His way of loving me is confusing?

[Anonymous]

I date him for 2 years

We work together

Live separete, spend some weekend together or after work as well soemtimes i stay in his house

He said he loves me... But

His behaviour is the same as last year as 2 years ago

Why shoould i belive he loves me?

[Avicenna]

Have you ever had a conversation with him about the seriousness of the relationship and your expectations for each other?

[Asker]

Acrually no
Everytime i want to plan something
He freaks out and says im too pushy and he doesn't like plan things

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he has some issues

[Asker]

What kind of issues
?

[Gent207-2]

Hoist the red flag and RUN

Or don't and die slowly in the undertow of his bullshit. Your choice.

[Asker]

Why is it red flag
I kinda feel something is not right
But can't get what it is exactly

[Gent207-2]

His behavior has not changed in spite of time and proclaimed love.
True love produces a mutual healthy transformation of both individuals overtime. You don't just grow old - you grow up

[Asker]

He changed in a sense that
He was drug addict
He quit drugs
He eats healthy
He takes vitamins
He webt to rehab and on his own decided to stop geroin addiction
He said he spent last 10 years smoking heroin everyday
He quit all that with me

[Asker]

He doesn't hang our with his drug friends anymore
Its a progress for him
We went to have a dinner and a waiter is his old friend who knew his ex (she is also a crackhead and abusive crazy bitch,20 years he spent with her) so this guy was staring at and said
She is so serious
Nd my boyfriend said, not when you get to know her
Then he added she brings me on the right path
And other guy said:that means she is a good woman

[Anonymous]

What behavior is he showing vs what behavior you think would show he loves you? What’s this “way” of loving?

[Asker]

He doesn't want to move in together
He still comes up with"i need my space"when i say we could go this place or visit my family
Its no progress
We do the same things we did at the beginning of the relationship
We have the same conversations
Nothing changed
We have less sex as well, he says its because his health issues but he does nothing to improve his health
He can joke sexually or grope me at work
And at home he won't even touch me