This sweet guy at work liked me?

[Anonymous]

This guy at work liked me but has found out I’m pregnant now he won’t talk. I has broken friends with me. I feel bad as I’ve hurt him. What to do?

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I tried to make friends he rejected me

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel bad about the situation and that you're concerned about how this guy is reacting. However, it's important to remember that you are not responsible for his reactions or emotions, and that it's okay to prioritize your own well-being and the well-being of your pregnancy.

If you're comfortable doing so, it may be helpful to reach out to him and talk about the situation. You can express your own feelings and concerns and try to understand his perspective as well. It's important to communicate openly and respectfully, and to listen to each other's thoughts and feelings.

However, it's also important to respect each other's boundaries and decisions. If he is not willing or able to talk to you or be friends with you, it's important to respect that decision and focus on your own support network and well-being.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide how to approach the situation, and to prioritize your own emotional and physical health during this time. If you're feeling overwhelmed or uncertain about the situation, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or mental health professional.

[Asker]

I feel bad as I lead him on

[Opinion Owner]

If you feel like you may have led him on, it's important to take responsibility for your actions and apologize. It's understandable to feel bad about unintentionally hurting someone's feelings, but it's important to remember that it's never too late to make amends.

You could try reaching out to him and apologizing for any confusion or misunderstandings that may have occurred. Let him know that you value his friendship and that you never intended to hurt him.

It's also important to be mindful of your actions and communication going forward, especially in the workplace. Clear and respectful communication can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure that everyone feels comfortable and respected.

Remember to take care of yourself as well, and seek out any support or resources that you may need during this time.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Communication is the key & as for me I say talk to him & just because you are pregnant it isn’t an excuse for someone to end a friendship with you.

[Asker]

I tried but he rejected me.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

If he reject you it’s his loss & in life the only way to move is forward. Do you have feelings for the guy at work?

[Asker]

I liked him as a friend but feel bad as he liked me.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Are you in a relationship?

[Asker]

Yes but I do understand the guy wants to protect himself.

[Anonymous]

He wasn’t looking for friendship in the first place, you said it yourself that he liked you. It’s the fact that you’re pregnant, he doesn’t want to potentially deal with your baby or date a mom, especially a new one. Your position is very precarious right now.

[Asker]

What I’m going to do is after I’ve had my baby then try and reach out to him about being friends again. Perhaps go for a coffee.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are you so invested when you have a boyfriend? Would you feel comfortable if he were doing this for another woman? Saying once you have the baby he’ll ask her out for drinks? The guy doesn’t want to be just a friend, and you know that, so for you to even try mending the bridge is so disrespectful to your boyfriend and relationship. I can only guess maybe you aren’t fully happy.

[Opinion Owner]

You his your pregnancy, led him on, flirted with him, this is so bad for you to have done as a girlfriend and you should just be single.

[Opinion Owner]

*hid

[slatyb]

How have you hurt him? Your pregnancy doesn't affect him in any way. You've burst his fantasy bubble. It's past time for him to grow the F up.

[Asker]

To be fair I lead him on it was partly my fault.

[Asker]

I arranged dates with him before I knew I was pregnant I told him I liked him and he meant a lot to me. I got him birthday presents and Christmas presents.

[slatyb]

You acted in good faith. Then something changed that he didn't like. Too bad for him.

[In_Trance]

Find a different friend

[Asker]

To be fair I hid it from him I think if I told him he would have been ok.

[In_Trance]

But you didn't tell him. And it's not OK.
So, find a different friend

that's deceit