My boyfriend cheated on me in the club at my birthday party?

[Anonymous]

I reserved a lounge and all my friend were there. I wasn't all the time with him and wasn't observing him bc I thought I could trust him. Then my sister her friend saw him dancing with other girls and touching their ass etc. the highlight was he went with a girl (that he knew from the past) to the toilet to f*ck. A securty saw this and called the police bc he thought it was a rape (it wasn't). My boyfriend went to the prison for 2 days and I have blocked him everywhere. I went to his mum's house bc she told me she wants to speak with me. I was speaking to her and then suddendly my boyfriend came out of her room and i wanted to go. He came in front of the door and was like "pls give me a sec i swear i haven't f*cked her, she saw me going to the toilet and then she just came in the toilet cabine and started touching my d*ck she's a psycho and still in love with me". as he is a very good liar i thought maybe its true. I asked the girl to come out with me and she showed me that he always texted her on instagram (nothing sexual). Since then he is sending me emails telling me he loves me he's so sorry blabla. Then he told me ok look she gave me head and i know unforgiveable but i love you so much and im so sorry i was drunk and blabla. I know that he always cheated on his ex but Im pretty sure this is the first time he cheated on me bc he never went out alone since we are together and we never went to a club. Now this was exactly one week ago. He is calling me nonstop from diffrents number (bc he's still blocked) and writing emails saying he so so sorry and long textes. One time i picked up the phone and he was crying (i never saw/heard him crying before) we are 6months together and he is 23 and i am 22. We decided to go out today to talk. Im not sure what to do bc im so hurt and also in love. Any advice pls? Sorry for my bad English

[Carolus]

It's possible to forgive him. It makes sense if you don't trust him now to forgive. It’s up to you on what’s is stronger - breaking up or giving him another chance, it’s possible that he’s telling the truth if their communication have been non sexual. If you can't move past the cheating and forgive, breakup. Always remember, it’s never guaranteed even with whoever you meet next. Also, it’s a wrong idea to think you can control someone else (that you are sure it’s the first time because he has never been in any other party without you - means you are trying to hold control over him, which will unfortunate if you have happened to marry and you are at the house pregnant or with the baby and he’s out there in a party with friends), it’s a woman’s goodness that can prevents a man to cheat, not her spying and control, I would cheat on a woman who is always at my neck, suspecting me always and spying on my whereabouts just to beat her in her game, but I would be guilty if she’s kind, and treats me as the most trustworthy person because she takes my word for it. Meet him, give him a chance but he has to work on getting your trust back.

[funtime_01]

Block, dump and move on. I in the past wasted so much time on people like that, girls who would be all nice to your face and flirty to your face, lose interest and then cheat on me with multiple other guys sometimes. It basically drove me pretty much insane by the time I was at the end of adolescence, but I've got over it now and have recognised the path of anger is not the way. Back to you. You deserve much better. Especially being cheated on, during your birthday party! I mean, who does that? The joke is unfortunately on him now, he's got a mark on his criminal record saying he was in prison a couple of days because of a rape accusation. I'd learn from this, take time to yourself if you really loved this guy, and then if you feel like it go back out there into the relationships and dating world. He may have unresolved and untreated mental issues by the sound of his reactions, but that's up to him and his mother to get them sorted out. Not you. Wish you all the best in the world, you will get through this. Don't worry!

[Anonymous]

Dump his ass and never look back he had zero respect for you and your relationship and he clearly didn’t care about the hurt he was going to cause you because he was texting his ex who he later hooked up with at your birthday have some self respect and dump him and walk away if he can cheat on you just once whose to say he won’t do it again

[Asker]

She was not his ex.. she was the girl that he cheated his ex with

[Anonymous]

Once a cheater, always an ex. Dump him like a sack of bricks. And if he says he is sorry; tell him that's the price he has to pay for infidelity. Seriously, I mean if he is willing to get a blowjob from another woman at your birthday party. What is he willing to do the rest of the year and when you are not around?

[jaybee281]

Sometimes I really feel bad for girls - They constantly give alibis and excuses for their jackass boyfriends just because they love them so any thinking comes from a place of emotion which isn't logical - I'm sorry you have to go through this - I advise you to stay away from him because you're only gonna get hurt again and again - Although I know you ain't gonna listen to anyone and still follow your heart and get back with him.. and that's pretty sad if you ask me

[Rob70]

If he truly loved you he would not have done anything to screw it up. It doesn’t matter if it’s a guy or girl if they cheated on you once they will do it again. If someone really loves another person they will not mess around with someone else. Not even kiss or make out. I hate a cheater and don’t know how someone can do it and act like nothing happened

[boggboss]

So what are u asking he cheated on a ex he has now cheated on you you would have to be a retard to stay with him and think he won't cheat again remember he didn't only cheat on u but cheated on u at a club for your bday with u there

[EmmaMary]

Congratulations on winning a Troll of the day award.

[Asker]

F*vk you, you see im hurt and comment something like that

[EmmaMary]

Might I suggest you consider taking up either Fiction or Erotica writing, I'm convinced you could probably make an extremely successful career of it.

[EmmaMary]

If by the remotest chance a singe word of this is true, then just remember these six words:

A Leopard Never Changes Its Spots.

[SnakeBoop]

Get out of that relationship and find a dude to value you. Please have self respect for yourself!

[spartan55]

If you stay with him you can expect more of the same. Dude is a Hall of Fame shitbag, getting a blowjob in a club bathroom? Classy.

[CoolGuy7532]

Once a cheater, always a cheater. You can do better.

[VikingWarLord]

Read the book "SEX AT DAWN" by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.

It will change your LIFE

[noohair]

I am sorry that this happened. Maybe he should stop drinking alcohol since he can't control himself when he is drunk.

[boobliker]

Get rid of him it was your day not his Dump him and tell him why.

[Wise4myage]

Talk? Your kidding right? You're a fool to stay with him.

[Anonymous]

So why are you dealing with all his shit?
You don't have to.