trust you. I mean, why in the fuck would you do that in the first place? I mean, if she accuses you of cheating, that’s your fault.

[shades777]

Thats why you don't tell.

[Asker]

Or, hear me out, YOU DONT FUCKING GET OTHER WOMEN’S NUMBERS!!

[shades777]

agree to disagree

[Asker]

Are you really that stupid to do something like that behind your partner’s back? The person who trusts you?

[Asker]

Like, why?

[Asker]

Your partner is suppose to be your cheerleader. They’re suppose to be supportive of you. If that’s not good enough, then you can go jump off a cliff.

[shades777]

We have different approaches to our love lives, I'm not naive to the fact things come and go like seasons, as having a number does not constitute an affair but acting upon that number does, what I attempted to show you was a paradigm based on abundance, its something subconscious that women value but can't put into words.

We can agree to disagree but this is a popular male philosophy.

[shades777]

I've never been approached by a woman who did not think I was a player, when a relationship occurred, thats the abundance portion I mentioned, they felt I had other women chasing me and wanted me to themselves, maintaining abundance without practice is difficult, its the same way that you can go to the club and dance with other men and go home to your boyfriend, women seek the attention to reaffirm their value, a social proof if you will.

Like I said getting the number is a social proof, that a man still it, as soon as a man looks that spark, a woman will become less interested

[Asker]

All I gotta say is that if a guy EVER pulled that shit behind my back, he’ll be 6ft under. So he better think twice before crossing me. Whether he cheated or not, if he does something sketchy like that, he better be ready to meet Satan.

[Asker]

And you better get yourself ready for the same thing if you ever messed with the wrong woman. Because, let me tell ya, your woman is not going to let you get away with that shit. I promise you that.

[shades777]

You could just walk away, its not that serious, but Ill post a question later asking the men how they affirm they still got it without practice, that will sure to get some interesting answers. Then we can get a range of answers and not just my perspective

[Asker]

Oh, no. I’m a vengeful person. If someone inflicts pain on me, I’ll inflict stronger pain.

[Asker]

So you better watch your back.

[shades777]

Sounds like a good release is needed. Like a Asian massage.

I find Vengeance does more harm to self because of the harboring hatred

[shades777]

Also it's important to note I don't date just any woman so I seriously doubt I will to watch my back, can't instill fear where this isn't any vessel to store it,

As its better to let go and move on.

[Asker]

Oh, no. I want to make sure that person regrets for ever doing something sketchy like that behind my back. I’ll stick around until I’m completely satisfied.

[shades777]

geez 🧨

[Asker]

So I dare any guy to try something.

[Asker]

If he knows what’s good for him.

[slatyb]

Thanks, I'm flattered, but I'm in a committed relationship.

[JordanianNumetal]

Talk to your partner and see what they say maybe you can make a deal or a trade off.

[Luckycharms12]

I would say I'm with someone Thanks but no thanks sure loads lads will take you up on that offer tho good look with the hunt

[Anonymous]

Tell them to get out of my face before I kill them and bury them where nobody will ever find them

[Agape93]

No. They can fuck off.

[Drumlin2001]

Thanks. But no thanks

[LiamJHayden]

I would decline.

[Jamie05rhs]

I would say, "Sorry; I'm taken."

[Spade_01]

Just refuse.

[Mansearching]

Nope. Sorry

[dudeinohio]

No way

[Tstrbrainer]

Is the woman pretty?

[Asker]

Even if she is, are you willing to risk your relationship? Because, if so, you better watch your back.