Should I give him space or tell him how I really feel?

[Anonymous]

So my best friend introduced me to his best friend, even though we were both shy at first, we both felt this connection and the 2nd time we saw each other, we immediately got a long with each other, he even grabbed my hand and held it which I was shocked, he kissed me goodnight and it honestly just felt like we were already together. Even though the restaurant he works at they close before midnight, at times I will try to see him and when we do we will talk and the other night we made out for a good 30 mins. So my friend told me how his friend was getting nervous and shy again ( being in a relationship, dating ) I feel like I should give him time to think things through but I also feel like if I don't text him or hangout he might think I don't like him.

[Anonymous]

Well if you’ve gone as far as to make out for 30 minutes I think it’s fair to discuss your feelings lol

[Asker]

I was told that he's the type that doesn't share feelings lol, I tried one night and he would just not share. All I know is that he's interested in me and that was because my friend told me because he knew he wouldn't say that he liked me. So I'm guessing he's scared to take that next step

[Opinion Owner]

Keep an eye on that. I think a lot of us get reluctant to put ourselves out there and share feelings, but what you don’t want is for too much time to pass or like him more than you already do and still can’t seem to have a discussion about where this is going. It’s clear that he’s interested, but in what? A relationship, casual make our sessions, like what does he want lol.
Also please don’t make the mistake of cutting him too much slack because of your mutual friend and because he’s shy or nice. That’s the perfect way to let your guard down too far, give him trust that he hasn’t earned and ultimately let him get away with murder.

[Asker]

That's what I want to know, because I do like him but if he's thinking a friend's with benefits, that's a no for me, I don't do stuff like that. Plus it was told that I'm more of a person that believes in relationships so he knew I'm the type that likes to date and be in a relationship. Depending on our work schedule we will meet up again, so I was thinking of telling him how I feel about him maybe it might give him that courage to tell me how he feels

[Opinion Owner]

Unfortunately telling a guy you’re looking for a relationship can be the equivalent of telling him you’re already taken — he’s either gonna respect it or treat it like an obstacle. I think your plan to tell him how you feel is a good one, that way you can act accordingly rather than waste time if he’s not ready to date.

[RavVid]

keep on going as you are.