Are women who say they won’t settle just bitter that they can’t get the type of men they want?

[AnusNdaPainus]

[Pinay_ako]

Not bitter. Just happy being single maybe or haven’t met the man who they’re compatible with. Being single doesn’t mean always lonely. Just like those who are “settled” doesn’t mean they’re happy either.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Well look at it like this
Something that can be had will be obtained

And being single does mean being lonely because being lonely is apart of being human no matter where you go in the world everyone seeks to connect because we are social beings loneliness is the driving force behind this desire

Are you familiar with the Aesop fable of the fox and the grapes?

[thatshydork]

Single and lonely are not synonyms. While being lonely is natural for humans, lonely doesn’t always mean you’re alone. You can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely just like how you can be by yourself and be perfectly happy with that. Relationships cause drama and some people just prefer to avoid that. I know an older lady who’s been single all her life and she’s very happy. I also know many people who are married and very unhappy.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@thatshydork you’re confusing content with being happy

If you don’t have the option you make do

Like they say “ Life gives you lemons you make lemonade”

[thatshydork]

I’m actually not mixing the two up.

“Content:
In a state of peaceful happiness.
Satisfy
State of satisfaction”

“Happy:
Feeling or showing pleasure or contentment.
Having a sense of contentment with an arrangement, person, or sitaution”

If you don’t like those definitions, take it up with the Oxford Dictionary. Also, if you’ve got your mind so set on what you think is the correct answer that you’re not willing to except anything different, why even ask in the first place?

[AnusNdaPainus]

I meant consent not content

That was keyboard prediction

Sorry

[DextroShade]

The most miserable category of human beings are single women in their 40's.

[Pinay_ako]

@DextroShade 🤣.. untrue again. It can be in any age range anyone is miserable regardless if they single or married or taken or whatever status they’re in. And it can be any gender too

[DextroShade]

I think it's more delusion than bitterness because or stupid society and all these pathetic simps tell even the ugly ones that they are beautiful. Also, even average women today can get dicked down by top tier men which leads them to they deserve commitment from that level of man even though they are recreational use only to them. They see the guys who they actually qualify for as beneath them which will lead to many of them dying alone after they age out of the cock carousel.

[Dela_99]

Its always the men who don’t even have a profile picture wanting to talk about the ugly ones lmao

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 men don’t need to be attractive

Women do

Because the most important thing to men is your Looks and femininity

The most important thing to women is how we make you feel and provisions

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 let me rephrase men don’t need to be PHYSICALLY attractive

[Dela_99]

Who lied to both of you and said “men don’t need to be physically attractive” he needs to he attractive to me otherwise i am not engaging

[Dela_99]

Also Mr. Anus, its almost like i could care about multiple things? I won’t just focus on his looks i’ll care about how he makes me feel and all. But i’ll also expect him to look attractive to me.

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 exactly he needs to be attractive TO YOU! This is why I tell dudes all the time that how you make a woman feel is what is most important

Ask yourself, How many ugly men do you see with beautiful women?

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 he is going to be more attractive to you because of how he makes you feel just like how an attractive guy who treats you like crap

Guys who look good know they are attractive and what they do is gaslight insecure women and MAKE YOU FEEL like you aren’t good enough and everything is your fault planting a seed of approval which causes women to keep chasing them

Textbook womanizing every fuckboy knows this

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 even if a man isn’t very attractive a woman will never forget a man who treated her better than the rest of the men she dated

[Dela_99]

Well that’s how beauty works. There is no way to describe what beauty is its in the eye of its beholder. What i think is attractive other women might not agree on. My standards are pretty high when it comes to looks i LOOK for an attractive guy and i will never not look for that unless the guy is a 10/10 in everything else. Which no man is. The same way you look for beauty , we do too. If a guy is treats me good but is not attractive to me we still won’t date cause “treating me good” is the bare minimum, still have my standards

[AnusNdaPainus]

@Dela_99 most men aren’t that attractive so if you found a really attractive guy what makes you think that he would want you

Men are only as loyal as their options and Attractive men have much better options than you
Really attractive men can be with top 10% of women which an 80%’er such as yourself stand no chance against

[RavVid]

Not necessarily. They might only be women who have a highly over inflated self opinionated narcissists who don't have the attributes men want.

If they complain that they are single and it is men's fault then yes they are bitter over inflated self opinionated narcissists who don't have the attributes men want.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Well you’re a 30 something year old guy and I’m sure some guys in your age range have grievances when it comes to dating women

But the majority of people complaining about dating are women in your age range because they were able to skate by on their looks and fertility but when the men’s heads stop turning they quickly realize that dating is a skill that most women in the 30+ age range don’t have

[RavVid]

That is exactly so. So many turn out to not be agreeable.

I have a long list of grievances.

[desidoll]

Yes and no. First group are just comfortable being alone if they are financially independent and career wise women. The second group, they are just embarrassed to admit that they can’t be a keeper, that no man is willing to date and marry them so they come up with that bullshit idea of “I won’t settle for less”

[AnusNdaPainus]

The second group aligned more with my theory
The first group just aren’t very attractive women

[desidoll]

Kinda. I have more friends from the second group. They are irritating to be around especially when they keep bragging about how happy they are being single, or live without men. The fact that they secretly join dating sites and roam around the clubs to get some D cringed me.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I know that’s a lie human beings are social by nature loneliness is the driving force behind our innate desire to connect

That’s why isolation is the worst form of torture

I don’t understand why they wear singleness as a badge of honor when we all know it’s not

[jennifer_bloom]

Some women don't care if they are single. I met a guy who did not believe me when I said it but I had my religion and my hobbies and my family and friends.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Exactly! Then that means they do care about being single.

[Sour-rose]

I wouldn't say bitter... more like just... fine with being alone. I would say I'm the same but the thing is i'm married to my best friend. We don't go shopping together but before he even proposed, I was fine being alone. And I still am. <3

[AnusNdaPainus]

That’s nice and all but you definitely are not fine being alone and that’s okay but I know you aren’t because you like a lot of women here brought up being alone when the question was about women being bitter about being unable to get the men they want

[Sour-rose]

If you say so, bud. :)

[AnusNdaPainus]

So do you have an answer or theory anything? Female perspectives are greatly appreciated on a question about women

[thatshydork]

No, they just aren’t willing to except anything less than what they want. Well, some of them anyways.

[AnusNdaPainus]

If they could get what they want they wouldn’t have to accept anything less

If what they wanted was easily obtained settling wouldn’t even be a factor

[thatshydork]

But why does what they want have to be something that’s easily obtained? Why can’t they want something that’s not so easily obtained? Sometimes the things that are the most satisfying to get/achieve are the things that are hardest to get, like going to an Ivy League school or graduating from medical school.

[AnusNdaPainus]

You just answered your own question

What they want is not easily obtained because the higher a woman’s standards more competition she has which is why so many women can’t keep men they want

The problem is too many women don’t pursue the type of relationships they want

Ask around and most women expect “Mr. right” to appear on their doorstep like an Amazon delivery

[thatshydork]

Fair enough but then that begs the question: why do a lot of men get turned off when women do actually make the first move?

[AnusNdaPainus]

Because a lot of women don’t know how to attract or seduce men

They just rely on our visual stimulation and hormones you know “ She pretty , Me like.”

[Kiss_Me]

Most say that really don't know what they want. Pride or arrogance dictates their thoughts.

It takes time to learn that dating is a skill. It takes time to learn the required skills AND to discover what you actually want.

[Babygirl_S]

Are you bitter because you can't get the women you want?

[AnusNdaPainus]

Married. But nice try.

[Babygirl_S]

It doesn't necessarily mean you want her the most.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I would love for you tell me about what more a man would want from a woman who meets his needs

[Anonymous]

One minute settling is bad, the next second it is good. Damn, guys, make up your confused tiny minds.

[007kingifrit]

no they just don't realize it is impossible to be happy single and will suffer in the long run , they're delusional

[imawfulatusernames]

One second men are complaining women settle the next they’re complaining we don’t, when will men realise they aren’t the reason for the life choices women make

[AnusNdaPainus]

We are though 😂
Women’s lives are meaningless without men

That’s why the majority of women wants a man

[imawfulatusernames]

Women are quite literally at their happiest childless and single so you’re wrong😅

[AnusNdaPainus]

Then why are women today more depressed than any other group of women in history?

[imawfulatusernames]

Men. Although that’s debatable since we didn’t start caring about women’s happiness on record till very recently and yknow we diagnosed women with hysteria till the 80s

[AnusNdaPainus]

Sure but women back then were not taking happy pills like women today

And we didn’t keep record because life isn’t about being happy

A Life with out suffering is not living at all.

[imawfulatusernames]

No they were taking cocaine and heroin, getting fingered by doctors or prescription vibrators and lobotomies to bare through their lives. I’m sure they were so happy😅

[AnusNdaPainus]

Much happier than women today with less education and less financial freedom

[imawfulatusernames]

Ah yes cause nothing screams happiness like prescribed drugs to make you completely out of it 24/7 and needing prescribed sexual satisfaction

[AnusNdaPainus]

We’ve established that they were both on something but by the way drugs weren’t as rampant back then as they are now nor as strong as what we have today most people back then preferred alcohol but let’s not take away the fact that these women were happier with less

Which was my entire point.

[imawfulatusernames]

Are you missing that these drugs were prescribed? People now take drugs for fun or deal with trauma not because they’re housewives being raped and beaten and want an escape.

[imawfulatusernames]

Women aren’t less happy. They have options and are less doped up and conditioned to believe that not being completely miserable is happiness.

[AnusNdaPainus]

1 in 10 women between the ages of 18-39 being on SSRIs is not happiness goes up to 1 in 5 ages 40-59 and 1 in 4 over the age of 60

[AnusNdaPainus]

Nothing is making women more miserable than people selling them this lie that life is just about nonstop happiness

[imawfulatusernames]

Single childless women are the happiest women today they also live the longest, married women with kids are the least happy and don’t live as long, the opposite is true for men. It seems you have an agenda and a reason for pushing it

[AnusNdaPainus]

Life isn’t about just being happy especially artificial happiness that fries your natural production of dopamine

If these women were truly happy they wouldn’t encourage other women to make the same mistake they did of remaining single for the rest of their lives

[imawfulatusernames]

It clearly isn’t a mistake when they’re the happiest 😅

[AnusNdaPainus]

Of course they are until they need a refill to get their fix

Happiness doesn’t come in a bottle that’s an inhuman way to live

[imawfulatusernames]

You understand that by happiest it means they don’t have depression right love?

[AnusNdaPainus]

You do realize that it’s artificial right?

As a matter of fact SSRIs are specifically made for severely unhappy people

[imawfulatusernames]

Again babe please understand the words being given to you antidepressants aren’t given to people without depression

[AnusNdaPainus]

And you need to understand that actual happy people don’t need antidepressants at all.

[AnusNdaPainus]

I refuse to accept your skull is this thick ma’am stop trying to argue

[imawfulatusernames]

I feel like you’re not understanding me. Let me put it very simply.

Happy people = not depressed

Childless unmarried women = happiest women

Do you see it now?

[AnusNdaPainus]

Antidepressants = not depressed

Childless unmarried women + antidepressants = happiest women

[AnusNdaPainus]

Do.

You.

SEE.

It.

NOW?

[AnusNdaPainus]

Like did you wear a helmet in school or something?

[imawfulatusernames]

Darling they aren’t on antidepressants people on antidepressants are still believe it or people with depression it’s just controlled.

[imawfulatusernames]

I don’t know know much simpler I can put this to you, they aren’t depressed because they aren’t

[imawfulatusernames]

Married women with kids are the ones racking up the prescriptions to manage through life

[imawfulatusernames]

I know, I know. You want to believe women need you and that we can’t be happy without you but that’s exactly why we are. Men who have managed to evolve can have a place in women’s life’s and happiness you’ll never be one though

[AnusNdaPainus]

I’m actually married and she just got her masters ( thanks for asking ) our daughter is potty trained and we went to the zoo today

How is your marriage going?🤣

[AnusNdaPainus]

And I just want you to know that I see right through you and women who think like you

I would tell you about yourself but I don’t want to hurt your feelings

[imawfulatusernames]

Well thank god your wife has a degree so she can get away from you🤷‍♀️My marriage ended as I was married to a man like you, you think you see through me? That’s hilarious however I actually do see through you. Your wife’s bruises will end up questioned, her state of emotional distress will get noticed, she’ll stop letting you do as you please and you’ll end up miserable.

My boyfriend is a fantastic man, and I can’t wait to marry him and have kids with him, oh that’s right you thought I didn’t want those things huh😭Nah I do it’s just that men like you are the reason women are miserable when they chose that path

[AnusNdaPainus]

Like I said don’t want to hurt your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Most are yeah. But not so bitter they won't smash a little bit in between. So it's alright. 😆😆😆

[Anonymous]

Some are bitter, some are okay with being independent and single, some take this responsibility as a burden and wants to stay free.

[AnusNdaPainus]

That’s not freedom though but slavery to the self

[Anonymous]

Yeah well I won’t settle with any guy I have standards like everyone else does and if they are not met i’ll happily stay single than deal with a menace.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Why not actively pursue the kind of man you want if he can meet yours then he can meet many many other women’s

Stop with this passive lazy dating

“Drop your kerchief”

[Opinion Owner]

What does this even mean lmao? Obviously I didn’t find him yet? And the second part was just absurd you are basically saying he has options, well i do too and so does everyone like what was the point you were trying to make? How is it lazy dating to wait for the right person?

[AnusNdaPainus]

Basically “go after what you want”

If you’re at a buffet and you see something you want do you wait until someone brings it over or do you go and get it yourself?

Smart women go after the men they want

Say you meet this man tomorrow how will you get him and keep him?

It’s not about him having options it’s about the fact that women ignore their competition and end up saying things like “ All the good ones are taken”

If you want to catch a fish you have to lure it in not wait till it evolves walk out of the water and randomly stumbles across your path

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a crazy way of framing it. Firstly there really is no competition, if a woman gets a man i like then we were never meant to be and he was never mine, so i lost nothing. Also when you say “go and get it” what does that mean? Cause i won’t look at a stranger and assume we are suited, since its not only about looks. I will need to meet men, date, be in circles around men and discover if there is a guy who attracts (through these dates/outings) that’s exactly what anyone who is interested in dating does. If i like a guy and he likes me back then i expect we will both initiate something. If he picks a different woman then we were never meant to be and there is nothing for me to do other than wait for a different guy. We all have options and choices and there is no way for me to get a guy who doesn’t want me

[AnusNdaPainus]

“ There is no competition” You are out of your fucking mind

This is why happily married women laugh at women like you

You make it too easy for them by believing “ we were just never meant to be” NO!

She took action and you didn’t plain and simple.

And you know exactly what I mean by “ go and get it” the problem is that you don’t know HOW!
like most women today

How are you going to meet a man you aren’t actively pursuing?

I made this post because a guy here said women date on easy mode and I said No they don’t

Because the top 10% of men that 90% of women want they will never get

[AnusNdaPainus]

You will never get a man that you feel entitled to YOU MUST COMPETE
You must actively pursue this man or you will never get him

[Opinion Owner]

Bruh take your medication again no such thing as a competition, and frankly being single doesn’t bother me. Also been around a lot of married women they don’t feel like they won a trophy particularly 😂

[AnusNdaPainus]

No competition?

So you’re the most beautiful woman on earth? Are you even an international model? Have you been in vogue?

Im certain you’ve seen many women who are much more attractive than you I doubt you are the most attractive woman in your friend group or family

But looks are the least of your problems when you don’t even know what men need in a relationship

Ever try to catch a fish without bait? It’s damn near impossible

[Opinion Owner]

Once again i don’t need to be a model or the most beautiful woman. Its not a competition i am not competing with other women for men. No normal woman is doing that. I am quite aware that there are prettier women and i am happy for them. Doesn’t mean i’ll compete for men. If a man wants me he wants me if he wants a model then he can have the model. Promise i’ll be just fine.

[AnusNdaPainus]

This passive attitude is why half of the female population will be single and die alone within the next 7 years

Ok 👍 I have all the information I need.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you speak like that is a problem

[AnusNdaPainus]

Oh I’m not sure if you’ve cracked a history book but that’s what happens to societies right before they completely collapse

Which is why myself and a lot of men have our passports

So you gals have fun. ✌️😂

[Opinion Owner]

Bye! Won’t be missed😂🤞

[AnusNdaPainus]

Again focusing on the wrong thing
Smh.

[AnusNdaPainus]

But you’re right we won’t be missed by a society where the elderly outnumber the young because that society will cease to exist

[LiamJHayden]

Maybe some are, but I agree that a mediocre relationship is worse than being single.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Then why not pursue a relationship you want

We encourage too much laziness in our society
Fortune favors the bold the spoils of life belong to the risk takers

Not people who waste their years playing it safe

[LiamJHayden]

Not sure how that relates to your question, as you have in no way demonstrated that these women are not seeking what they want, only that they won't settle. When I look for an investment property I do not "settle" but seek the4 best. Perhaps they are doing that,

[AnusNdaPainus]

I assure they aren't

Are you aware that 90% of the women want 10% of the men but only 10% of the women realize that they have competition and need to go after that top percent of men while the other 90% of women expect that 10% man to just appear on their doorstep and only want them as if a 10% man doesn’t have multiple options

[AnusNdaPainus]

Women don’t think they have competition

Like with your investment property example if you aren’t the only one who seeks the best YOU HAVE COMPETITION

[Sasha0426]

I thought settling wasn’t a good thing.

[AnusNdaPainus]

You aren’t settling if it’s a good deal

[Massageman]

Ditto thatshydork.