I danced with another guy at a party, does that count as cheating?

[hannah]

Last weekend I attended a party and danced with a guy. Do you believe that it is cheating? Need your opinions...

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

It's funny because, while you're not dating the guy you danced with, you never know what that guy might feel about you.

You of course, were only just trying to make your boyfriend jealous, why, usually because you're not getting enough attention but, I get it. You just wanted to "let loose" for a little. Which is fine.

But it brings up a buffy the vampire storyline. She wasn't dating Angel at the time, because while they liked each other, he felt it wouldn't be right for an over 240 year old man to be with a 17 year old girl, even though she had already died by then. But we had seen her dance kind of "slutty" with Xander, to make Angel jealous but really it was only that she had a bit of an attitude problem, after having died. She wound up at the end of the episode, kicking the c out of the very person that killed her in the first place

[TheorionMage]

There's dancing and then there's DANCING to arouse.
Sensual... 'inspirational' that fires a male's imagination.
Teasing... grinding...
Him' getting aroused.
YOU getting aroused because YOU KNOW that YOU aroused him.
Whether you chose... or even considered 'tacit intimate massage'.In the 80's there was a pop song: "I didn't mean to turn you on..."
Only YOU know for sure, WHAT was your intention~

[musicbrain5]

Depends what kind of dancing you were doing. Like if you were grinding on him or you were grabbing each other and feeling each other up, yeah that's not appropriate when you're in a relationship with someone else.

If it was like ballroom dancing, or waltzing or something like that, it's fine.

[Screenwriter]

This isn't about an OPINION. There is no definition of cheating that includes DANCING with someone else!!! Unless you were naked and having sex while dancing, you were not cheating. For goodness sakes.

[Apple_Cider]

It depends on what their personal rules are. If she broke the rules she was cheating on the rules.

[Screenwriter]

@Apple_Cider If DANCING is cheating I'm a monkey's uncle. This sounds like some restrictive old school Baptist nonsense. Cheating, plain and simple, is defined by sex and perhaps some other kind of emotional attachment outside of your relationship with your SO, and detracts from your relationship with your family/SO. A dance with someone is so ridiculously innocent as to be laughable.

Rules don't change for baseball, basketball, swim heats or cheating. They are all clearly defined. Dancing is NOT included. Please. Be reasonable. And if these ARE some arbitrary rules that have been included in your relationship, you need to get out of it. Ridiculous to have such restrictions. Life is to enjoy and remember, David danced before the Tabernacle of the Lord to show his love and joy!

One of the nicest exercises you can share with another person! innocent and sweet. Don't uglify it.

[Apple_Cider]

Is a man going to a strip club cheating if he promised his wife he wouldn't go?

[Jamie05rhs]

@Screenwriter "Dancing" has come a long way since the days of old. You should see the things that people do these days. It's shocking.

[Apple_Cider]

@Jamie05rhs
What goes on now makes the movie "Dirty Dancing" look like a barn dance from the show Bonanza.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Apple_Cider Exactly! 💯

[Screenwriter]

@tiApple_Cider It's not CHEATING. But it's lying. And why lie about it? Unless someone is going to strip clubs all the time, it's another sleazy, but rather innocent past time. If this guy has to lie about where he's going, something is wrong already.

[Screenwriter]

@Jamie05rhs And I did cite the fact of dirty dancing.. but unless your clothes are off and you're in flagrante delicto, might be vulgar, but not cheating.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Screenwriter I guess we just have differences of perspective. (But that's okay.)

[Screenwriter]

@Jamie05rhs NOthing is that serious unless it's happening all the time and is interfering with your relationship. I'd thinkt hat would be the bottom line. I think lying, however, is more serious than dancing and is indicative of an essential problem of distrust...

[Jamie05rhs]

@Screenwriter I was trying to make peace with you. But oh well. I suppose I shall reiterate my point: today's "dancing" is not the same as the dancing of your youth. It IS serious.

[Screenwriter]

@Jamie05rhs I am fine with making peace. I'm seeing loads of suggestive dance teams traipsing through the Carnival parades. I understand that aspect of suggestiveness and during the dancing of my "youth" there was "grinding" where semi excited young men ground their nether regions into your thigh or worse yet your nethers. STILL... not cheating. Just rubbing. Again, vulgar. Not SEX! That's all I mean. I think that line of demarcation is clear.

Of course, your standards might be different. As offended as I was by grinding when I was a teen-ager, and I would move out of hip proximity during the dance, still not cheating. Creepy, vulgar. Cheap thrill for the practitioners. And I contend, not serious. But I am at peace with our differences.

Just cause you weren't around when I was a teen doesn't mean people weren't doing nasty dancing on the dance floor. I was there. It was happening ALL THE TIME... NOthing is new under the sun.

[Aerissa_Jade]

No, but if it was a reals slow grabby dance, then that might be... that is a question to ask your SO. They are the ones that determine cheating.

[AviatorTom]

No, dancing with someone else is not only acceptable, it's expected. Just make sure it's only dancing... nothing more.

[Chazmatazz269]

If you think your fella would have been hurt by seeing you dance with another guy, it is absolutely cheating. Shame on you for not knowing that about him.
How accepting of his indiscretions would you be if his excuse was, “I didn’t know for absolutely certain you would be hurt!”?
THIS is why the divorce rate is through the roof. NOBODY wants to have difficult conversations.

[buddies]

Exactly. She should know how he would see it, and act accordingly. If she walked in to him dancing with another girl, would she consider it cheating?

[Messianic_Monk]

Depends on the dance. Was he behind you rubbing up against you? Did you allow that? Were you rubbing your behind against him?

If the above then I would think so.

If not? Harmless. Down here in Texas if a girl dances with a boy there is usually nothing flirtatious about it unless they are already a couple.

[Anpu23]

It depends on your relationship, in some even looking at another is considered cheating and in others having sex witha complete stranger in the bathroom is fine.

Here's the key question, do you feel the need to hide it from your SO? If so in your relationship its probably cheating, if not its probably okay.

[Angelo75]

Check how your current boyfriend/husband thinks of it.
Otherwise you will end up using arguments of how OTHER people think that your partner "should" feel.
That's wrong. (sorry for being a bit blunt)
Just find out what he thinks about the idea of you dancing with another guy.

[Orion76]

Its interesting to describe it as possible cheating situation. If you walked to a man and started dancing with him then its odd and disrespectful to your partner but you did anyway and publicly then your parter might wonder what would you do in private!. But if a guy asked you to dance and you didn't want to be rude even though you can, or some dances require a group or parter switching thats totally normal. So why and who initiated and what kind of dance.

[bamesjond0069]

Like swing dancing formal dance? Or like grinding your ass on him and him rubbing all over your ass or reaching under your dress?

I mean dancing doesn't mean the same things to everyone. I personally have "danced" in both a ballroom setting and a skeevy hookup nightclub at 2am so I know what I'm talking about.

[stratford]

What kind of dance was it and how close / intimate did you get? Most importantly did you feel a sensual or physical attraction that gave you thoughts about being intimate with him?

If your pussy got wet, then it would be close to cheating unless your guy is cool with that kind of thing.

[DarkCarousel]

Unlikely unless you made plans to see him again or if you had physical contact that was not involved with dancing.
Also, hopefully you have talked with your SO about respect and their comfort zones.

[Macnelon]

Depends on what kind of dancing. Did it feel intimate? Was there flirting? If you demonstrated the dancing with your partner would they be offended? And if the roles were reversed would you be upset?

[sage2021]

I would consider it cheating because if I saw some chick dancing with my boyfriend it would ruffle my feathers. Dancing can lead to actual sex.

[Apple_Cider]

I agree with you. Unless she had permission from her boyfriend, it was cheating.

[SexyRedd1966]

It's nothing wrong with it, but whatever kind of dancing you're doing, would you do that type of dance if your guy was watching... if you wouldn't, then don't do it when he's not there

[HighValue]

Answer this: Did it involve holding hands with him while dancing? Did it involve his hands on your waist or your butt or breasts up against his body?

[buddies]

If your partner walked in on you dancing with another man, would you feel guilty or back away? If not, then nothing to worry about.

[1stupidrobot]

Nope. Absolutely not. Sounds like your boyfriend has his panties in a twist. But be prepared for him to do the same with other women. It goes both ways.

[DevikaButts95]

Depends if you go behind your partners back or not. That is the only thing that constitutes cheating.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

No, that is ridiculous. Were all those people who are married and danced with other people on the show dancing with stars cheating?

Is a salsa dancing instructor cheating on his wife by teaching and dancing with others?

[HappyWoman34]

Not at all. Is he accusing you of cheating? That’s a red flag. Get away. Run fast.

[dustybiker]

I like to think of it this way, if you can pay for something it’s cheating.