Reaching out after self sabotaging?

[Anonymous]

So I matched with this guy via Hinge. We talked for 2 weeks and went and grabbed coffee. But right after the coffee date, I immediately “friend zoned” him and said that I enjoyed our hang and would like to stay in touch because I need more creatives in my life. It was definitely me self sabotaging and I deeply regret it. We texted a couple times after, but the convo naturally ended and he hasn’t texted me for a few weeks. I want to reconnect, but don’t exactly know how. Any tips? I was thinking about texting him on Mother’s Day, by sending a supportive text because I know he lost his mom when he was younger. Is that weird?

[FilmGuy93]

Sending that text would absolutely be weird lmao. Y’all do NOT have that kind of relationship.

If you want to reconnect, say it explicitly. “Hey, I’ve noticed that our conversation died off after I said ____. Looking back on it, I can understand how someone might think I was only interested in something platonic based on that comment. I am still very much interested in dating you and hope we can have another date soon.”

[ThelmaRae]

I think you need to be honest about how you feel. Because he’s probably moving on….

[FireFox001]

Well, the only recourse is if you'd be honest with him. He is clearly not interested in being friends. But he might have moved on.