Guys, Is this Considered Cheating if a Guy accepts a Lap Dance at his Bachelor party?

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**I found this Interesting when I answered Someone on Something Similar they had Asked. xx

Adonis7 · Accepted Answer

Anyway shape and form of emotional sexual connection to another person in their minds will be considered cheating mentally and emotionally.

However...

We also have to consider the intentions of their heart and mind. A lot of them are saying goodbye to the world and hello to their love of their life.

Therefore, a lot of them don't have the attention to do that from now on for the rest of their relationship. But you still have to be careful because you also have to ask why they would do something like that. Bachelor parties for both men and women to have strippers for a good night, and a goodbye to everyone they know to be with the love of their life is traditional in many places around the world.

Many of them are also influenced their friends too say one last time with the guys or with the girls. Both guys and girls are influenced in this way. Many things can happen on those bachelor parties and are being exposed to them through these kind of parties.

I would say it's not cheating it's more traditional however you are opening Pandora's box to have anything possible happen due to the situation and setting that you give to the individual.

And he has slept with other people other than their spouse and their bachelor's party. Both man and women.

However the pro about this is that it's not in private which is what's really questionable about cheating. Since it's out in the open it's not really something that can be considered as cheating due to the fact that they're not really hiding anything because it's a bachelor's party and it's no secret because everyone knows that what happens in a bachelor's party, happens in a bachelor's party.

I would say to be careful because you're exposing yourself to open opportunities. And these open opportunities can turn into possibilities. And the possibilities can hurt the love of your life that you want to spend the rest of your life with. If it's already been done then there's nothing that can be done except for healing and working together to come through the situation. However if you can avoid it then I would say avoid it.

Wraith_Cemetery · Accepted Answer

I would consider it cheating and would never agree to such a thing. A lot of couples understand what happens at bachelor or bachelorette parties and discuss it beforehand. If they do that and allow it then it no longer is cheating.

A bunch of guys attempted to arrange a lap dance at my bachelor party but I didn't allow it. I think it's trashy.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I used to give lap dances to guys at their Bachelor parties. It is in their face, close but no sexual touching was allowed. I would not say it is cheating as there is no emotional cheating and there is no actual sex.

I never considered myself, the other women in these dances.

If there happened to be sex or direct sexual touching, that is cheating, something I never did with lap dances.

I voted half and half cause it depends on the kind of lap dance, it might be if they are doing a sex one rather than regular. Regular ones would have voted for No Way.

Jayleenxo · Accepted Answer

I’d be so pissed off my eyes would not see him the same anymore

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If she knew that he was having a bachelor party, what is off limits should have been discussed in advance so that it would be unnecessary to ask this question.

AmandaYVR · Answer

No way. Definitely not cheating.

zr0bytz · Answer

So by the very definition of cheating, A lap dance is not cheating.

• Cheating - "Being Unfaithful"

• Unfaithful - "Engaging in Sexual Relations With Someone Other Than Your Regular Partner"

• Sexual Relations - "Sexual Intercourse"

• Sexual Intercourse - "Sexual Contact Between Individuals Involving Penetration"

My personal definition is giving away either your body or emotions to another whether male, female and even same sex but a close friend, if you don't share the intimate details of your life with your SO but do a friend you are in a sense emotionally cheating by withholding things that build a connection, if you are fucking someone your giving away your body the thing that helps build an intimate relationship. In either scenario the absolute worst part is the lies and deceit involved in hiding either from your SO and the detrimental impact on your overall connection with the person you claim to love. A lap dance is never technically cheating how ever if the rush of confidence becomes an addiction and he starts seeking strip clubs for the dopemine hit or tries to pursue the sex worker it's absolutely cheating. All that said everyone is free to form their own opinions if 2020 taught us anything,

But your in a excellent relationship with completely open communication and you. voice your wildest most embarrassing fantasies with each other right? So you already know each others limits and definitions so of you know a lap dance is on his bucket list and he crossed it off high five that guy (all this also provided he's not an egotistical narcissistic over compensating toxic piece of shit who thinks women owe him a damn thing) cos if he's that you don't need to be with him anyway

Moose304 · Answer

I attended one of these idiotic parties about 15 or so years ago. At the time I was getting close to being 50 and still think I was the oldest person in that room. I was actually drinking apple juice and just sitting down watching the guy get roasted by his friends. When the girls entered I had enough and said bye and left. As I got about 20 or so feet away the guy who was to be the best man asked me why I was leaving. I let him know this bride-to-be is somebody I know really well, respected, and loved like a daughter and that this party can now be considered the beginning of the end of that marriage. When I got to the elevator the groom shouted Mike wait up! he asked me to return. I said I would, but the girls have to go. I'm OK with alcohol, but alcohol and girls don't go well together ANYTIME! I still left, and that marriage actually lasted about 4 years. She had enough of his BS and divorced his ass! Oh, that best man was married at the time. Turns out his wife was boffing an Atlanta Police Officer throughout most of their sham marriage. Yes, I'm a throwback, yes I guess you can call me a Neanderthal. I just don't believe in that horseshit!

ohshee · Answer

I really think it depends on who's that man and women are bitter dating or married it's the same thing if a woman goes to a bachelorette party and they go to a male stripper place and she gets a lap dance I don't consider that cheating I consider it going out having fun with the girls I don't know for me personally I've always trusted the girls that I go out with if they didn't want to be with me they would be with me if they want to cheat let them cheat I can't stop them and the truth always comes out and I would rather find out sooner than later. I've been pretty lucky you have picked very good girls to go out with that know how to communicate if there's a problem we fix it if for some reason we just don't get along we ended as friends and move on and try to remain friends

globetrotter22 · Answer

It’s arguably in bad taste. I think it’s a fair conversation to have with his fiancé prior to the event prior to the celebration.

I have seen bachelorettes make out with other guys (kissing only). One time years ago a bachelorette grabbed and hugged me in front her friends while during a long elevator ride in LV casino hotel. Her friends looked uneasy. I didn’t mind all she did was hug me. I didn’t go back to her room.

I guess the bachelor/bachelorette party it’s the last time you can “celebrate” being single. Maybe some flirting and light touching for the novelty of it is harmless. But actual sexual engagement is obviously very wrong. A lap dance usually isn’t sexual engagement unless both people are grabbing each other inappropriately.

loveslongnails · Answer

NO, it's not cheating.
Every time I see a question like this it makes me wonder " What do women REALLY expect out of a man when it comes to loyalty and fidelity?" The simple answer seems to be "whatever they think, it's unreasonable".
Question: Do you actually "think" your boyfriend/husband/s. o. will never, ever notice another woman again in his life? Or be attracted to a beautiful girl? Or fantasize about someone else? Or accept a lap dance from a hot girl?
Answer: If you think "yes", or " I hope not" or even " he shouldn't if he loves me, I should be enough" ... then you have absolutely no understanding of the vast majority of men!!

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No it’s not cheating.

a mate did stripping for Hen nights and they are worse than Stag Nights.

there is a lot of peer pressure from friends, they will have paid for it, there are pretty strict rules in place.

going on further from a lap dance to sex etc, is cheating, however a lap dance is a no.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes it is especially during a bachelor party. No one should feel the need to have a random stranger dance on them naked right before their wedding. This goes for bachelor and bachelorette parties. Ask the reverse question if guys would be comfortable letting their future wife get danced on and dick rubbed on their face by a stripper right before their wedding. All these guys would for sure say its cheating.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s cheating if she doesn’t approve of it but he does it anyways , considering how would he feel if she had a male stripper all over her? So if he loves and values his partner He wouldn’t need that stripper giving him a lap dance , even though it’s all in fun and doing it to make his friends laugh and have a good time , she has a right to be upset and feel disrespected

Anonymous · Answer

Of course not! Of course this is also predicated on the fact that if he's in a relationship she knows he's going to a bachelor party and is OK with it. I realize not all women react to this the same way.
I had a friend who took me to a strip club. His wife knew he even got an autographed picture with the headliner. When he showed his wife she was actually impressed with the headliners breast size. Now before you get the wrong idea. They've been married for 20 years. He virtually never goes to the strip club. This was just an impromptu guys night out. He knows what a great wife he's got and would never cheat on her.
There's an old saying when it comes to strippers " you're going to get f***ed but you're not going to get laid. It's a guy fantasy. In a strip club you can say " I'll take that one, and that one, and that one. Because you can't do that in real life.

Anonymous · Answer

I’m incredibly shocked at how many guys say it’s not cheating! Makes me wonder about all the things they do thats cheating but they don’t think it is.
To me it is and it would be enough to call off the wedding and break up.
It’s perfectly fine to have a bachelor party but absolutely nothing to do with naked women or paying women to dance on you. Go fucking camping or skiing or a road trip with your mates, anything other than putting yourself in a situation where you disrespect your partner and your relationship with them and cheat.
If I was engaged to someone who did this at his bachelor party, and I definitely wouldn’t ever agree to marry such a person in the first place, it would show me he’s not ready for marriage so in the case I’d leave.
If his mates set up the party and my partner didn’t know about it, his mates aren’t allowed to the wedding unless my partner was totally fine with the party his friends planned then again, wedding is off.

Ninaface · Answer

Anything sexual needs to be discussed beforehand. there's some things that are concidered gray area and need to be identified if it is acceptable or not in the relationship. If you want to do it, discuss it prior. There's relationships where sleeping outside of the partnership isn't cheating because it's consensual. With lap dances, If one of you are uncomfortable with it and view it as cheating, for the other person to do it anyway; that's cheating.

JohnE_69 · Answer

This is the last time you are a bachelor, you are not married yet till the next day. if you want to fuck the person who gave you a lap dance, think that if you do perhaps it may make you give wonder to other people other than the one you're marrying. However perhaps at the same time, your other significant may be doing the same thing.

Seinna · Answer

It depends on the couple I think... I could probably be talked into accepting it but it'd rather be a red flag for our relationship if he wanted it.

We got a stripper for a hen party because my friends assured me the girl would like it... she was delighted. Her future husband was of course informed of it but I told them to never get one for me. I just wouldn't care and it would be awkward for everyone involved.

TheorionMage · Answer

Don't confuse tactile arousal where a skilled Dancer is voluntarily but the concupiscent means of massage to an ejaculatory end; verses a 'Side Piece' who is seductively auditioning to move up and REPLACE the Bride-to-Be.

If he's lucky, she can give the Bride-to-Be lessons!

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Honestly no in my opinion. Nor is it cheating if the bride to be rubs up against a hunky male stripper at her bachelorette party. But actual sex or oral would be going too far.

Harleigh90 · Answer

Depends on the professionalism of the dancer too. Iv done hens and stag and never once pursued for more. It's also about showing respect to his/hers bride/groom.

elizamichale1 · Answer

No not really
how can just a lap dance be cheating on his bachelor party darling... usually guys have no idea who is going to give them lap dance so in a way its a surprise for him n maybe a tradition too but whatever it is it can't be called cheating

humpbackjack · Answer

No it’s not cheating unless it goes further than a lap or unless him and his old lady come to the agreement that he wouldn’t get a lap dance something I would never agree with not because of getting a hot chick to grind on me but because it’s her being insecure and not trusting that I have enough self control not to let it go any further really this kind of stuff is something I get worked out early in a relationship

FriendlyDrugDealer · Answer

Not exactly, some people are different on this but to me it’s not because it’s just a dance and nothing more else happens. If other things happen then that’s a different thing

InsertNameHerex · Answer

It’s called boundaries, some people consider it cheating and some don’t, that is for you and your partner to discuss because every relationship is different. Some people even think that having sex with someone else isn’t considered cheating, and some think flirting is cheating. It all depends on the 2 individuals involved.

Personally, if my man did that, he would not be my man no more. Zero tolerance :)

whosDmann · Answer

Now, stoooop it mam !! Lol it's his bachelor party and it's just a lap dance? Really? No mam , as long as it's not a naked lap dance.. then he should have a few.. he's not fucking... and guess wut , he's going home to uuu!🤷‍♂️

NathanDavis · Answer

what kind of marriage is this going to be... if such things like these were not discussed and agreed before...

Anonymous · Answer

Probably? I really don't know what is and isn't considered cheating anymore. I was talking to a woman on a dating app and she said that I was cheating because I was talking to a few other women at the same time. But we had just started talking and I hadn't met her or anyone else at the time. So I didn't think that I was even in a relationship with her or any of the other women. I still don't think you can be in a relationship if you have never been on a date. Or at least had the talk.

Anonymous · Answer

A bachelor party is supposed to be a "last hoorah"... The fiancee really shouldn't be allowed to set limits as it's supposed to be one last taste of bachelorhood before a lifetime commitment... I say have fun for a night, he's mine for the rest of his life.

AviatorTom · Answer

Depends. If it's just a lapdance, it's not cheating. If it goes a bit farther (say both guy and girl are naked), it could be considered cheating.

Subarugirl · Answer

Personally I wouldn’t care… it’s just a lap dance. Haha enjoy it! If he lied about it or tried to keep it hidden from me, then there would be a problem.

KingofCups · Answer

Everyone will 'cheat' eventually. If you know anything about human evolution than you know our ancestors were polyamorous for thousands and thousands of years. Marriage literally only exists so that people could inherit property and other bullshit material assets.

josephinelcajon · Answer

The night before your marriage you decide to go out get drunk and screw around. What does that say about you and your commitment to the person your about to spend life with?

In Mexico they go to church with family and pray!

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

It depends entirely on the boundaries set within the relationship Paris.
The relationship I have is a very good one. She wouldn't mind if I did, and the fact I know she wouldn't mind makes me never want one, except from her!

DizzyDesii · Answer

He should at least ask “babe, how would you feel if i got a lapdance at my bach party?”. I’d be glad he at least asked but like shit, we’re about to marry tomorrow, are you nuts tthinking its okay to dance with another woman

blondfrog · Answer

It is if his wife doesn't know about it and isn't okay with i.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

So 22 men are used up hoes for saying no. This is cheating and if the genders were reversed, women would be called cheating hoes by these 22 man sluts

spartan55 · Answer

I had lots of lap dances at my bachelor party. My fiance knew about it, and it wasn't even an issue.

Xtcy2083 · Answer

I'm not sure. Maybe. I guess it depends on how far they go and how drunk he gets.

worldscolide · Answer

It's not cheating, just gross. Not kidding, mh best friend took me to a strip club for my bachelor party.. I felt like I needed 100 showers after.

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t know if "cheating" is the most accurate word, but it’s certainly not something to just shrug off. He’s in the wrong in some way or another.

call_me_scar · Answer

Depends on how the relationship is and what the limits are like with kinky sex limits must be discussed

qwert1234 · Answer

If you can't tell your SO that it happened, then yes it is.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

I wouldn’t care but I’ve also been in fun relationships. I’ve been to a strip club with my ex doesn’t bother me. Depends on the girl….

Guanfei · Answer

I wouldn't say so. It's bad taste and I wouldn't do it, but it's not cheating.

llorando · Answer

If it's just a lap dance and nothing else, than it's not cheating, a little disrespectful, but not cheating.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

It’s not cheating as the fiancé isn’t lying to his future bride. She is aware he is having a bachelor party and knows that he will get lap dances.

Interstate · Answer

I would consider it RIGHT ON THE LINE. There is no excuse for that kind of activity to be played at a Bachelor party, in my opinion.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@paris13 I see a guy accepting a Lap Dance at his bachelor party as a sign marriage is doomed to fail.

Yourfriend2021 · Answer

Don't do something your SO wouldn't like, why would you get married if you don't want to be faithful?

Better_off_here · Answer

I would not want a woman i am with to do that so i would say it is wrong. granted it is all fun and games but you do have a person that is at home waiting to marry you too.

KellyKOO · Answer

Really good question. Look forward to the comments. Lol

HighValue · Answer

Yes, it is cheating in my opinion. Same goes if a woman has a dancer like that at her bachelorette party.

libsaretards · Answer

It depends. Couples usually discuss boundaries before the parties and what is ok and not ok and promise to respect those boundaries. I believe it is only cheating when you break the agreed boundaries.

zagor · Answer

Let's see - no emotional attachment, no sex. How exactly would this be cheating?

Neosporin · Answer

I personally would not do it if I’m already in a relationship. But everyone’s boundaries are different. I mean I’d be uncomfortable even as a single man cause I don’t know the lady.

Anonymous · Answer

That's still as disrespectful as is cheating. The upcoming marriage is off to a start beyond salvation. Imagine infidelity before it even started.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Only if you wouldn't accept a sexual thing from a male on your bachelorette party

888theGreat · Answer

Yep , and women are PG rated whores , but I am sure for the right price they will do more

Naughtyboy71 · Answer

Being in the back alone can't really say how far it goes

Visionary7 · Answer

Yes it's highly disrespectful. Why do they need this form of sexual contact from another woman if they have a girlfriend?

menina · Answer

I don't think so, it's just a dance. It would be cheating if they had sex after the lap dance.

Diodoro · Answer

Not cheating. Get it if his girl doesn't want to see it or is uncomfortable.

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