Should I stay or break up with him?

Question

He told me his feelings for me are fading, and he's getting bored of me because I am not making good effort in this relationship. He feels like iam not into him that much, and he said he feels empty for being with me.

He said he is more joyful when getting attention from other girls. When I asked him, whether he want to break up, he said no. He just wants to work on it, so that it will get better for us. He said he doesn't want me to leave either.

What should I do guys? Should i just leave this guy even though he's the only option i have now?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It sounds like there are some serious issues in your relationship, and it's important to address them before making a decision about whether to stay or break up. Here are a few things you could try:

1. Communication: Have an open and honest conversation with him about how you feel and what you want from the relationship. Ask him to do the same. Try to understand each other's perspectives and see if there are ways you can work together to improve things.

2. Self-reflection: Take some time to think about whether you are happy in the relationship and whether you are putting in enough effort. If you feel like you could be doing more, try to make changes and see if things improve.

3. Counseling: Consider seeing a couples counselor or therapist to help you work through your issues and improve your communication and relationship skills.

Ultimately, the decision about whether to stay or break up is up to you. Consider your own feelings and needs, as well as the health of the relationship at this time. It's important to be honest with yourself and with your partner about what you want and what you are willing to work on.

GoodEnoughThen · Accepted Answer

Leave him. Not a good fit. Can't stay with someone just because that's all you got going. Embrace your singleness, a time for person growth, and you'll be better ready for the next opportunity that comes along.

His not liking you is not necessarily your "fault". Again, just not a fit. Relationships take two people, not just one partner trying to be a good match for the other.
The right person will like us for who we are, but we continue to look for opportunities for self improvement.
Best to you!

PinkMichae · Accepted Answer

If that's what you want. But sounds like he's trying to communicate with you even tho he's being a bit of an jerk about it.

The question you should be asking yourself is are his complaints valid? Are you not that into him? Do you make time to nurture the relationship? If you feel you are giving 100% to him and he's feeling this way then he may be just too needy for you.

And if you feel you can't give more, then yes, you should break it off. Because it sounds like he's not far off from justifying himself to cheat on you. If he hasn't already.

bobalife · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you wanna stay. Since he wants you to put effort. Then, you need him to put effort too. Relationship goes both ways. Sometime, people lose feelings when they don’t feel enough love. But it can also be rekindle.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Didn't you ask this same question 4-5 days ago?

Qwertsy · Answer

He’s communicated to you exactly how he’s feeling. He says he wants to work on your relationship to improve it. No relationship is perfect, but that shows commitment.

Your response is to consider a break up. That’s not a bad thing, it may point to how you’re truly feeling deep down. My point is, if you are seeing this is a good “out,” then take it. Because if you don’t want to be with him anymore, staying will only delay the inevitable.

But if you truly want to stay with him, do so. It sounds like he’s wanting to work on your relationship together. And that’s rare.

aoihewgf · Answer

Well obviously he would like you to put more effort in the relationship but him saying he's bored is just a way to make him come across as if he will leave if you don't start making an effort. The truth is though if he doing all the work and you doing shit, if he had other options himself, he'd of dropped you already.

Just something for you to think about though, "Should i just leave this guy even though he's the only option i have now" This makes you look like a girl that 1) needs someone else to be happy at all times, 2) can't be trusted. It really is okay, to leave something you dont want and just be single for second..

Anemone978 · Answer

Maybe you aren't giving him the attention he wants that he used to get from you..
He just probably wants the passion that you two had in the beginning back.
I would stay with him, have some deep serious conversations about the relationship and what you both want out of it, if you are both on the same page, then see if you guys can work it out. He wants to fix it that is why he is being honest with you. If you still love him I would say give it a shot.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

You should leave. The fact you didn't see this as him giving you one last chance and you're asking if you should leave him shows that you stopped caring about this relationship a long time ago. At this point you're just wasting both of your time.

EricSummer · Answer

He prefers attention from other girls so do both of you a favor and break up with him.

For a man it can be difficult to break up as long as the sex is good, but in his heart he is already moving on.

You should insist on a guy who is on fire for you in the figurative sense.

ohsheeT · Answer

In a roundabout way you answered your own question

He's happiest when getting attention from other women

So he must not really in to you either

And you say he's your only option right now

Meaning you need him right now in this moment. For something

But if someone better was to come along. You would be gone

I don't know if any of this is true it's just how I read it.

Good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Your last sentence implies that he's right. You aren't into him, most likely are not making the effort, and only entertain him because you haven't got someone more of interest to you.
Kinder to let him go than string him along.

jimmy2 · Answer

He wants to work on it but you sound like you don't want to. in relationships we on both sides have to communicate clearly and find forgiveness when needed

No one is perfect and you will not find a perfect one better than him. At least he is honest and these days that's a lot

Paris13 · Answer

Make the Effort More in this Relationship or Someone Else WILL. Simple as That. xxoo

slatyb · Answer

No, leave. He's an ass. If he's doesn't want to continue the relationship, he should just say that, instead of blaming you.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Yeah it sounds like neither of you are into each other. Break up now while you are still young and have options

Simslover92 · Answer

So are you basically settling? Like do you feel he's all you can do because if that's the case, you need to break up with him.

DizzyDesii · Answer

He doesn't wanna breakup. He wants you to end it. End it

Googlemyahoo · Answer

Sounds like a beta male. Time to move on find yourself someone who doesn’t need constant attention.

Steelcore5280 · Answer

He's already checked out from you. In other words, you know the answer to this question.

stratford · Answer

Is he correct that you are not giving him enough attention?

Anonymous · Answer

He fucked up when he talked to you about this. He should've just dumped you

Sasha0426 · Answer

Well, are you making effort? We need more details for your side.

Anonymous · Answer

If you still have feelings for him, Just ask how you can make him feel better.

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