If a girl makes the first move is it a turn off?

[Anonymous]

I know guys say its a turn on but is it actually? Doesn’t the girl look desperate? and dont men prefer the chase?

[Anonymous]

Nope. Let's be honest. This is a LIE that women perpetuate to alleviate them of any responsibility of making an effort towards a guy while still maintaining the claim that they actually want a relationship.

Yes some guys are going to reject you. IT HAPPENS! I promise you though. Still not nearly as much as the amount of rejection a man would face in your place.

The key is to be realistic about your marketability. And where you stand with a guy. Guys get rejected when the woman isn't feeling them. If you move on the guy too fast of course he's going to reject you. He's got to develop the same feelings towards you as well.

It always amazes me how patient women are when they're manipulating a guy. But when they actually want a guy it has to be RIGHT NOW! 😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

Yes , its a turn-on. Women don't do that often so it makes me think she's really into me and serious about being involved with me. I always makes sure to not let them know I appreciate it. I'm still hooking up with women who have made the first move and its been years. Even though I usually make the first move, I know their serious every time if they do it before me. I think women should make the first move more often. It clears up a lot of the confusion that guys might have about a woman he's seeing.

[Leapfrog00]

I don't think so. It sometimes does me a favor because I'm a shy person. Sometimes I get so self-conscious, I think there's something wrong with me, and become afraid to talk to girls.

A girl making the first move doesn't show it being desperate on her part. Especially if she knows the guy is shy. I like when girls flirt with me, at least I know if I have a slight chance with them.

As long as the girl is talking about rushing into marriage or having babies with me, I don't see anything wrong with it. I dated this one girl once that wanted to have a baby the first month in. Yikes!

Other than that, no, I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it shows an act of ambition on her part. A girl sees something she likes, she goes for it. I'm sure all guys have different opinions though.

[Rockstarrrrr]

I get approached by girls a lot... It's almost always a turn on... There are confident girls and that's obviously hot.. And there's also the shy / awkward ones who get nervous and " desperate " while doing it but that's also very adorable... It's only bad if the girl is unattractive lol

[Anonymous]

Men view women making the first move in the same way women view men doing it. It's always welcome as long as we find the person attractive.

The difference lies in how men and women react if they don't find the person attractive. To women it's "creepy". To men, it's just an inconvenience, or even an awkward compliment. It's a matter or entitlement with women, and lack thereof with men

[richardcory]

I was always a bit shy about making a first move - worried I'd offend someone , or that I'd misinterpreted their signs of interest. So for me its great if the woman makes a move

[Billlewis]

No, not at all. I love it when she lets me know exactly what she wants, so I can do it for her.

[summiter]

Not at all. I love it when a girl made the first move. It always lead to fun and some great orgasms.

[runnerboy]

Not at all... but then again I'm a horny teen guy. I don't think they would sound desperate and it would be a turn on for me.

[exitseven]

When i was young I was painfully shy with girls. I never minded a little push.

[Anonymous]

Only some guys like chasing. Definitely not a turn off for the first move, but I still think after, the man should still lead.

[LiamJHayden]

"Guys" is just a generalization. Some men hate it, some like it.