Is it ok to cheat on your boyfriend during a party?

[AleDeEurope]

I just saw a video (below) where it was ask to girls if it was ok to cheat on your boyfriend during Spring Break.
To be honest it's kinda heartbreaking, and discouraging, to see that the vast majority say yes.

So my question is simple: is it ok to cheat on your boyfriend during a party (not just SB, but any party or festival)?

Here's the video:

Also guys, do you think it's ok to cheat on your girlfriends in these scenarios?

Yes, who cares, it's a party

Yes, but only if you're drunk

No, it's absolutely wrong

[Anonymous]

They say those things to excuse their bad behavior. When the odds of them getting caught decrease people are more likely to cheat. Most of these girls were far enough away that they weren't worried about getting caught. The only reason most people seem to be "faithful" is the fear of getting caught. Once that fear is gone very few men are women seem to have what it takes to be faithful.

It would seem that most men and women want a partner that is faithful, but most of them don't want to be faithful themselves. I agree it is very sad, but that is just the way it is. This is also why separate vacations are a bad idea. At least one of them if not both are likely to cheat during that time.

[Dragonblood21]

They interviewed the girls that would say stupid shit, and then that's the only ones they aired. I have about a 1 out of 10 chance of hitting a 3 point shot from NBA distance. However if I film it and just show the ones of me making the 3 point shots, I look like a pro. See where I'm coming from?

[AleDeEurope]

I agree, but I used this video because it was what made me think of asking this question here.

[Anonymous]

It's never okay to cheat on your significant other, but we're all human and make mistakes... Especially when alcohol is involved. If the cheating was intentional (texting, seeing another person secretly for a while, sober cheating) that's wayyyyt fucked up, but if it's not (getting black out drunk one night at a party--if you never party) it's still fucked up but it's more understandable. In those scenarios it's best not talked about an kept in the past. Cheating is wrong, but in some circumstances you shouldn't throw away a rare, amazing, imperfect person because of one drunk night. Excuse me if this makes me a bad person. Lol

[AleDeEurope]

So you think it's ok to forgive a cheater if they were drunk?

[Opinion Owner]

Sometimes it is.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

I really like the girl trying to argue that it wasn't okay and just got pissed and walked away at 1:23. The girls at 2:20 and 2:30 shouldn't be with their boyfriends in the first place if they think he's an asshole.

There MUST have been other girls other than like the 5 who said no. We aren't all hoes who have no self control. But maybe the ones who go on these vacations are so I don't know... but I say no way!

[AleDeEurope]

Yeah, I was happy to see that girl that got pissed when she said no. And like you said, there must have been more that said no, and maybe even some of those that said yes weren't even in a relationship.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

yea i mean, one of them was like "im hooking up with someone and it's fine." well yea of course it's fine... duh. and i think one other girl said something like "single as fuck" or something when she said to cheat but that part wasn't in the microphone. i bet a lot were single and trying to be cool... like the dark haired one who rambled for like a full minute and tried to make out with the interviewer...

[Prettygurl12]

No. Never okay. This video makes me sad.

[AleDeEurope]

It definitely does :(

[ThisDudeHere]

community.dipolog.com/.../

Ladies and gentlemen. How about a toast to these shits ending up alone and miserable? Cheers.

[Ozanne]

These videos and spring break wildness is such bullshit. It's so obvious the girls are showboating against each other to get attention from the camera and the guys (and probably each other), and the guys are eating up the attention because it's not very often these young twats act like this back home where their religious mommies and daddies will find out about this.

If you were to truly sit down with one of these girls and take them out of that bikini-clad platform and "get real" they would NOT be okay with cheating or being cheated on. This entire spring break nonsense is nothing less than a show and kids starving for attention and to try and act all grown up are going about it in a cringe-worthy way. Guaranteed in a few years they will wish they never even wish they went, much less said the idiotic things that they did. Guys and girls alike.

[singlebee]

I can tell you one thing... I am not generalizing.. But i can say after seeing this video this western culture is Preety much fucked up... and getting more fucked up...

And i am glad i am not party of this culture...

Many of the girls who said yes in this video... Were either paid to say yes or if they really said yes then they are all bitches... not gf material for sure...

[singlebee]

*part of

[AleDeEurope]

I also think they could be paid, but you think this is the case? Given that it's a small channel and how it was a party environment.

[singlebee]

I don't know... but i think they are paid.. Listen these girls are not the type if girls who are serious gf materia... they could be in a friends with benefits relationships or just party girls... And a lot of YouTube purple get paid just for saying something for someone's channel...

And also if a girl really loves you.. she won't cheat on you... remember that.

[singlebee]

*people

[AleDeEurope]

True, many channels pay people for their videos, but what if this is not the case? I'm not saying this video is 100% true, but it may also not be 100% false. I just saw the video and it sparked this question in my head.

[becca123]

The song says it all. "Oh no, honey I'm good. I could have another but I probably should not. I've got somebody at home and if I stay I might not leave alone."

Sounds like a bunch of people justifying bad behavior by blaming alcohol.

[AleDeEurope]

Good song, I wish more people think that way.

[Tokana]

The population sample of the girls in the party are a bad representation of girls in society. Its kind of like going to a kkk convention and asking people if they're racist. You're bound to get skewed results.

[AleDeEurope]

Well, I love going to parties, but I won't cheat if I had a girlfriend. But I get what you're saying.

[iammsass]

To be honest I really love my boyfriend and wouldn't do that to him. Like he has trusted me dont wanna give him a reason to. If someone doesn't love their boyfriend that much or isn't committed chances are theyre not gonna cheat. But personally I wouldn't go to a place like that without my boyfriend I'd feel very unsafe as well as its getting yourself in to a trap of cheating.

[arianna15]

what do u mean: If someone doesn't love their boyfriend that much or isn't committed chances are theyre NOT gonna cheat? do u mean they ARE going to cheat?

[iammsass]

Yes sorry.

[Kiwedin]

Personally, I don't think it's okay to cheat just because you're on vacation, at a festival, or whatever. Different couples have different boundaries, but for me and my boyfriend kissing and hooking up is definitely not an option. I don't mind if he dances with a some random girl and he doesn't mind if I do it either, because it's just drunken fun, but anything more than that and it's wrong.

[zorro8888]

I'd never see that as being okay.
In that video those girls are beyond drunk and they're seeking internet fame/attention so they'd say just about anything.

[AleDeEurope]

Perhaps, but I still wanted to see what people thought in here.

[zorro8888]

I was happy to see that pole, I would have been surprised if people were going with the video.

[arianna15]

NO DEFO NOT!!! you treat people how you want to be treated so don't cheat on someone if you don't want to be cheated on! even if its ONE kiss or anything! girls imagine how you would feel if your bf did this to you!

[AleDeEurope]

But their bf won't find out, so they can't seek revenge.

[arianna15]

but its still WRONG!!! I couldn't do that! if girls do it then they are basically saying 'he can do what he wants behind my back as long as I don't find out what'

[arianna15]

why do you think that if someone is cheated on and the other person finds out then they break up because it is WRONG it makes me so angry people that think its ok

[AleDeEurope]

I'm not saying it's ok, I'm just playing the devil's advocate, see how people respond. I actually think is 100% wrong, either drunk or not.

[arianna15]

it is 100% wrong

[Anonymous]

Cheating can be exciting.. but only if its a open relationship! I dont care if my bf does.. have seen him doing it. plus, I do it sometimes and he knows. As long as you make a deal its okay, otherwise you just dont do it!

[AleDeEurope]

But then it wouldn't be cheating no? I mean, it's an open relationship and you're both positive about sleeping with others.

[arianna15]

why are you together if ur just going to sleep around?

[Opinion Owner]

No then its not cheating. I say, if you make a deal you can do stuff with others then its different than when you do it without talking bout it

[BellePepper]

Is it negotiated infidelity or something?

[LittleSally]

Suuure, yeaaaah... I mean why have any self respect or love or concern or respect for your boyfriend who loves you...
Yeahhh...

Wow... I think that's American mentality. o. O

[AleDeEurope]

It's certainly not just American mentality, when I lived in Spain I saw this all the time, unfortunately.

[TheDevilInside]

This only makes me think that US college girls are whores and cheaters. Disgusting.

Cheating is NEVER OK. Unless he gives you a free pas "during your spring break", Cheating is NEVER OK.

[AleDeEurope]

Well, Europeans aren't much saints either, and this is coming from a European.
I agree with your second part, cheating is never ok.

[TheDevilInside]

I'm actually Asian. Just living in Europe . And I'm not saying that US college girls are like that, sorry if you feel offended. I just said that that's whyt the impression I got from this whole spring break thing and the video.

On the contrary, I find it cool that you, a 19-year-old dude, find cheating not OK. Quite a rare thing nowadays.

[TheDevilInside]

Hope that makes up for the "offensive comment" XD

[AleDeEurope]

I wasn't offended, but I always here people complaining that American women tend to be sluts, when European women aren't much different than Americans in this aspect.
I've met both European and American women and they're basically the same in this, so I just wanted to clear it up.

[TheDevilInside]

Europe is big, my friend. Consists of different countries and cultures.

[AleDeEurope]

I know, I know, but I've been to different European countries, though. America is pretty big too, the South is not like the East.

[TheDevilInside]

I guess "Americans" (note the quotation marks!) are more perceived like that by movies and such, so that's why tons of people get the impression that American women are sluts. And well, from videos like this. I don't know if it's true.

[nalaa]

Most of those girls seemed wasted. And I wonder what the guys had to say?

But for me no. I've never liked the idea of casual sex, so if I ever had a boyfriend, I'd be happy just being with him

[AleDeEurope]

True, they're wasted, but don't they say both kids and drunk people say the truth?

[xxxHolicxxx]

Yeah, there are certain people who would think it's okay during parties... Be glad you're not one of them. :)

[AleDeEurope]

I can choose to be one of them or not, but I can't choose that for my gf (hypothetical gf).

[xxxHolicxxx]

No of course not. Everybody makes their own decisions and some people are easier than others.

[OpenMIndedKitten]

For me it depends on what type of relationship you have with your current boyfriend
I'm not in a SERIOUS SERIOUS getting engaged in the future relationship so for me It's a YES, its fine HAVE FUN ITS A PARTY! but be sure that you and your guy knows that your not that serious so no FEELINGS COULD BE HURT

[AleDeEurope]

But cheating is technically considered when your partner isn't cool with you going on with other guys. So if he's ok with that, then it's not cheating.

[rjroy3]

I think she meets you aren't exclusively dating and you are both seeing other people. at least I hope that's what she meant. Because 1 month in most people don't know they are heading towards getting engaged...

[rjroy3]

Means*

[AleDeEurope]

@rjroy3 If that's the case I don't think it's wrong. If there's no commitment, she (or he) can sleep with whoever they want.

[rjroy3]

Yea. a lot of times a girl will call a guy they are seeing her boyfriend just because she's not seeing anyone else. Even tho they never had the discussion agreeing to be exclusive

[Keyspirits]

Thats why u dont let ur guel out in the wild alone no matter what others may say: insecurity, controlling etc. they know nothing. Shiat happens all the time. If u really luv that person, u won't let them go alone 👌

[AleDeEurope]

But that's denying them the freedom of doing what they want, and also lack of trust.

[Keyspirits]

It depends on the situation, who they going with or where they are going. If she juz going shopping with her gfs, thats find but if it is to hangout with her friends guy friends or party where theree are potential of guys presence, than it is not good. "Lack of trust" is what maks us turn a blind eye towards our luver.. get cheaten on behind our backs and not knowing anything about it.. gotta go with her. Thats not limiting her freeedom cuz u went with her. Thats what bf/gf usually do together afterall right?

[CHARismatic110]

It never ok to cheat. Period. You wanna venture outside of the relationship then end it. That simple.

[SomeoneImportant]

In their defense, they are in the midst of a party atmosphere, and are most likely single and probably drunk.

So they are answering while in the ultimate "I don't give a fuck" state of mind

[AleDeEurope]

It's possible, but what do you think?

[SomeoneImportant]

In regards to the cheating? I agree with the masses, it's never ok.

[Anonymous]

I'm so glad seeing the results of the poll. Cheating is unbelievable, if you can't make the commitment then don't commit! When people say 'it was an accident'. Come on! You don't just trip and fall onto a dick... Rant over! ;)

[AleDeEurope]

I agree, it's good to see that people still maintain some morals.

[Bandit74]

It's still wrong obviously.

I'm not too worried though because I wouldn't end up in a relationship with any of those kind of girls anyways.

[AleDeEurope]

But how do you know the girl you'll end up with won't be one of those girls? Unless she doesn't go to any party, of course. But if she does like parties, people can be one person outside that environment, but when in it, they can change a lot.