I want to find a woman, date, marry and create a family soon. Do I sound desperate even if I am serious about dating?

[Anonymous]

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A total of 12 votes were cast: 6 girls and 6 guys. See detailed results

[Effably]

Not really. Its fine to know what you want and pursue it.

That said I would change the phrasing. Urgency is fine to be subtly implied rather than put forward. You can trust that other people will understand it. Even if you only said "I am looking for someone to build a life with" people would understand. If you feel it seems desperate just say enough to get the point across and trust others to fill in the gaps.

[Anonymous]

Present what you want. Practice what you preach. I agree don't expect a woman... any woman to have all of those qualities though before the first date. Like don't expect her to be it because you'll get hurt!! Just be calm and cool about things. Have fun. Live life. Enjoy life. Be safe. Keep communications clean and comprehension clear and everything should be good. Good luck!

[Asker]

I am a career focussed person. I was away from Love and Dating. Now, I want to do it fast. I have wasted most of the time in studies, job and making money. I feel upset when I see couples kissing and cuddling. Even though I have a good career, I still feel unhappy, unsatisfied and incomplete.

[Opinion Owner]

That's okay!! Just remind yourself to cool down a bit. There I'm sure are very like minded women all around you. Smile and learn to create connection. When you crash and burn buddy you crash and burn!! Don't rush anything! You didn't rush your studies did you? You knew what you wanted and took the time to learn and understand and you ACED IT!! learn to do your relationships that way too. But add fun lol

[Asker]

I agree with you. I don't know why? But I want to hurry up before it's too late. I don't want to use sexual words, I will use it anyhow. My married male friends are making fun of me. They said, you are a gay or your penis is not working. No Woman will ever understand my problem.

[kylee2437]

It only sounds desperate if you present that to someone before you actually get to know them. Build something from the ground up, and don’t expect to love someone before you like them. Take things slow, build some memories , figure out another persons mind.

[Asker]

I agree. I want to do it fast but some women misunderstood me. They assumed that I am desperate for sex.

[kylee2437]

@asker it could definitely look that way in my perspective. I think slowing things down and just be there to learn about a person is going to give you better results

[Asker]

I am a career focussed person. I was away from Love and Dating. Now, I want to do it fast. I have wasted most of the time in studies, job and making money. I feel upset when I see couples kissing and cuddling. Even though I have a good career, I still feel unhappy, unsatisfied and incomplete.

[kylee2437]

I totally get it, but at the same time do you want to build it with someone that can potentially make your life a living hell? Not every couple is genuinely happy. I think taking time to learn someone goes a better way than just jumping into something because you feel like your life is missing something.

[Asker]

Of course not, I don't want my life to be a hell.

[Asker]

I don't know why? But I want to hurry up before it's too late. I don't want to use sexual words, I will use it anyhow. My married male friends are making fun of me. They said, you are a gay or your penis is not working. No Woman will ever understand my problem.

[Asker]

You are a dating coach. So I want to convey my message to all women that family oriented men are desperate for dating, marriage and babies. Tell them to don't runaway from dating and marriage. Some of my friends told me to have fun, hookup and release sexual tension. But I am not the guy who likes hookups. It's a complete waste of time. It's better to marry, make babies and create a family. Do you agree with it or not?

[kylee2437]

So you don’t have to be okay with random hook ups, you can easily date without that. Dating with zero sex involved also leads you to finding someone that may have deeper care for you.

[Asker]

I will do that. I will date slowly. Let's see what happens next?

[OracleCassandra]

There are lots of women who are probably in a similar boat as you. The trick is to find them, and not to focus on women with different objectives.

[Asker]

That's what my mom said. I can't find them. Where are those women? All the women I have approached play hard to get.

[OracleCassandra]

An interesting question, and one I'm afraid I don't really know the answer too.

My best advice would be to get a dating app and be very honest, then look for similar profiles. If they have similar interests, a dating app is probably where they would go.

[Asker]

Tried everything, nothing is working. Dating is tough, girls / women are complicated. I think it's my fate. I am so desperate to start a family but it isn't working. May be god has not made a soulmate for me. I feel upset when I see couples kissing and cuddling.