How not to get desperate? And how to find someone to date?

[Anonymous]

I have been on dating apps for 4 years, never got a single date out of it.
I have tried to make a friend with a girl and then get stuck in the friendzone.
And wasted my teenage years in studies, finding a job and just surviving never learnt.
Now I am struggling to find anyone to even go on a date with.
There is a ball dance next week.
And I haven't got any one I truly want to go at least once, this was my last chance to go with someone.
I took the masters after I was 26 just to give one more try and it failed.
It feels like I am a failure in my own eyes.
I achieved everything which is considered good in my own country and my own parents'eyes.
Now I need to learn how to let go and how to live happily alone cause it's lonely.

[HollyK21]

While relationships are one of those milestones I think most people wanna hit, they should simply be extensions of an already fulfilling life. Reading through this, it sounds like your past is riddled with regret and your present is full of loneliness. Maybe it’s worth readjusting your focus to be on creating happiness in other areas of your life so that you aren’t so negatively impacted by being single. Despite our best efforts, we can’t control when we find love or successful relationships.

[Asker]

I don't have any other way of experiencing any fun..
I don't have any hobbies.
The one I had died cause of family pressure, being in a job.
Trying to be better in my job.
And now I'm trying to be smarter in my course, I don't want to be the best but good enough to know a few things which everyone forgets.
Even that doesn't make me happy. Only thing I have as a hobby is 8 ball pool and that too I need someone to play with.
Now that is something I am losing interest in.
I used to play games or watch movies.
Now I can't even enjoy it.
Make me feel wastage of time

[HollyK21]

Creating more fulfillment in your life isn’t just about fun. It also means pursuing personal passions, and finding purpose beyond being in a relationship or having kids. Prioritize your well-being, not family pressures. Find a hobby, and not every hobby or activity requires more than one person, so break out of your comfort zone and see what’s happening in your area. Work on your daily routine, go to the gym, create a healthy body and mind. Set goals for yourself, go out and help others, like volunteer work on a random day that you’ve got some free time. Things like this can give you a bigger sense of purpose.

[Jeff51]

Go somewhere and meet people. Stay off of sites.

[Asker]

Where libraries?
I don't read books,
Bars? I don't drink or dance + I don't even have money cause I blow it on this masters degree.
Cafe? Sitting alone and hope someone will just join me?
That used to happen to your generation not mine?+ That needs looks or charm I don't have both.
Parks or gardens oh I am already there, I get stopped only by old people or parents to ask where the closest wash room is.
I can't play sports cause I had a fall hip trauma so nope.
I root in my room or study spaces and if I say hi how are u? I just get ignored or shut out (unless they want to just sell me something)
I am boreing , uninteresting, and don't know how to get to the next step.
All my hobbies are playing 8 ball pool or park walk.

[Asker]

Go where

[Asker]

Huh?