If I'm so beautiful as everyone claims I am then why don't men talk to me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a very insecure person and always have been. I try to mask it though the best I can in public. People always give me these out of this world compliments like I'm out of this world stunning when I'm not (I know I'm not) Like my nose is ugly etc. I'm convinced people are lying to me all the time

People always tell me everyone is staring at me and I know they are but surely it can't be because of beauty. Men stare at me all the time, I do get hit on a lot but only by creeps or male wh*res.

I feel so lost, men who I like look at me but they never come up to me so I think they must be looking because of something else. Other girls I know don't have this problem. My last relationship was when I was 16 and I'm 20. Tbh I haven't been looking for anything until like a month ago and I've been going out a lot but nothing really happens. I sound so ridiculous I know, what do you think may be the problem?

[ManOnFire]

Well, it could be your demeanor. Are you purposely using a snobbish or stand-offish appearance? If so, this prevents a lot of men from approaching, and a lot of women who complain about never getting asked out, tend to have that snobbish or don't-talk-to-me body language yet wanting men to talk to them.

[Asker]

I'm not like that I think but I have bad social anxiety and I can't look at people. I don't know how to fix that though I've always been like that

[ManOnFire]

You may need therapy if your anxiety is really bad. Or you could always try binaural tones, those really help people a lot for a lot of things.

[inhua]

men are talking to you. just not the men you want

you seemed confused on how attractiveness is measured. it's not based on quality but based on quantity even though we'd much prefer quality over quantity

if 1 hot guy thinks you're ugly and 500 ugly guys think you're hot, then you're hot

if 1 hot guy thinks you're hot and 500 ugly guys think you're ugly, then you're ugly

500 > 1 but I'm sure you'd value the opinion of the hot guy more than any ugly guy

then again female attractiveness is mostly subjective and that hot guy could think Lizzo is attractive too so it wouldn't really mean much in the end

[Truthatanycost]

I look at women I like too, but I no longer approach. It sounds like a lot of guys don't approach anymore judging by the number of videos I see from women on social media.

[Sunssong]

Whatever you think people are thinking about you
that is actually what you subconsciously believe about yourself.

[Jamie05rhs]

"I get hit on a lot... by creeps or male wh*res."


And you complain that then men you like never come up to you. Well, if they did, you would probably call them creeps as well.

[Asker]

Creeps = Old homeless men
Male whores = Asking me for a bj in the bathroom

[Jamie05rhs]

Ohh. Okay. Thanks for clarifying.

[slatyb]

Get some counseling if you can. You are probably quite attractive but appear alooif.

[DextroShade]

First, who is telling you that you are beautiful?

Second, what is your height, weight, and dress size?

[Anonymous]

I've seen this question several times, and there's more to beauty than looks.


Like some of the men already stated if your attitude is stank nobody will want to put of with you for long.

[Anonymous]

No pic by chance?

[Anonymous]

Men are afraid of beautiful women.