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+1 yYou are in an exclusive, monogamous relationship?
You are meeting some other guy alone for coffee? Why? How do you know this person and what is the reasoning/scenario as to why you two are hanging out socially for some one on one quality time?
Why are you asking if it is cheating? Is something not on the up and up? You have some interest in this guy? Are you feeling, in your heart, that "I shouldn't be doing this"?
Everyone has different boundaries. I'm not ok with my wife just having "dates" with other men.
Does your boyfriend know about it? What does he think about you hanging out alone with some other guy and sharing quality time and sharing of your heart with some guy? Is it a secret from him?
If you are hiding it from him it is cheating. If you have any feelings for this guy it is cheating. If your boyfriend is against it, it is cheating. A lot depends.
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1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Could be, all depends on if you're being honest with your boyfriend about it and how he feels about it.
If you are hiding it from your boyfriend then yes you are cheating.
If you told you boyfriend and he is not happy about it and you are doing it anyway... then yes you are cheating.
Id told your boyfriend and he is like whatever and doesn't care... then you are good to go.
What's important to understand that you can cheat without out having sex with someone... because at the end of the day a date is a date, and it violates trust. When you do that you are cheating on emotional level if not physical level.10 Reply
Anonymous(18-24)+1 yDo you intend to cheat? Are you intrested in this other boy sexually?
You need to be careful on stuff like this. The other boy may be intrested in you sexually, if you cheat you get a reputation as a cheat and no guy will really ever want to be with you in a serious way because he can never trust you including this boy.
My advice is to tell the other boy you can't make it.
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Opinion Owner+1 yOK then. I'm sure you've told your boyfriend all this. I'm sure this guy doesn't have any ulterior motives such as getting you into bed.
Opinion Owner+1 yOK lol. Enjoy your "chat"
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Boyfriend is married huh? So you are a troll.
18.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Unbelievable that some people on here say you can't even have coffee with someone. Some people are SO insecure, it is nuts. I have coffee with people I work with, am I cheating, of course not!
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+1 yIt's perfectly okay go have coffee with a friend... that's not cheating... unless it leads to something more physical.
00 Reply If your intention is he's a friend and you're having coffee, it is NOT cheating. And if your boyfriend has a problem with it, that's a red flag.
If you're intention is, "he's cute, maybe this will lead somewhere" it's not cheating but means you should evaluate your relationship with your boyfriend.
If it's a date, it's cheating.30 Reply
+1 yFor me the test is: If you showed up for coffee and he brought his girlfriend along, would you feel disappointed? If no, then its not cheating at all. If it would bother you, then maybe your have some inappropriate feelings.
Still as long as its just coffee, I have no problem with it at all
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+1 ywoman's job is to respect the man, you are possibly slapping him in the face if boyfriend doesn't know and approve. It's disrespecteful. Best boyfriend is there with you.
in some cultures, you'd have your head removed to honor their emotions.
00 Reply Depends an easy way to determine wether what you're doing might be cheating is would you tell your boyfriend about it and like what level of detail
30 ReplyI'm your age and I do not think anything is wrong with it at all. It is just coffee after all. When I had gfs I also had friends that were girls which I think is good for guys to have friends that are girls that they are not sexually involved with. What are your thoughts?
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+1 yHaving coffee with somebody is not cheating! Ask yourself if your boyfriend is controlling. If you can't do simple things on your own without feeling guilty, then either look inside yourself, or get a boyfriend who isn't jealous.
10 ReplyThe fact you're asking this means you're interested in the boy you're having coffee with. So yes, it's cheating. Stop looking for validation on the internet. What you want is for people to tell you "no it's fine it's just coffee, you're allowed to have friends" knowing full well you have at least a minimal interest in this other guy.
00 Reply896 opinions shared on Dating topic. Unless you're planning to have coffee naked, what's the problem?
My wife has male friends. I have female friends. Keep your hands to yourselves and what's the problem?10 ReplyDo you tell your boyfriend? Do you do anything with him?
03 Reply2.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. It is if your intent is to explore it further and he is a Plan B. Your boyfriend is unlikely to take kindly to it and he gets a vote.
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+1 yIf it doesn't go past the friend stage then I don't think so but I'm sure to a boyfriend it would still look sus
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+1 yYes, you're cheating. You should be drinking tea.
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+1 yTell your boyfriend, see what he says..
What went through your mind when you read that?00 Reply - 1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic.
+1 yThere is nothing wrong with having coffee with a friend. It doesn't matter what sex they are. As long as it is a platonic cup of coffee you have nothing to worry about.
00 Reply 19.3K opinions shared on Dating topic. It starts off as having coffee, and then it turns into let’s get something to eat then there’s flirting, then holding hands and then you know the next
00 ReplyI suppose that if you’re hiding it from your boyfriend than that is cheating
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yAs long as he is your age it's not cheating. You can date a 21 year old and 17 year old and it's not cheating.
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+1 yClose enough. Why are you entertaining other men if you are taken? If you want to act single just be single!
00 Reply 455 opinions shared on Dating topic. How would you feel if your boyfriend was having coffee with a girl his age and you didn't know about it?
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+1 yIf you know it's a date, yes it's cheating. If it's friendly then it's not.
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+1 yNo. But maybe writing him a note or something so he doesn't have any suspicions or something
00 ReplyIt is not cheating as long as you tell your boyfriend about it
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+1 yDepends on what You mean by ‘bo.’ Just having coffee with anyone seems OK.
00 Reply Not automaticly. If you have no feelings for the boy its fine
00 Reply1K opinions shared on Dating topic. a coffee without a motive to start a sexual relationship is just a coffee
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yYou have a boyfriend and you're going on a coffee date with another guy. What do you think?
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Anonymous(25-29)+1 yNot if it's platonic
I have coffee with people all the time because they are clients00 Reply
Anonymous(36-45)+1 yCoffee isn't cheating. Flirting when you get coffee is. So just be sure you don't cross the line.
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+1 ynot if he knows about it
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you might wanna do that
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how do you think he would feel if you do tell him?
if he takes out a girl to have coffee and not tell you, then your sister saw... tells you... will you be all loving towards him still? - +1 y
@midnightmoon05 thank you
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Np.
Just waiting for her responsd.
She is only 17. Lots of life ahead as well…. understanding other peoples feelings. - +1 y
@midnightmoon05 what about my space
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What about your space?
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@midnightmoon05 I would think that there is something going on but not what you think
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Did you get to ask your boyfriend?
I don’t really care…
The only person matters is your boyfriend.
If he is good with this…I don’t have anything to add. - +1 y
@midnightmoon05 basically its no business of your\s, I just asked a question
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Exactly!!
It’s none of any of our issues. Hey…it’s not that you care about anyones feelings … nowadays… anything goes. Good luck to your boyfriend.
3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. Damn, you girls have absolutely no shame.
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+1 yNo its not cheating
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+1 yIt's not cheating.
00 ReplyIt’s just coffee
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+1 yWhat's your intentions with this guy?
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+1 ynot at all cheating unless something happens
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+1 yYeah
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+1 yIt can be
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+1 yNo it isn't
00 ReplyEnjoy life, have fun
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