Am I wrong for pulling a cheating prank on my boyfriend?

[Didi245]

Okay so me (19) and my boyfriend (22) been dating for almost two years and we have our first baby on the way and lastnight I decided I wanted to pull a prank on him by sending him a picture of me cuddling up with another guy (although it wasn't me I made my Bestfriend send a picture of her and her brother legs which made it seem like I was really cheating on him because they were in a cuddling position... I know it's kinda weird lol) but I sent the picture to him and he immediately showed up to my house and he was very emotional and upset about it he really thought I cheated on him and I kept acting nonchalant because it wasn't even true and he thought I just didn't care about him or the relationship anymore because he thinks I found someone better but after he left I sent him screenshots to show him that the female in the pic wasn't me and I never cheated on him and I told him it was a joke but now he's completely ignoring me with no explanation he won't answer my calls or texts at all am I wrong for pulling this prank or is he just overreacting? And what should I do to get him to talk to me if I am wrong?

[dude64bro]

Girl, this was definitely not a prank 😅. You've actually simulated to him that you are very capable of cheating and not caring at all about him. (Facepalm)

I read in the comments you wanted to learn if he was cheating or not by watching his reaction, but in reality you gave him the emotional strain and equal amount of distrust that comes with real cheating. In his mind, you just showed how little you care for him. The father of your child. You sent him a picture too as if to rub it in. He is definitely thinking you don't care at all about him and would cheat when you got the chance.

[Nivinxus]

congratulations, you just permanently damaged your relationship. Even if you salvage it, there is no way to turn it back to normal.

So what can you do? As much as you are remorseful, the ball is on his side of the court. Wait on his response or lack thereof and eespond accordingly

[Didi245]

What do you think is going through his mind right about now? I still haven't heard anything from him since lastnight and I apologized multiple times

[Nivinxus]

Let me be blunt here, it is anything but good. He needs to figure out what he want do himself

[Didi245]

I understand 😔

[Anonymous]

Like I have said, many times now on GAG, if you play games, there is always a loser.

This ain't gonna be easy to recover from. I cannot advise you where to start. I guess just give him time. It might take a long time.

You have sowed the seeds of doubt in his mind. It is up to him if he can weed out those doubts.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you for MHO.

[CarpetDenim]

That's a really fucking shitty thing to do. You pulled a stunt like that to deliberately elicit a reaction, of course it's going to cause emotional turmoil, and of course it was going to hurt him. And now you're refusing to take responsibility and entertaining the thought that he just overreacted to it? Ugh.

[Johnnyjay]

yea but he is not responding "with no explanation" like he is the one acting weird. she even asked if he is overreacting, she dosent see what she did wrong at all

[Didi245]

I did take responsibility for it I apologized to him a million times but he's just ignoring me now completely

[CarpetDenim]

The very nature of this question proves that you're trying to deflect responsibility for it. Yeah, you know what you did was fucked, but you want other people to come and tell you it wasn't and to throw him under the bus for overreacting so you'll feel better about yourself.

[Didi245]

I really just wanna know how I could fix my relationship with him

[CarpetDenim]

*You* can't do anything. The fate of your relationship is in his hands now. He can either chose to forgive you and try and put it behind you two, which, if the baby wasn't a concern, probably wouldn't happen, or he can leave you like you deserve. All you can do is ride out on the hope that his sense of familial obligation as a father to your child rule out against the pain and distrust you brought into your relationship.

[Didi245]

Omggggg wtfff I just want him back already I wish I never did it! I swear if I knew it would end like this I would have never! This is like the biggest mistake of my life I just lost the best thing I ever had! 😭😭😭😭💔

[Blonde401]

You're about to have a child and you think this is appropriate behaviour? Really? You don't deserve what you have if you think it's ok to toy with someone like that. Smh.

[Didi245]

It's not like I really cheated tho I get why he's upset but damn it's was just a joke!

[Blonde401]

It's not a joke. It's cruel. You make me sick honestly. I'm over here single and I would never do that to the person I loved. Never. You're selfish and if he dumps you, you've only yourself to blame.

[Didi245]

I know that. I'm already dying over here over it. Thanks for the honesty tho

[Blonde401]

Think on what you did. Think on what you could lose over a silly prank. Then give him space and hope he is the bigger person and can forgive you.

[Didi245]

Yeah I never thought about it like that until I made this post, I'm really in a depressed mode rn the last thing I wanted to become was a single mother over this bs hopefully he does but honestly I feel like he's not so... 😔 it's all my fault and now I gotta deal with it.

[jonathan90]

No comment

[melanieeeB]

@Blonde401 Couldn't have said it better!

[Blonde401]

@melanieeeB thanks :)

[Blonde401]

@jonathan90 if you've got nothing to say then don't comment pointless stuff on my thread!

[talscudi]

This was a HUGE violation of trust. You screwed up BAD and saying "lol just a prank" does not make it better.

[Didi245]

Do you think there's anything I could do to fix this? I'm madly in love with him but I feel like I'm losing him

[talscudi]

The only thing you can do is write him a letter saying that it was a horrible thing to do, a horrible betrayal of trust, and that you will never ever ever do it again.

Do not try to justify it. Do not try to excuse it. Doing that makes it sound like "but it wasn't THAT bad so I'm not that sorry." Say it was terrible. Say it was horrible. Say there is no excuse and you don't know what you were thinking.

See that he gets it, and then back off. Wait for him to contact you. Even if you tear your hair out waiting, wait. He needs time and space to recover.

[Didi245]

Yeah your right I will write him a letter hopefully he does forgive and we can move forward... we been through worse so maybe he will come back... hopefully 😩

[Robertsean350]

No. You can't fix it since you destroyed your credibility and showed that you are heartless and don't care about his feelings.

[talscudi]

I tend to agree, it's unlikely to work, and he really deserves better. But that's the "if anything will work, this might" answer. I still expect less than 10% chance of success.

[Didi245]

Damn I guess that's what I get for assuming he was cheating and he really wasn't buy his reaction... I'll just give him space for now I know eventually well have to talk cuz of the baby so maybe I'll just wait till then

[DekereVolknoss]

When you saw him upset, you obviously didn't care about him or the baby... Right then people that care stop the prank and prove it's just a prank. Now you lost your man and that baby probably will grow up without a constant support from their father... Great job👍

[Didi245]

I do care about how he feels I was just blinded by thinking he was cheating on me

[DekereVolknoss]

Either he hates you and feels you're insensitive (I would) or he was cheating and is very happy right now

[Didi245]

Nah he wasn't cheating maybe he just hates me right now

[DekereVolknoss]

I would... Hopefully he didn't kill himself

[DutchBro]

I think your boyfriend is contemplating what he got himself into and the dumbass decisions he made to end up with a person like you. No wonder he won't text you. You bet your bottom dollar he regrets having a kid with such a dumb person like yourself. And I don't blame him. Dafuq is wrong with you

[Didi245]

I don't either and honestly I don't know... I just felt like he was cheating on me due to other reasons and I just thought the only way of finding out was to pull this prank and see if he comes clean but I was terribly wrong and I think I fucked up the best thing I ever had. I really do feel like shit and his birthday is on Sunday

[DutchBro]

Even if this is going to be "alright" it's never going to be alright. Even if he cheated there's no way between you guys to have a normal conversation about it? You had to take the risk of hurting him so bad by pulling off this retarded prank? The logic escapes me. Did you even consider the repercussions of this so-called prank when it turns out he wasn't cheating on you? Evidently not.

[Didi245]

No I haven't I never thought it all the way through honestly

[Didi245]

I really want things to work out between us I love him to death but I'm accepting that he might never come back to me again

[DutchBro]

And that explains why he's better off with someone else than with you. Deal with it

[creepypanda]

No explanation? This was a pretty immature thing to do. Not only are you two in a serious relationship, but you have a child on the way? Can you imagine the heartbreak of seeing the man you love cuddling another woman in a picture with no explanation and when questioning him about it he ignores the problem? That was kind of cruel. I think all breakup/cheating/relationship pranks are wrong because they are made to mess with someones feelings.

[Didi245]

Yeah your so right I feel like shit right now I hope he just comes back to me I will never pull this shit on anyone I love again I wasn't even thinking at the time

[Didi245]

Do you think this is fixable between us or did I just ruin the whole relationship?

[creepypanda]

You should probably explain how your intentions were not negative and were misguided. Give him time to get over it but also agree that you were wrong. I think you could probably still fix it, though.

[Didi245]

Thanks! I will!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I say within due time he will come to his senses
i think it was wrong to pull the prank but than again
what guy would fall for a prank from his girlfriend that
she was having a affair with another guy and i think we
all do things without thinking but seriously he needs to
come to his senses.

[Didi245]

Yeah that's true and I be with him 24/7 we damn near stayed together but I don't know hopefully he will

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah i like to be a understanding guy when it comes to relationships
no matter what it is. I like to be the peacemaker too.

[Didi245]

Yeah hopefully he realizes it was just a joke tho lol smh

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah i agree best wishes on this matter.

[Izumiblu]

Pranks are all fun n games until you start leveraging peoples trust in you for the prank. Basically you held your relationship hostage for the benefit of a good laugh, or worse you knew exactly how much this would get to him and thought it might be good for a kick anyway.

Not much you can do except apologize and work to rebuild trust again.

[bang678]

Sounds like you let the joke go on for too long. After a while its less of a joke and more of just plain mean.

[Didi245]

True I did

[bang678]

Maybe you should apologise for that.

[Didi245]

I tried to I sent him multiple texts and I was really sincere with my apologies but he hasn't replied or called me or anything since that incident

[bang678]

How did you word your texts?

[Didi245]

Like I was begging him to forgive but I also said I know I was playing with his emotions and I understand why he was upset and that I was really sorry and I told him how much I loved him and I wasn't trying to hurt him and that I would give him space things like that 😩 but no respons at all I don't know if he has my number blocked or what

[bang678]

In couple arguments i find its best to 1.) Idenify what went wrong 2.) Aknowledge how you couldve behaved differently 3.) State how this will change your behavior in the future

[Didi245]

Yeah that makes sense should I send him another message like that it should I wait until he responds to the millions I already sent?

[bang678]

I'm not sure. Maybe wait a bit.

[Didi245]

Okay

[ohshee]

I won't say if you're a runner right you know him better than we all do but you just have to put yourself in his shoes if it was turned around vice versa would you fly off the handle the moment you seen the picture that's the way I look at it damn you probably pretty hurt as he was so maybe you ought to get in bed with him have a camera setup to take some pictures of yours and his legs and tell him these are the only legs you are next to yours

[PoliceLivesMatter]

I’ve seen pranks like this on YouTube before several times. Things could’ve been bad, meaning he could’ve reacted in a very bad way. Plus, you guys have a baby on the way, so I think that amplifies the immature and uncalled properties of the prank even more. Try with pranks that are harmless and you’re sure that the reaction will be harmless.

[martyfellow]

He will get over this in time. Don't push him right now or he'll get madder at you!

Not going to winbany probably any prizes for best prank of the year.

[Didi245]

Yeah I been blowing up his phone with text messages and calls all day and he hasn't sent me back nothing I really love him I hope he forgives me and comes back I will never do anything like this again

[martyfellow]

Let him cool off for a while before you send any more!

[Didi245]

Okay thanks

[sarahismwih]

thats messed up. why would you even do that? were you even thinking about what it might do? thats probably the stupidest thing you could've done

[Didi245]

No I wasn't and yes girl it was smh I feel like shit about it

[Johnnyjay]

"ignoring me with no explanation" yea there kind of is one. you were cruel with his emotions and heart. he probably will never trust you 100% now. maybe 99.5% but not 100% so nice job. hope you enjoyed your prank. people are clueless.

[fauchelevent]

Yeah, you were wrong. I think you need to apologise properly, admit it was wrong of you to mess with his feelings like that, and then leave him to decide what he wants to do.

[Didi245]

I have apologized to him already multiple times expressing that I know I was wrong and I will never do it again... still waiting on his reply

[fauchelevent]

Best not to crowd him then. He needs to kinda reevaluate what he thought he meant to you. You fucked majorly with his feelings, he's going to be feeling very betrayed right now and going to be wondering whether he can trust you at all. I think that repeatedly barraging him with questions will just push him away. Maybe send one more with an apology saying you'll give him his space but you'll be there whenever he's ready to talk to you and then leave it.

[Didi245]

Okay I will do that thank you

[fauchelevent]

No problem, I hope things work out for you :)

[Shiba1490]

Jokes are fun, but that prank wasn't. This isn't YouTube

[Anonymous]

That's wrong and you're pregnant way to be a single mother. Grow up

[Robertsean350]

That's messed up. You are definitely wrong. Jokes are funny and your was just cruel. Maybe you don't deserve this guy

[DutchBro]

"maybe"

[Uziel_007]

LOL, you fucked up big time!

I don't envy the position you are in.

[Didi245]

Yeah I really did

[Uziel_007]

Note : this might be an amusing prank to me. To him, it was real for a while so it'll probably take him time to forgive you.

[Uziel_007]

Give him the time and space he needs. Although, I'm a little surprised that you two are having a baby together and you don't know his threshold.

[Didi245]

Yeah that's true and i guess I just wanted to see what his reaction would be it was very immature looking back on it now but I think it's to late

[Uziel_007]

He'll come around, hopefully. Don't lose hope just yet.

[Didi245]

Yeah HOPEFULLY 😩😭🤧

[Anonymous]

You are way too childish to be having a child. how would you feel if he did that? You need to think before you do things

[LunaJ]

you're an idiot immature kid who will have kid. i feel sorry for the baby 👼

[samhradh_leannan]

Of course it was wrong. Why would you want to hurt someone who cares about you? What is funny about that?

[MollyTheOriginal]

What kind of emotionally stunted idiot does something like that instead of just -- I don't know, communicating? If he's smart he'll wise up and be with someone actually deserving of his love, but I seriously fear for your future child. One can only hope she doesn't end up like your dumbass.

Smh.

[DesiBeautyLover]

You are FUCKING awesome! If a girl pranked me like that I would love her forever, You are fortunate her doesn't have anger issues

[Didi245]

Lmao a lot of people think it's fucked up tho I feel really bad to because now he won't even send me a fucking text message 😩😩

[DesiBeautyLover]

He's taking it a bit hard. I must admit, you got him SO good!

[Didi245]

Yeah I did. He's a Scorpio so they do feel hurt more than others I always forget that

[Tw1nm3t3or]

You are just as fucking stupid as OP. Grow up you snot!

[DesiBeautyLover]

@Tw1nm3t3or I like a good prank

[Didi245]

I'm not stupid I just made a mistake

[Tw1nm3t3or]

You also need a whack across that brainless head of yours.

[Tw1nm3t3or]

@DesiBeautyLover

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Nice one.. -_-
How could you even think about doing that?

Please go find someone who doesn't care if you're his or not. I'm sure you'll be a lot happier that way.

[AlphaXrime]

Yup. Didn't even read any of this except for the title. Never so shit like this. It's not funny or safe.

[aestheticsofty]

I hope this is a troll. If not, you’re very immature and doing that is not okay. Try a less harmless prank

[pandaunivers]

You did go overboard. I can't tell you how to run your relationship, but do what you gotta do to apologize.

[Billyscotter]

Were you wrong? Of course not! That was obviously the right choice. Pulling that stunt shows that you have a fantastic amount of common sense.

[Jayson101]

yes you are. Practical jokes are silly most of the time and no fun for the recipient

[noesbueno]

I think you went too far. In the same position, i would have dumped you when i thought you cheated.

[Didi245]

He did dump me 😩 but that was before I told him it was a prank

[Didi245]

Now he's just ignoring me completely and I tried apologizing a million times

[Unit1]

Well, was it worth it?

[noesbueno]

oh well, to me it would hurt. he probably feels the same way

[Didi245]

No it wasn't and do you think he will come back to me? What can I do to fix it 😩😩😩?

[noesbueno]

the ball is in his court. I feel sorry for you but at least in the future, no matter what guy you are with you'll know better than to do that

[Didi245]

Yeah that's true

[Anonymous]

He should break up with you, he deserves better

[Robertsean350]

He definitely should dump you

[Didi245]

I think he has we haven't talk since then he's ignoring all my phone calls and texts messages and he has told his family to let me know he doesn't want to talk to me.. I feel like shit 😔

[WritingHeart01]

Don't be so down on yourself. You intended to pull a harmless prank that backfired. He's obviously upset with you, so I'd give it a few hours then go down and see him. Tell him you didn't mean to hurt him like that. And only wanted to play with him. Love him up and reassure him you care about him and honestly sorry.

[Opinion Owner]

It wasn't a harmless prank. Stuff like that can really destroy trust. He is doing the right thing and taking care of himself.

[WritingHeart01]

I realize it's hurtful, I'm just emphasizing that she didn't mean it to be. That's why she should go down and talk with him.

[juicyjessie]

@WritingHeart01 It was not harmless. Joking about cheating is asking for trouble. Like joking about rape and other horrendous acts.

[Opinion Owner]

If you check her other comments she actually did this to see if he was cheating on her. So she did this because she didn't trust him and is insecure.

[Didi245]

Yeah I didn't think it would hurt him this much and we joke about things alll the time so us breaking up was the last thing I was worried about

[abbee11192]

You sure pull some pranks on each other. That's how you know there fears and bring humour out of it.

[Didi245]

That's so true

[abbee11192]

Ya I know.
I am good at giving advice and stuff.

[Didi245]

Do you think he will talk to me after this prank tho?

[abbee11192]

I don't want to answer that.
Cuz that's not pretty much you want right now.
But you can talk to me whenever you want.

[Didi245]

Okay

[IdkSomethingRandom]

Jesus you suck. You really, really fucking suck.

[Anonymous]

If you wouldn't want it done to yourself, don't do it to others

[jonv515]

Yeah way wrong.

[Didi245]

What would you do if you was in his situation?

[jonv515]

I'd be hurt, in the back of my mind from then on I'd have doubts about whether or not you are faithful. Piece of advice: trust is such a hard thing for people in the first place, and an innocent prank is a sad way to lose it. But all guys are different, who knows what his reaction will be

[Didi245]

Yeah your right I guess I just did it because I really thought he was cheating and I felt that the only way I could find out the truth was to play a " cheating prank" on him and then maybe he would tell me that he has been cheating but I really fucked up for just not trusting him I honestly didn't prepare myself for the reaction he gave me cuz I thought for sure he was cheating on me smh

[DerpTheNerp]

Don't try dragging him down with you, you should've including that in the "prank" not in the opinion.

[Didi245]

Yeah I know I fucked up this time I'm not trynna drag him I know I'm insercure especially since I'm pregnant

[jonv515]

Look you need to talk to him in person and tell him how you realize how stupid the prank was and that you are sorry and that you don't want to lose him. And be sincere and sneak up on him/pop in on him wherever he is.

[jonv515]

You may want to get on that asap because right about now all he is going to want to do is find a way to get rid of the hurt, and some other girl might swoop in and try to take what you got.

[Didi245]

Your so right I'll go see him when he gets off of work tonight

[abortedFetus]

Don't try this at home ladies. Some guys will straight up choke you.

[Onix764]

That's how you get broken up with.

[Richareens]

Yeah you went overboard.

[Edwin23]

Please, no, not again.

[naraku]

What the hell? Really?

[JenDB]

You took it too far

[Anonymous]

Right now he's cheating back on you.

[Didi245]

I never cheated on him tho it was just a prank and if he's doing that just because I did this then that says a lot about him but I highly doubt he is

[Tw1nm3t3or]

Says a lot about him? If that was me i'd dump your ignorant ass in a heartbeat. You don't get to say jack shit whatever he does if he does you deserve it. Maybe it will teach you to grow up and not do something that stupid.

[Didi245]

It was a mistake I didn't know it would affect him like it did

[roy_ricky09]

Seriously?
I think you need to grow up first.

[Tw1nm3t3or]

uhhhhh YES!!!

[Dbdjdjfnfn]

See... this is exactly why women aren't funny.

[Tyberius]

Yes! Never do that!

[disgustingweebtrash]

Yeah